After a long time, I understood that the so-called growth is to be more and more able to accept yourself as you are, and to get along better with your lonely self, lost self, and frustrated self, and accept it, and then face it.
——Lu Sihao, "May someone accompany you to the turmoil and displacement"
In the first half of life, we always walk with many people, and the closest of them are often our own parents.
From the birth of the child, the parents have always existed in the image of the child's solid dependence and supporting arms, so that the first half of the child's life is stable and smooth.
However, the law of nature is to be born and die, accidents are always unpredictable, always being cared for and growing up children, are you really ready to face the difficulties of life alone?
Time flies, and every day is considered the last
Treat each day as if it were the last, because you don't know which tomorrow or the accident will come first. As Asian parents, if they are really unfortunate enough to encounter such an accident, they are probably most worried about their children.
The Japanese film "Miso Yu of The Little Flower", based on true events, tells the story of the love of Asian parents for their children. Chie, a mother with terminal cancer, began teaching her 4-year-old daughter to learn to cook in order for her daughter Xiaohua to live well in her absence.
Qianhui said: "Money, power, status, property, I have nothing. After thinking about it, I could only teach her to cook and do housework, so that she could live every day seriously, even if she was alone..."
In 2008, Qianhui completed the last journey of her life accompanied by her family. Before she left, she taught Ah Hua the most precious "legacy". The family also completed the book "Children who can cook can live wherever they go" to pass on love to more people.
I am willing to deliver to you the full trust
On an ordinary morning, her father's phone call made He Qian feel mixed. On the phone, she learned that her father and mother were going to fly to other provinces to study, and before boarding the plane, she called the phone, and her father told He Qian the corresponding passwords for all bank card passbooks in the family and the storage location of other property in the family.
Father said: "This boarding, the two principals of the family must go together, in case something happens, you do not know how to deal with it at home, Dad is worried that you can't get the money alone and worry that you will be deceived, even if there is a one in ten thousand possibility, I want to tell you how to deal with it in advance." ”
For her father's sudden trust, He Qian did not dare to imagine such an accident, but in fact, her father had already given her the ability to live alone in the process of cultivating her.
Since she was a child, her father has taught her to study independently, do housework independently, purchase independently, communicate with people independently, let her have several meals every week, go to the homes of relatives and friends every New Year to visit the New Year, bargain to let her take over, cultivate her ability to make money, and finally let her learn to manage money and take care of herself...
Although He Qian did not want to imagine such an unexpected coming, based on the cultivation of her parents, she knew that she had the courage and ability to live a stable and smooth life without her parents.
This is probably the best love and protection that every pair of parents sincerely hopes to give to their children.
Separation is inevitable, and precautions are necessary
Lao She said: "People, even if they live to be eighty or ninety years old, they can still be a little childish with a mother." ”
Seventy or eighty years old and mothers are really rare, so as a parent, let the child become an independent person as soon as possible, it has become the most important thing.
Loving children is not about giving them a destination, but about nourishing them for their life's journey.
The love of parents for their children must point to separation, so may the child be independent as soon as possible in this love, be strong as soon as possible, and eventually become a person who makes parents happy to leave.
May the parents of the world bring to their children as Li Ronghao sang in the song " Mom and Dad gave me no more and no less, enough for me to run in this era, enough for me to live."