Getting married and having children is a stage of life that every woman has to face, as the saying goes, "motherhood is just", but only those who have really experienced it really understand the heartache behind it. Before having children, every woman was a little princess and might be afraid of pain and bleeding. But when I gave birth to a child, I found that my ability to resist pressure was so strong.
Although the content of each mother's experience from pregnancy to raising a child is not exactly the same, there are some contents that almost every mother will experience.
Because Shengwa accepted too much herself, just because "she is a mother"
Before getting married, my friend Xiaomei was a typical urban white-collar worker, going in and out of high-end office buildings every day, wearing professional clothes and high heels, but all of this changed because she was pregnant and gave birth to a baby.
Xiaomei finally got pregnant at the urging of her family after 2 years of marriage, and xiaomei thought about it from the beginning of pregnancy, and used 2 months to lose weight after giving birth to a baby, and officially returned to work after 3 months to do it back to the white-collar elite.
The plan did not change quickly, Xiaomei's breast milk was very sufficient after the birth of the child, Xiaomei really could not bear to cut off the breast milk in advance in order to lose weight and go to work, so she could only take leave with the unit, did a suspension of pay, and then went back to work after the child was weaned.
In order to make breast milk sufficient and nutritious, Xiaomei does not refuse to eat and drink, so after giving birth to a child, not only did not lose weight but weight was fatter than before.
After experiencing the process of blocking milk and waking up at night to feed milk, the tortured Xiaomei has long lost her original spirit. Although I was very tired and sometimes irritable, I thought that I was a mother, and these little plums endured for the sake of my children.
What I didn't dare to do before I had a baby became a matter of course after becoming a mother
1) Regardless of the image when producing
Before having children, women will maintain their own image in front of outsiders and will not shout loudly. But when giving birth to a child, I can't take care of these at all, and the contractions and labor pains of the natural delivery make the mother forget the image, and even can't help but shout loudly, and every pregnant woman in the delivery room behaves differently, which is also accustomed to the medical staff.
2) Crying in pain after postpartum milk
Many mothers who have experienced it have said that the pain of giving birth to a child can be endured, but the pain when opening milk is really painful, especially for mothers who have been delivered by cesarean section, the time to breastfeed will be relatively slow, and after the massage of the prolactinator, the entire chest will rise like a stone.
Although I was in terrible pain, I thought that my child's breastfeeding was good for my body, so I could only hold my breath and feed. If you are stuck in the milk because of sleep pressure or touch, it will hurt even more.
3) Leakage of milk in public
This is the most embarrassing moment for many mothers, holding their children out to take public transportation, the children are suddenly hungry, and they can't make the children cry so hungry that they can only choose to breastfeed. If there is a mother and baby room, it is fine, but if it happens to be on the noisy bus or subway, you can only bear the shame of lifting up clothes to feed your child.
Many people lament that women grow up for the second time after giving birth to a child. Identity from a person to a mother, behind a weak baby needs to take care of themselves, the so-called mother is just this truth.
Being a mother is very hard, how can I make myself easier?
1. Ask your family to help
Although the process of having a child and breastfeeding is irreplaceable by others, other things can be shared by the family, especially the husband.
Give the father a little time to study, if the family can't help, you can ask the sister-in-law, the woman has not had children several times in her life, may wish to think of ways to be nice to herself.
2. Do a good job of psychological construction
From the beginning of pregnancy, you must be mentally prepared to know what difficulties you will face in the future, and even at what stage there will be problems. When you have this psychological preparation, when things really come, you will not be psychologically rejected, and the natural body will be able to accept it better.
Kojima would like to say:
Kojima was taught that her mother was very hard, only her mother was good in the world, she didn't understand it when she was young, and when she became a mother, she suddenly understood the meaning of these words.
Before there was no child, everyone was a proud little princess, who could not accept the accusations and criticisms of others, but after becoming a mother, no matter how hard it was, she could endure it, if she was not strong, the baby behind her could not protect, which is the greatness of the mother.