Behind the children who do not love to read, there are always these 4 kinds of parents, ruining the potential of the child's life
A person's interest in reading can be cultivated
However, improper methods are likely to backfire
Parents must pay attention
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Many mothers in life have such troubles
It is to cultivate children's interest in reading and help children develop the habit of reading
But they often feel overwhelmed
That is, I don't know how to accompany my children, and I don't know what books to choose to read better
Actually, the answer is simple
Since it is to help children cultivate their interest in reading, it is necessary to understand their children's preferences first
Find books that match your child's interests, age, and reading ability
In addition, children with different personalities will also have different reading performances
We often see such scenes
A child of the same age, one may only be able to look at books superficially, for books with more words
They tend to act very disgusted
On the other hand, the other can not only recognize most of the words, but also be able to connect with the pictures and actively string together the story
For them, reading is undoubtedly much easier and more enjoyable
So why is that?
It is because their reading ability is high and low
As a parent, you want to help your child develop an interest in reading
To improve your reading ability, you must find the right way
The following pits, parents must not step on
01
Jump to conclusions about your child easily
I often hear some moms say
I also want my child to read, but he is not born with that material
Otherwise, if the child doesn't like it, what can I do?
In fact, many times, it is precisely because of this attitude of parents that children miss the opportunity to cultivate
I've always thought that it's important to make children really fall in love with reading
Not choosing a book is not a problem
It's also not a problem if you can't afford to buy books without money
The biggest problem is that parents jump to conclusions prematurely, and early assume that children can't like to read
Then make excuses for yourself so that you can naturally give up the cultivation of your child
Thus missing the optimal period of cultivation
In general, the sooner parents expose their children to reading
Through storytelling, let children read picture books and other means, let children realize the joy of reading
The sooner the child falls in love with it
Such scenes are often seen in life
You spread a book in front of the child, but he doesn't look at it, and without hesitation, he pushes it away to find another toy
At this time, some parents feel that they must respect their children's choices
You can't force the child, so you give up
But other parents, although they also respect their children's refusal
But they didn't give up at once
They will find more interesting books and put them in front of their children from time to time, and as long as the children are willing to pick them up and look at them, they will be satisfied
It is precisely because of this that children will slowly become fond of books from the beginning of the glance and the eyes
Finally fall in love with reading
There is a British proverb: "Rome was not built in a day"
As a parent, if you want to cultivate your child's interest in reading, you must be a little more patient
Don't jump to conclusions about your child too soon
Learn to guide children little by little and slowly stimulate their interest
As long as you stick to it day by day, I believe that one day your child will fall in love with reading
02
Too much of a rush
There are very few things in the world that happen immediately
Especially for reading
Maybe for a long time, you won't see the effect of it
It will neither make your math tests immediately high, nor will it make your language level stand out immediately
Because of this, many parents feel it
Perhaps it is more cost-effective to let children go to training classes than to cultivate their children's interest in reading
After all, in life, we hear it often
Whoever has a child who has enrolled in a training course at an institution in the summer vacation has risen sharply after the start of school
And there will be no one at all, because I have read a few more books
Shine in the exam
Many times, faced with such a choice
Parents, of course, feel very indifferent to reading
In fact, reading this thing is a lifelong benefit
When I was in my junior year of high school, I was almost not brushing questions or endorsing books every day
A lot of times I feel exhausted
But whenever I see my favorite book on the shelf, I tell myself
"Only if I persevere, when I sprint past, I will have time to read my favorite books."
It is this interest in reading
Let me grit my teeth and stick to the boring exams
Finally, I was admitted to the university of my choice
After joining the work, the pressure of life suddenly increased a lot
As a newcomer, I often feel very confused and confused, and even many times, I have fallen ill because I am overwhelmed
In those days, it was also books that gave me the courage to cheer up and gradually found my own direction
As a parent, remember that life is a long-distance running race
What to do, what to like, be sure not to rush
Developing a child's interest in reading is like feeding a cow
One day, it will reward you with sweet milk
Become the child's spiritual strength and provide unlimited nourishment for the child's life
03
Full of utilitarian purposes
The purpose of reading is to nourish people's hearts and enrich people's spiritual connotations
Many times, it has absolutely nothing to do with worldly utilitarianism
But in life, there are many parents
I like to look at reading with utilitarian purposes
I have seen such a scene downstairs in the community
A grandfather leads his little grandson for a walk in the yard
Grandpa asked the grandson
"What does your baby want to do when he grows up?"
The little boy said very innocently, full of fantasy
"I want to open a bookstore where I can read many, many books every day"
As a result, the grandfather was very dissatisfied and frowned
"Now the bookstore is not good, can not earn money, the baby to change one"
Listening to the conversation between the two grandfathers, I was very dismissive
Many times, adults like to measure everything against worldly interests
As everyone knows, for children, such a standard is tantamount to a stifling
As a parent, when hearing that children love books
When we want to pursue a career related to reading, we don't have to pour a basin of cold water on it
On the one hand, it is because children's minds will continue to change as they grow
Just because he said he wanted to open a bookstore today doesn't mean he'd do it in the future
Parents really don't need to be too quick to make a quick profit
On the other hand, such suppression will also make the child's soul cast an early shadow on the world
On the contrary, it will hinder the child's mental development, which will just make the child lose interest in reading
04
I always feel that it is not about myself
I believe that many parents have such an experience
When the child is very young
When you accompany your child to read, or simply read to your child, then the child is very interested and willing to read
But once you let him see it for himself, read it for himself, the child is very resistant
Why?
In fact, many times, children will be like this
It is because they are full of dependence on their parents
Rather than studying, they prefer their parents to accompany them and look at their parents. Listen to your parents
However, in life, there are often many parents who mistakenly think
Reading is a child's business
Either I hate reading too much, or I think that my child's books are too childish to read
Always completely impatient to spend time with children
Even if the child takes the initiative to ask for companionship, the parents will lose their temper because of impatience
The more times, the more children naturally do not like to read
Truly emotionally intelligent parents know how to patiently accompany their children
They will familiarize themselves with the contents of the book in advance, and then cleverly add their own explanations and imaginations to better attract children's interests
When they finish a book, they will patiently communicate their feelings with their children
In this way, children not only develop the habit of reading, but also develop the ability to think
As a parent, please remember that your attitude determines the quality and effectiveness of your child's reading
If you have the above four mindsets, remember to correct them in time
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