Do you really know how to read parents? Reading is not a way of learning, but a way of life

Why read to your child?

Many parents have a utilitarian heart and hope to improve their children's language performance. Of course, this is not to blame, and reading does have this function.

However, if it is only for this purpose, it is also too violent, which represents the value of reading, which is seriously underestimated by the vast majority of us.

Reading should be elevated to the level of lifestyle, not limited to one way of learning.

Why?

Because in my opinion, one of the most important purposes that parent-child reading needs to achieve is to internalize reading into the child's conceptual system in the form of a lifestyle, so that he can accompany the book for a lifetime, and continue to output infinite energy for him, rather than the knowledge or learning methods that parents teach their children in a book.

If you agree with this, but are struggling with no way, here are my three suggestions, which are actually three steps:

1. Reading interest construction.

Interest building cannot rely on temptation, but on the environment, starting with curiosity being stimulated, and finally the desire for knowledge is satisfied. There is only one goal in the interest building stage: to make children fall in love with parent-child reading.

How to make children fall in love with parent-child reading? It's important not to let parent-child reading carry too many functions. Parent-child reading is not for literacy, not for remembering idioms, not for any comprehension ability, expression ability, forget all these utilitarian parts, and enjoy a good parent-child time. Parent-child reading is a good time for children, but also a good time for parents, it is your opportunity to enjoy the moment, do not let any utilitarianism and purpose affect you and your child to enjoy a good parent-child time.

The construction of reading interest requires parents to create a reading environment, let go of the burden of learning and cognition, and enjoy a good parent-child time with their children, and children will naturally fall in love with reading if they fall in love with this time.

2. Cultivation of reading ability.

Abilities are not taught, but grown. The growth of reading ability does not require the guidance of parents, but depends on the accumulation of children themselves.

When the child has a strong interest in reading and has a certain amount of literacy, what parents have to do is to accompany the child to choose a good book. Make good use of the library's resources, and you don't need to buy a lot of books. Guide children to roam freely in the ocean of knowledge, and parents should be an observer, questioner and listener.

Don't give less guidance. I've met many people who don't read books themselves, but always want to pass on to their children the methods of reading, which are just an unverified idea of reading. For many parents, as a person who does not read, you actually have no way at all, don't you? (Just kidding, no offense, this is actually one of the mistakes I've made myself.) ）

Children are born learners, they know what to learn and how to learn. For example, you know how difficult it is to learn a language, and a child becomes proficient in a language by the age of three, the mother tongue, just by virtue of his own ability and completely zero foundation.

So, if you don't have parenting knowledge, don't blindly guide it is an important part of building your child's ability. Continuing to focus on maintaining a strong interest in reading, plus not too much guidance and intervention, the development of children's reading ability is a matter of course.

3. Grow together.

Growing up with your child will be the most valuable asset you can give to your child.

What kind of relationship is a parent-child relationship? Not a friendship relationship, not a teacher-student relationship, but a teammate relationship. Teammate relationship means that if you don't grow up with your child, sooner or later become an obstacle to your child's growth, and passively become your child's opponent.

In short, parents as the person in charge of children's education, parent-child reading is an area where you can really bring benefits to children. Don't try to turn yourself into a child's teacher, that is a very professional skill, not you can do it well in a little time, more importantly, children do not lack good teachers, lack of good parents.

To be a good parent, you just need to fall in love with your children.