The blind date has changed stubble after stubble, but Meng Fei is still the same Meng Fei, and what remains unchanged is his bald head
For the post-90s generation who are almost the same age as me, "blind date" is a hurdle that many people will inevitably face after reaching this age group.
With the rapid development of the Internet, "blind date", which is popular with the people after dinner, is also evolving into more and more diverse forms, from the traditional matchmaker Red Lady who runs to every household in the village for many years, to the blind date variety show of local television stations, to the "Save the Elderly Second Dimension" on social platforms today, and more social Apps with "heterosexual dating" as the selling point. In the face of young people of the right age who hold different emotional concepts in different eras, blind dates, which are quite exquisite social issues, are also upgrading with the times.
We are also old fans of the sophomore year
As one of the largest gathering places for domestic secondary users, Station B also launched a blind date variety show last year, called "90 Marriage Agency". After the broadcast, the evaluation was not bad, with a user rating of 9.1 points on the site and a cumulative number of 230 million views. The positioning of this show is designed to help the post-90s find 90 points of love. Focus on single men and women after the 90s, with an equal and positive attitude, explore and show healthy intimate relationships.
Let's start with my first impressions of the show. If you are with the idea of watching the "two-dimensional concentration identification of large-scale same-sex dating platforms" and click into this variety show, then you will most likely be disappointed and leave. Because from the overall guest selection of the show, the packaging design concept, it is really not "two-dimensional" at all.
The flow of the program is designed as the mode of the main line of the game, 32 male guests according to the topics they want to discuss with the female guests in depth, in the interests, values, past, future, four main line rooms to make a choice, the female guests after admission, the same can only choose a main line room in the male guests, for one-to-many interactive conversation. If after the conversation, the male and female guests look at each other and choose each other at the same time, they can enter the next level and conduct the "ultimate love trial" of 1V1 in-depth communication, and then both parties are more satisfied with each other, they can choose to successfully hold hands. And if in the early "love trial", the female guest fails to complete the match with the male guest, then like the game, there will be a chance to "restart", similarly, the male guest also has a chance to "sell the number to confess", directly with the female guest for the "ultimate love trial", once it fails, it will be eliminated and leave.
In terms of form, this show of Station B is indeed different from the traditional blind date variety show. Judging from the decorations such as the arcade machine arranged on the spot, it is indeed trying to narrow the distance between the younger generation and the blind date program, through the distinction between different theme rooms, coupled with the internal "talk" arrangement, so that male and female guests can participate in the interaction between the two sides in a relatively relaxed form and narrow the distance between each other.
But in the whole process, the show did not add any design with "two-dimensional" attributes, and the audience imagined that the male and female guests wore strange costumes, talked to each other's favorite dramas or anime characters, and "90 Marriage Agency" did not introduce any topics or activities about "two-dimensional" in the program from beginning to end, unless the male and female guests took the initiative to talk about their "two-dimensional" attributes. In most cases, you will not realize that this is a variety show created by Station B, a platform that starts with a two-dimensional culture.
Not only is the program not enough "two", but the guests participating in the program are also not "two".
These male and female guests, who are generally from the first-tier cities in the north, Shanghai and Guangzhou, are not the fat houses who stay at home all day to watch animation and play games as expected by the audience, but the veritable back wave. Each is brightly dressed, the appearance of the figure is not to say that the word "fat house" has nothing to do with it, and some of them have simply reached the level that they can immediately make their debut in groups. When it comes to origin and experience, it is also generally different from the social animals who work overtime in front of the screen and lead close to the "low guarantee" salary, not returning from overseas study, or the financial industry practitioners, self-employed small bosses and other post-wave representatives, and even former e-sports professional players, the popular Rapper and other "new" human beings, highlighting a "detached from the masses" development route, so that most ordinary people watching the show feel the difference in the world.
Looking at the whole show, the concentration of "two-dimensional" is the highest, and I am afraid that only the first female guest of the first program, Han Xiao, smiled. High-value two-dimensional housewife, three pit players, Lilith game planning, love to play "original god", wearing a bad JK uniform, single reason written "men will only affect the speed of my drawing knife", so only with the "paper man" to fall in love, self-introduction video also specially made into the style of "P5", a scene has attracted the attention of many male guests.
In addition to her, after most of the male and female guests appeared on the scene, the first impression left on the audience was probably difficult for people to associate with the three words "two-dimensional". The show also lacks the performance of the overall post-90s generation differences, which has caused a lot of controversy for "90 Marriage Agency". In the eyes of many viewers, these handsome men and women do not have the qualifications to represent the overall diversity of the post-90s, and even suspect that the entire show is a show, in order to help the back waves "suck fans", after all, everyone has attached their own social platform account information when introducing themselves.
Controversies similar to "de-quadraticization" can be seen almost everywhere in the activities and programs created by B station in the past two years. Today's B station is developing in a more diversified direction, getting rid of the limitations of the previous two-dimensional small circle, hoping to absorb more diverse young users and make them the audience of B station.
But what I want to say is that as far as the variety show "90 Marriage Agency" is concerned, in fact, whether there is a two-dimensional attribute is not important in itself. As a blind date dating program, the guests participating in the program, even if they are two-dimensional users with explosive concentrations, in the context of "blind date", the second dimension as a hobby is not enough to summarize all aspects of a person, just like the four main lines set by the program group, values and concepts of the past and the future, compared to hobbies, the proportion of a blind date program will inevitably be more. Most young people in the process of making friends or blind dates, will use the same interests and hobbies to cut into, looking for common topics, but the final determination of whether they can come together is still to discuss and run into each other on the three views.
In this regard, "90 Marriage Agency" really did a good job. Although its guests do not represent the group portraits of the post-90s, the views they output in the show and the topics they discuss have a high degree of fit with the problems that the post-90s are facing in the workplace and romantic relationships in reality. And the program does not guide the speeches and judgments of male and female guests through various so-called "emotional experts" like the former TV station blind date, but gives male and female guests more space for discussion, to express their own opinions, and after the collision of views, it is easy to give people an illusion that they are actually watching a debate competition.
Or take the first female guest Han Xiao's program performance as an example. As mentioned earlier, many male guests showed good feelings after seeing her for the first time, coupled with the attributes of the two-dimensional otaku, she also attracted the attention of many bullet screen audiences.
As the first female guest to appear, Han Xiao, who chose the "Values" room, asked the male guests the first question he asked was "whether to accept Dink". If you usually pay more attention to the discussion of marriage and love issues between young men and women on the Internet, you naturally know that this is the most commonly involved problem when talking about romantic relationships after the 90s, and it will inevitably be quarrelsome every time.
Among the male guests on the scene, there are also many people who cannot accept the concept of Dink. One of the male guests who spoke believed that he had good external conditions and was very eager to see children who looked the same as him grow up healthy. Han Xiao retorted that he had been distracted too much energy from work and life, and hoped to spend his few personal time on things he liked, rather than taking care of children. Moreover, Han Xiao believes that giving birth to a child is actually 100% of women bearing pain, while men are only providing part of the financial support and emotional comfort, hoping that male guests can empathize. This is actually one of the most common ideas about the multi-child policy among female netizens on the Internet Chinese today. Then a male guest said that raising children is the continuation of human civilization, and Han Xiao directly replied that "the continuation of civilization is related to me, so it is a bit of moral kidnapping".
Objectively speaking, the dialogue between the above male and female guests is indeed the most commonly expressed opinion of many young people when discussing Dink. They have their own basis, and it is difficult to say that you specifically support one side, because the views of any party have certain truths, but they can also be regarded as a kind of thinking based on egoism, and cannot be absolutely rational and objective.
The fierce collision of similar views is happening almost every moment in the show "90 Marriage Agency". This also makes the successful "hand-holding" in the show more confusing and valuable.
You can see in this show that successful and independent older young women think under the proposition of "trying to make themselves better"; on the other hand, you can also see the uneasiness or admiration of male guests on the field when facing such independent strong women. You can see how ordinary social animals from single-parent families, after reaching a tacit understanding with male guests on common interests and hobbies, finally have no chance to appear because of the differences in their family composition. This combination of diversity and difference can always make the next "love trial" of the show bring enough freshness and more thinking to the guests and the audience.
Coupled with the unique bullet screen culture of Station B, in fact, while watching such a blind date show, you are also exchanging and discussing each other's views on love and life through the bullet screen, and more audiences from different living environments, different occupations and different age levels from all over the world, and the bullet screen will always have a fierce discussion on the performance of some guests on the field and their views - I think this is a good thing, the process of ideological collision is often more important than the final result.
What is more interesting is that when many parties argue, Meng Fei, director of the marriage agency, and three other emotional mentors will play their role as past people and professional emotional consultants, and add a more rational and objective mature bystander perspective to the views of men and women colliding with each other, so as to answer some of the audience's doubts.
To some extent, such face-to-face direct communication and opinion output, compared with the traditional form of blind date in the past, can more trigger the audience's thinking about the current young people's concept of love. Getting rid of the fixed form of traditional blind date programs, without the preaching of the older generation, the space for guests and audiences to discuss naturally becomes more free. This is the advantage of "90 Marriage Agency" as a new-age blind date show, which emphasizes the collision of views rather than the result of the final hand-holding or not.
Of course, there are undeniably some problems with the show, such as you can clearly perceive that in order to show a certain program effect, the guests sometimes make some unreasonable choices, or the frequent appearances in the show, and each time it is embarrassing to make people play the implanted ads. As a certain variety show, "90 Marriage Agency" has the common disease of almost all domestic variety shows - content distortion, but fortunately, this distortion is only manifested in part of the "show" link, the views and issues discussed by the program itself are indeed worthy of attention, and it is indeed in line with the reality that young people generally have social anxiety and emotional anxiety.
At the very least, it's much more harmonious than the gender antagonisms we usually see on some social platforms. When people can calmly sit down and discuss some issues in real life, it is always a good thing. The openness of the network and the distance between people opened by the network cable amplify the various emotions that people carry in communication. At this time, having a relatively private space and a relatively sincere and inclusive discussion environment is extremely precious.
Although it has once again been defined as "de-quadraticization", it is undeniable that the "90 Marriage Agency" of Station B allows us to see the more advanced and mature concepts of the post-90s in the face of feelings and marriage problems.
Then, even if it is not "two" enough, the old two-dimensional elements can actually try to accept its existence.