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"Travelling with boyfriend for 1 week, we broke up"
When was the last time you went on a trip with a romantic partner? How long did we go out together?
Many people in love, will have some psychological shadows on the "travel with their partners", afraid that traveling once will expose the weakness of the relationship between two people, expose a lot of shortcomings in each other, and then affect the feelings of two people.
In fact, a trip can really help you test some of the contradictions hidden under the appearance of sweet feelings between the two of you.
Recently, a female reader left a message in the background, she said: go out on a trip for 1 week, after going back, she broke up with her boyfriend who had been in love for more than 1 year.
Why did you break up?
It turns out that the 1-week trip between female readers and boyfriends really exposed too many shortcomings in the boyfriend.
First: He has no responsibility and no opinion.
Two people go out to play together, 1 week to go to 2 cities, although the distance is not far, but the boyfriend has no planning at all; go out without travel planning, luggage does not bring a good change of clothes, and even washing supplies, have to go to the place to buy, or directly use the hotel inside.
Every time the female reader asks: where we live, what to eat, and which scenic spot to go to next, the boy will say: Casually, I don't care, I can do it, listen to you.
She listened to it every day, every time she went to a place, every time she wanted to eat.
Second: He is too self-conscious, selfish and inconsiderate.
When the two people went to the hotel together, the boy only cared about himself, rushed to take a shower first, and went to bed after taking a bath, completely ignoring the fact that the female reader was already very tired and tired.
And when she was busy preparing to go to bed, she had heard her boyfriend's super high decibel purr.
This is the case when eating, the boyfriend only cares about his own taste, only cares about what he wants to eat, but does not first ask her what he wants to eat.
And these, when the two people are usually together, are not exposed.
Just one trip made her understand that some boys can disguise.
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Tourism is a mirror for testing love
Mr. Qian Zhongshu wrote a passage in "The Siege":
"Traveling best shows a person's character. The honeymoon trip after marriage is in order, it should be traveled for a month, after a month of boats and servants, the two parties have not yet seen through each other, disgusted, but also to maintain the original marriage contract, this kind of couple will never divorce. ”
Traveling is the best way for your partner to reveal some of his original hidden personality, hidden behavior; he may usually be very good at disguising himself, pretending to be a person with no shortcomings, but once he goes out on a trip, he will expose his original appearance.
He will have disagreements with you, will have conflicts with you, will become impatient, and the same is true of girls, girls will become irritable, become impatient.
Because when people travel, they are not only facing themselves, but also the state of two people together.
You can see the difference in the way the two people live.
You like to go to bed early, but he likes to sleep late; you like to take a shower first and then do something else, but he likes to play first, and when he is sleepy, he goes to the bath and sleep.
You like to be quiet, but he likes to be noisy; you like to eat the famous local food, but he wants to eat whatever is simple and convenient.
You can also see the difference in the three views and personalities of the two people.
You want to go to the famous local attractions to play, you think that since you came, you will regret not going once; but he feels that there are too many people, too crowded, not interesting, and refuses your request.
You like to do anything, before going to every place, do a plan, check that the good things, the luggage is ready, but the other party is very sloppy, very casual, not prepared at all.
Faced with the vastly different lifestyles and mindsets between you, you begin to re-examine the relationship.
Tourism is to constantly expose each other's shortcomings, and then run into each other, change each other; can run into each other, the feelings can go further; but many couples, often after the end of the trip, also ended the relationship.
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Two people want to be together, only love is not enough
Traveling is just a test of the level of affection and suitability of the two of you.
All the tests before marriage, all the things that two people do together, are getting to know each other, running into each other.
Grind away the edges and corners of your body, grind away your irritability, let you learn to tolerate, learn to understand, and learn to think in a different position in your feelings.
When it comes to love, you may only pay attention to feelings and only care about each other's attitudes; but marriage is two different things, and what is more needed for marriage is that you are suitable for each other.
Only when it is appropriate can we smoothly enter the marriage, and the life after marriage can be more stable.
Love is sometimes like a tourist, at first it is uncertain, it is unknown; but then it becomes a planned and determined act.