The tighter the sand in your hand, the faster it will drain.
For many parents, it is much easier for their children to go to school. However, after the child enters the campus, it will also cause parents to worry, some parents are worried that the child is not good at learning and just wants to play, some are worried about the child's early love, and even worry that the child is bullied by classmates...
Therefore, parents want to know what their children are doing and thinking every day, and they are eager to drill into their children's small brains to find out.
However, the parents' "bitterness" is easy for the child to have disgust, and the parents think that this is a manifestation of love, but in the eyes of the child, it is a kind of bondage.
So now many children in order to "fight" with their parents, after all, let parents "peep" their privacy, think of a lot of clever tricks. It's just that some methods are too pediatric in the eyes of parents, just as the so-called "you have Zhang Liangji, I have a wall ladder".
1. Primary school girls learn English hard, just to prevent parents from "peeping"
Lily is a schoolboy who is just as lively and cute as any other child of the same age and has many good friends at school. But for Lily, the mention of her mother gives her a headache.
It turned out that Lily let her parents buy her a mobile phone after going to school, although at first Lily's parents did not want their children to start using mobile phones so early, but Lily thought that the classmates had mobile phones, and they should also have them, otherwise they would not fit in.
Lily's mother bought her a mobile phone for her daughter's sake. But ever since her daughter began to use her mobile phone to contact her classmates, her mother began to worry.
Because in Lily's mother's view, the child is still too young, the online world is strange, and it is easy to distract the child. Lily's mother is worried that her daughter usually makes bad friends, and she is also worried that her early love will affect her academic performance.
Lily's mother, like all parents, believes that the child must be based on homework at this stage, although she is not opposed to children making friends, but every time she sees Lily holding up her mobile phone and chatting with her classmates, Lily's mother is very worried.
Lily's mother wanted to see what her daughter talked to her classmates every day, because she thought that her daughter was still too young to distinguish between right and wrong, so Lily's mother asked to check her daughter's mobile phone every day.
Although this is natural for Lily's mother, she is Lily's guardian and has the right to protect her daughter, and she needs to always understand her daughter's thoughts, so that she is protecting her daughter. But in Lily's view, her mother's practice is "peeking" into her privacy.
So Lily, in order to avoid her mother from continuing to spy on herself, deliberately used English every time she chatted with her classmates. Lily is only a primary school student with a very limited level of English. However, in order to prevent her mother from "peeping", Lily would practice English every day. Lily believes that this will make her mother retreat, and she will no longer have to live under her mother's supervision.
2, the mother found that her daughter used English chat and dialogue, but she cried and laughed
When Lily's mother found out that her daughter began to chat with her classmates in English, she realized that her daughter was defending herself. Although it was a little sad, when I thought of my daughter's clumsy and cute approach, I couldn't help but cry and laugh.
Lily chats with her classmates in English every day, and even her classmates are tired of coping, and even hope that Lily still chats with her Chinese as before, because some of the words she sent cannot be understood by her classmates, and it is more difficult to type English letters.
But Lily insisted on chatting in English because she didn't want her mother to know what she had said to her classmates. In Lily's cognitive range, her mother does not know English, so she and her classmates can not understand her mother in English, so that she can no longer monitor Lily.
But Lily did not expect at all, in fact, although Lily's mother has not touched English for many years, but her education is relatively high, and she also studied English hard, so Lily's English conversations, her mother suddenly understood.
Lily's current English level is still very limited, and some of the grammar of her english chat conversations is not correct at all, and the meaning is clear at a glance, so Lily is not embarrassed by her mother at all. Moreover, as long as you press the content of the dialogue, you can see the translation, so Lily's approach is very childish to her mother.
But when Lily's mother discovered this phenomenon, she also had to think about a question, why did her daughter and her classmates talk so well, willing to say anything, but usually at home but did not want to say a word to themselves, and even guarded themselves everywhere?
Later, Lily's mother realized that she was indeed a little too strict with her daughter, and her love for her daughter was beyond doubt, even a little too much. Lily's mother wants to give her daughter the best life and wants her daughter to grow up safely and smoothly, so she basically spends all her thoughts on her daughter. Lily's food, clothing, shelter, and usual schedule are decided by her mother, lily's mother thinks that this is good for her daughter, but in Lily's view, this kind of love makes her feel suffocated.
Although Lily is only a primary school student, she already has the ability to think independently. She hopes to be able to choose whatever she does, rather than doing everything according to her mother's arrangement. So Lily began to practice English hard, hoping to get rid of her mother's shackles in this way and fight for her own freedom.
But Lily was still too young to realize that these practices of hers were just carving insects in the eyes of her parents. And what Lily is experiencing now is also a true portrayal of the hearts of thousands of children.
3, netizens have the same feeling, it is recommended to use Morse password
After this incident was exposed, it resonated with many children of the same age. They began to leave messages on the Internet to express their feelings, and most children thought that their parents were too strict with their discipline, even to the point where they could not breathe.
There are also children who give Lily advice, thinking that Lily should not use English, because most parents have learned English, which has no effect at all, so it is recommended that Lily use Morse code or code.
In fact, there are indeed many children who try to learn morse codes in order to escape the discipline of their parents, and some will discuss with their friends to use coded dialogue, so that parents do not know what their children are talking about.
In fact, the child knows very well that the parents love themselves, but they cannot accept this suffocating love.
Everything is too late, parents in the child blindly pay at the same time, but also need to master the scale, even if it is a parent-child relationship also need to maintain a proper distance, to give the child some independent space to think and make choices, this is also a manifestation of love for children.
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