Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: divorce, lover, marriage
Article length: 4600 words
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Time is rushing is life, and in a blink of an eye, spring and autumn are fleeting, and the past is like the wind.
In the hearts of some people who have come here, marriage is like a process from a fairy tale to a fable. Having experienced too much distress and sadness, many people have found that mutual affection is the most distant journey in the world.
There is a saying that love can't survive time. The older you get, the heavier the love becomes, and for sure, there's a reason for that.
In one marriage case, a woman once recounted this feeling:
I was cornered by my husband and we lived together for 15 years. The first few years were fine, but in the last 4 years, I have almost lived like a year.
When we first fell in love, we were in love. After marriage, even if the family conditions are not good, we can be considered to be in love.
I don't know if I'm getting old too fast or my husband's heart is getting too fast. In the 11th year of marriage, he had a little lover, treated her as another wife, pampered her in every way, and spent three days together...
Once, love was the thing I cared about the most, and it was impossible to give it to others in this life.
But then I gradually became numb, not because I didn't care about love, but because I simply didn't have the ability to change my husband. Even if I often burst into tears, I can only work hard for the sake of life.
My husband thinks I'm old, not as pretty as that woman. I thought that this life was like this, and fate was like this, and I had to accept it.
But a little over a year ago, at the age of 41, I met a man who made me believe in love again. His presence adorned my dreams and enriched my vision of love...
First, love will make emotional women embarrassed
Next, I will tell you about this lady's marriage case.
In the tone of this lady's voice, I will tell the truth, and I will only sort it out slightly.
I don't know where to start, my heart is heavy now. There are some emotional choices that were once thought to be simple, but they are slowly becoming less simple.
My marriage is still going on, but love has come out of it.
Now there are 2 choices in front of me, one is to spell out a future for love. Try to catch the tail of youth, bravely divorce your husband, marry the man who really loves me, and spend his life with him.
Another option is to continue the love affair, and the well water between the husband and wife does not violate the river water. My husband was looking for his little wife, and I was with my lover. We continue to live together, and no one cares about the things in the relationship.
I know that the second option is a more secure one. I am almost 42 years old, my family is still stable, and the children are very competitive in their studies. No matter from which point of view, divorce is the next strategy, very irrational.
I'm more inclined to keep that love without divorcing.
But he (the lover) did not agree, and often cried to me, even pleading. He said we were truly in love and there was nothing we couldn't do.
He begged me for a divorce many times, and every time I politely refused, he said I didn't have him in my heart. In the past 1 year or so, we have broken up several times, and after dividing and merging, we have loved more and more deeply.
I have a very sensitive heart to love, he gave me the love that I most desire as a woman, and I have been deeply touched by him.
I know he loves me, he knows me better than my husband, but I can't let go of marriage and family.
I told him clearly: It's good that we've been getting along like this, and when my 2 children finish their studies in the future, I'll divorce and go with you. Let's find a place where no one knows and live a peaceful and happy life.
In a maximum of 10 years, we can be together forever. Even though the wait was a bit long, I was confident about that day.
But some time ago he showed me a showdown, and he said he couldn't wait that long. If I don't divorce my husband as soon as possible, he breaks up with me and never contacts again.
He forced me to choose one of the two, and I was embarrassed.
Second, for the sake of love, she plans to make a desperate bet
That night I invited him (lover) to dinner, and they said a lot of heartfelt things about their future plans, which was a frank exchange.
He asked me: You know that your husband has long since stopped loving you, why are you still with him, what is wrong with divorce? You know that we are truly in love with each other, so why should you watch me indifferent to your heartache?
I said: I have promised you many times, I really love you. At most 10 years, when my family affairs are over, I will go away with you. If I'm indifferent to you, I won't be with you for that long, so don't you push me?
He said: This is all your excuse, more than 1 year, you have played me so hard. You just want to use me as a foil that you can get rid of at any time, if you are really willing to live with me, you will not let me wait so long for you. You think about our age, people in their 40s, 10 years who can afford to wait, I might wait for you?
I said: So what do you want to do? Are you going to make me give up my family and fly away with you?
He said: It's not a question of what I ask you to do, it's a question of what you want to do. If you really want to live with me, don't need me to say more, you have divorced him. If you don't want a divorce, then prove that you want to break up with me...
I had mixed feelings that day, and I was left speechless by his question.
Even if I love him very much, I always feel ashamed of him. Seeing his sad and depressed expression, I unconsciously shed tears.
He's right, what man would wait 10 years for a married woman's 1 sentence? We're all in our 40s, so if we wait another 10 years, who knows what will happen?
Love can always be romantic, but unfortunately, I suddenly found that youth is too short.
If we are all in our 20s, it is not terrible to wait for 20 years, and there is always hope for the future. But standing at the turning point of life in your 40s, you may not be able to afford to wait for 5 years...
I have had similar experiences with him, both of whom have been heartbroken by marriage, and understand that there are many hurtful lies hidden in love.
At that time, his wife had a lover, divorced him fiercely, and abandoned him and his children. I was a little luckier than him, and although my husband also had lovers, he did not abandon me for lovers.
But remembering the hurt my husband has done to me in the past few years, thinking of the emotional scars in our marriage, my heart has shaken again.
I understand that if I don't take this opportunity, I may regret it in the future. For the sake of love and the future, I had to make a desperate bet, and gradually gave up the idea of sticking to marriage...
Third, 2 life choices, more and more entangled
Love does not need to make any sense, the intention is enough. Let's be honest and honest, and that's the best way to talk.
It was that night that I changed my insistence for more than 1 year. I should live for myself, it's not easy to meet someone who loves me at this age, and I don't want to wait any longer. I'm divorcing my husband, the sooner the better.
There is nothing wrong with sticking to love, I don't have to blindly wronged myself and my husband to continue to get along. I have long had enough of him, instead of living in a loveless marriage, it is better to let go and grasp this love.
I promised him: You give me another 3 months and I will find a way to divorce my husband. If you can't wait these 3 months, then let's break up.
He cried and hugged me and said he loved me for the rest of his life, 3 months of course can wait. We agreed with each other that when I got divorced, we would fly away and never give up in this life.
From the day I promised him, the pressure in my heart grew, like a stone pressed on my heart. While full of longing, he is worried and often anxious.
I've made the final decision, but I don't know how to open my mouth to my husband for the time being. My husband didn't know I had a lover too, and I didn't dare to guess how he would react after he knew.
Those days were like torment, the words were not dare to say on the lips, and 2 months had passed unconsciously. Once, I tentatively asked my husband, is it okay for us to divorce?
He asked me what to ask, as if he were innocent.
I couldn't bear to tell him that I had found a lover too, and could only answer him that our marriage was meaningless. I should fulfill you, divorce you can marry her, I want to live an easy life alone.
When I was in tears, my husband apologized to me.
He said: Don't be stupid, we have worshiped heaven and earth, I will not abandon you, and the child cannot live without a mother. You don't talk about divorce again, I'll try to be nice to you. I'm sorry for you, but I still have a conscience not to divorce you.
I cried, and I wanted to say it again and again, and I couldn't bear to say what I wanted to say again. I said in my heart that my husband hurt me a thousand times in love. But in life, he still cares about me and takes care of me.
I got tangled again, and the 3-month engagement was only the last 1 month. 2 life choices make me more and more embarrassed.
Fourth, at the last moment, resolutely divorce
In the past, I thought things in relationships were simple, but now they are getting less and less simple. I am reluctant to abandon my marriage and family, and I am reluctant to give up that hard-won love.
He and I share a common language and are genuinely in love with each other. Only by being brave enough to divorce can I truly come together with him and be with him forever.
But I have never been able to take the step of divorce, and some words are difficult to say to my husband. With the last month left before the agreement, I wanted him to give me a few more months of grace, but he didn't agree. He told me to divorce or break up...
At this point in the article, this marriage case is temporarily over, and the story comes from 5 months ago. As the woman spoke, she sighed several times, not knowing what to choose.
She can't accept anyone's persuasion and plans to have a showdown with her husband.
Sometimes, a woman's sensual psychology is unguessable. In the face of so-called love, clinging to it cannot listen to any truth.
The seemingly simple truth and logic of the clear-eyed person may be called love in her eyes. Desperate for love cannot be said to be wrong, but many people are really wrong in the end.
It wasn't until one day when she regretted her mistake that she realized she was naïve.
Before I write this, there is a small follow-up to this woman's marriage case, which comes from 1 week ago. Continue to speak in her tone, impartially, truthfully.
I know that the opportunity for love is fleeting, and while I am anxious, my temper is getting worse. Whenever I see my husband, I feel upset and often quarrel with him.
Because of the pressure, my husband and I quarreled. I proposed separation, and he gradually guessed that there was someone outside of me. In just 1 month, the husband and wife became enemies.
My husband asked me to admit that there was someone out there, but I couldn't admit it.
4 months ago, when he (the lover) proposed to break up again, I finally decided on a divorce. I am willing to leave my husband and be with you forever...
I called my husband and told him: You don't have to pretend to have a conscience, I can't get by with you, the divorce has fulfilled your wish, you live with your little wife, let's cut two paragraphs. I give you all the children and only take what belongs to me...
Yes, at the last moment of the marriage, both families came forward to persuade us not to divorce, but I made up my mind. Although my husband said that no matter what I did, he could forgive me, but I firmly divorced.
Fifth, marriage and love, walking and walking will understand
4 months ago, we divorced. For the sake of their respective faces, no one has debunked anyone. After the divorce, I owned a small house of 94 square meters, a 7-seater car, and my husband gave me more than 80,000 large house compensation.
Soon we were completely over and I was able to return to being single as I wished. Divorce equals a new beginning, and while I miss my children, there's nothing I can do about it.
For the rest of my life, I will live for myself, go away with the person I love the most, and follow him back to his hometown. I put happiness on him, but seek stability and be old.
But then things didn't go well, my house hung out for more than 2 months, and no one ever wanted it. It was exactly those 2 months that he often quarreled with me for a reason.
He began to lose his temper, saying that the price I proposed was too high, and that he had already shot it early in the morning, and that I was not sincere about following him.
I couldn't believe he could say such a thing. If I am not sincere, why should I divorce him?
My heart ached, and when I wasn't divorced, he cried and cried, trying to get away with it. When I got divorced, what he cared about most was not our love, but my house, my car.
He said that he wanted to go back to his hometown to start a business and give me a happy life with hard work. He said we were already a family and no one could hide our secrets.
But I think about it more than he does, I'm 43 years old, and I haven't even been to your hometown. You should at least let me go home with you and talk about hiding things.
During those days, I was entangled, and gradually saw through the so-called love. Although I loved him, his changes were so obvious that I had to guard against him.
I met a man who was going to buy my house that day and didn't tell him. When he came back, he quarreled with me, arguing that he beat me up.
After 2 years of acquaintance, my love was shattered. He even said, if you don't have sincerity, if you still treat me as an outsider, let's break up.
Many things in marriage and love are exchanged for heartache and tears, and you can understand it when you walk. It was all about this time, and he even used the method of breaking up to put pressure on me.
I don't know if I'm ridiculous or he's ridiculous, I understand it all after only 4 months of divorce. Thankfully it wasn't too late to break up.
Don't fall in love with someone who advises you to divorce
We broke up for almost a month, and I had already blocked him, but he often bothered me. He used to come to my door at night and knock on his knees in front of the door.
I often hid at home to cry without tears, regretting divorcing my husband. After the divorce, I walked in love, and unlike in my imagination, I want to remarry my husband...
At this point in the case, I don't know whether she and her ex-husband can remarry. If there is a follow-up in the future, it will be time to write a single article.
Regarding this case, I will not say the point of view, but only to tell the truth, and everyone who comes over has their own opinion. She really should be glad she wasn't married to a lover, that person wasn't worthy of her love.
In many marriages, many people have had this feeling: love is unfortunate, and the most common thing in marriage is entanglement. Marriage is unhappy, love is suffering.
The case has such a native emotional problem: after the woman is 40 years old, the marriage is not happy, do you want to decorate a luxurious dream for love?
In fact, the pursuit of love is of course OK, but women are older and often can't afford to lose. Even if you pursue love, don't be carried away by love anymore.
This is the price of being carried away by love in the journey of life, step by step. It is difficult to turn back if you go too far, and it is also a kind of happiness to turn around in time.
Some of the views in the marital relationship will never change, and a person can say that he loves you, but he will not force you to divorce in the name of love. This is not love, but selfish, self-serving behavior under the guise of love.
Everyone should understand that happiness is earned by themselves and is also managed by husband and wife. It cannot be said that divorce is wrong, but it must be wrong to divorce for a hypocritical person. I'd rather not have someone to love than to love the wrong person.
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