I never thought that such an ordinary profession as a kindergarten teacher could become the person who "grasped" the most family secrets.
Recently, a father complained that since the baby went to kindergarten, there are no secrets in the family. The teacher was clear about their family's situation, and even knew where he had a bag. That's really "pretty embarrassing"! Hahaha!
Once, he and the child's mother were talking, and the child's mother was in a hurry and blurted out: "If you can get over, you can pass, and if you can't get over, you can leave." "
Unexpectedly, when picking up the child the next day, the teacher talked to him and asked them to be cautious for the sake of the child. It's unbelievable.
This spit has poked at the laughter of countless netizens:
"It's the same, my son tells the teacher everything, and there is more than one teacher. Let the whole kindergarten teacher know that there is a little bit of ruin in our house";
"There was a baby in the third grade of elementary school, who expressed great trepidation because she had begun to write. In wa's eyes, my dad, my mom..."
"Don't tell your child the bank password, or the teacher will be the first to know"...
There are also kindergarten teachers who appear and say: "As a kindergarten teacher, I can responsibly tell you that this is the case." "
The comments section became an ocean of joy, and it was hard to laugh.
01. Why do children like to share little secrets with teachers?
Many parents have found that since kindergarten, children especially like to share small secrets with others, especially with teachers. Why?
Trust the teacher
Children like to share their daily routines with teachers, which shows that children trust teachers very much, which is actually a thing that parents are happy about.
You know, children who have just entered kindergarten, in an unfamiliar environment, to face unfamiliar teachers and classmates, most of them will appear a little cramped and uneasy, and some children will even have anxiety. It is not easy to quickly integrate into this new big group.
In such a situation, only those teachers who are fun and have patience with the child can gain the trust of the child.
Children are happy to share their family secrets with them, which is a manifestation of the child's trust in the teacher.
I feel like I've grown up
Many times, parents will refuse to communicate with their children on the grounds that "you are less in charge of adult affairs".
In the eyes of adults, children are still young, and some things can't help even if they know, it is better not to tell it. However, children do not think so, and with the germination of their self-awareness, they begin to have their own opinions and the desire to express their own opinions.
Since parents don't tell them, they secretly listen, then go and share it with teachers and classmates, and by the way, they can also "express" their opinions.
What bad eyes can a child have? It's just that I want to brush up on the sense of existence and get the approval of others.
02, how to deal with "small talk" children?
While it's a good thing that children are willing to share it with their teachers, it's not okay to say nothing without a bottom line. How should parents cope?
First, treat the child as an individual.
Sooner or later, children will grow up, and children have the right to know about the big and small things in the family. So, even if something happens that your child can't help, you can share it with them. However, we must pay attention to the way and method. Let children feel the respect and trust of their parents.
Like what:
Grandparents are sick, so children can also participate in the process of escorting;
When the whole family travels, you can arrange the itinerary with reference to the opinions of the children;
Dad and Mom quarreled, let the child be a "little referee", talk about who is wrong...
Allowing children to participate in family events not only enhances the relationship between parents and children, but also cultivates their sense of responsibility. Maybe their suggestions can surprise us.
Of course, such things as arguing in front of children should be avoided as much as possible, which is not conducive to the growth of children.
Second, tell your child that it is okay to share, but know how to keep the bottom line.
Be sure to tell your child what is going on in your daily life, which ones can be irrelevant and can be shared; which are related to your own and your family's secrets, and you must not tell others.
Don't blame your child for telling outsiders everything, because most parents don't tell their children in advance what they can't say. Like what:
In the face of strangers, can you reveal your home address, phone number, and parents' work? Of course not, what if the other person is a bad person?
Can mom and dad's income, hobbies, etc., be casually told to others? It's best not to, because it's mom and dad's privacy. If Mom and Dad go around telling people that you wet your bed when you're 5 years old, how do you feel?
Put your child in their shoes and they can understand what they can't just share.
Finally, don't be too harsh on your child.
After all, the child is still young, even if it is wrong, don't be too harsh, just correct it a few more times.
If even parents can't tolerate their children's mistakes, then who can tolerate and love them? You know, the love of parents is the strength of children to walk the world; and home is the child's eternal harbor.
Cherish the intimate time with your children now, after all, they will soon grow up.
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