As parents, they always hope that their children can have a bright future when they grow up, and in order not to let their children lag behind other children, old fathers and mothers often hope that their children can go to school as soon as possible and learn more knowledge.
Kindergarten as the first step of the child into the learning career, parents are cautious in the choice of school, afraid that the child will not adapt. However, there is always a gap between the ideal and the reality, and the overall performance of some children after reaching kindergarten is very bad.
In fact, kindergarten life does not mean that children will be able to adapt to the age, if the children lack 4 abilities, then going to kindergarten is suffering for them.
The teacher said that the child was not suitable for kindergarten, and the parents felt angry and helpless
Lei Lei is the only child in the family, plus he is old and has children, so the family does not mention how much they spoil him, especially the grandparents, who are eager to hold him in the palm of their hands.
Over time, such doting has made the child become a little young master who has nothing to do, he doesn't have to do anything every day, just waiting for his grandparents to take care of it, it is no exaggeration to say that Lei Lei does not even want to do such a simple thing as washing his face, so let alone what to wear clothes and tie his shoelaces.
In this regard, the child's parents have also tried to communicate with the elders, after all, the child has been spoiled like this is not OK, see lei lei is going to kindergarten, but even the basic life skills have not yet, really too worrying, but the child's grandparents do not buy it at all, they think the child is to be spoiled.
As a result, the child had only been in kindergarten for less than a month, and the teacher confessed that she could not take good care of Lei Lei, or let the child go home temporarily and learn some basic skills again.
Although the teacher's words sound a little hurtful at first, it is not difficult to understand after understanding the reason for the incident.
The teacher said that the children need to be taken care of every day when they eat and dress and go to the toilet, and they have to manage more than 20 children in the class, and they simply do not have so much energy to take care of a person, in addition, Lei Lei always loses his temper, and he can't get along with other students in the class, so that not only the teacher is hard working, the child is not happy
Finally, the teacher also said bluntly with Lei Lei's father: "Kindergarten life is actually a test of students' abilities, if the children lack these 4 abilities, then going to kindergarten is suffering!" ”
So what are the four abilities that the teacher refers to?
The first is the simple ability to take care of yourself
Some basic self-care ability is what everyone should have, especially for children, parents should start from the basic training, do not feel that the child's grade is too small, everything should be taken care of more, but in fact, the more we do, the greater the difficulties that children will encounter in the future.
In fact, the most basic content, such as washing, dressing, eating, and simple housework, it is recommended that parents let children learn in advance, after all, we and teachers can not take care of children all the time, so in order to avoid embarrassment, these basic abilities are the right choice for children to have in advance.
The second is basic language narration skills
After the children go to kindergarten, they will meet many children, so how to achieve good communication with each other? Or how do you express your demands to the teacher?
The answer is to have basic language narration skills, if the child can not speak, or do not understand, his life can only be a mess.
The third is the ability to socialize in harmony with other children
If you want to gain a foothold in the kindergarten environment and get everyone's liking, in addition to basic communication skills are not enough, you must also have a certain degree of social skills, which may come from the influence of parents in addition to nature.
Parents need to set an example for their children at ordinary times, and observe their children's words and deeds, while giving them correct guidance, and when necessary, they can teach some small skills.
Finally, there is a certain amount of self-control
No matter how much constraint the outside world gives to the child is not enough, the most critical thing is that the child has a knowledge of what he is doing, knows what he is doing, and has certain principles and plans. If parents do not cultivate their children's self-control ability, I am afraid that the older the child, the more disorderly it is.
Kindergarten, as the main component of children's childhood, requires parents to bother
Kindergarten actually plays a very important role in the child's entire childhood, equivalent to the child's enlightenment stage, if we can not give the child the four abilities mentioned above, it is also a loss and harm to the child.
So parents have to bother more, in order to make the child's life path smoother and smoother, we must start from the details, and be strict!