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“... Qi Moumou, who used 50 euros, quarreled with me early in the morning, disgusting... plaything. ”
These striking words, which no one could have imagined, were those spoken by a daughter to her father.
Seeing this, everyone may be confused, what is the hell that happened to make the daughter use such vicious words to insult her father?
A female international student, living expenses of 10,000 yuan per month, for the father, the pressure is not small. But for international students, some netizens said: This number may not be very much, and maintaining daily living expenses is definitely more than enough.
This time, when the father was playing with living expenses, due to the delay in the account, the daughter did not receive the living expenses in time, so she privately swiped the credit card that could only be used in an emergency. After the father learned of the change in the credit card account, he sent a message to his daughter and asked a few questions about the reason for the daughter's cost, but he did not expect that it was these few words that directly caused his daughter's dissatisfaction.
On the one hand, it is the father's bitter mouth: "Dad's monthly pressure is very large, you try to control the monthly expenditure at about 10,000 yuan, Dad only has so much money, not to quarrel with you." 」 You're 23 years old, and we want you to be sensible and have a little sense of independence..."
On the other hand, the daughter's extreme impatience: "I buy the necessities of life, I can't not consume it without it, don't I want to eat and use it?" ”
In the face of the father's bitter mouth, the daughter is extremely cold and impatient, if it is only a chat on WeChat, it is not too much of a problem.
However, afterwards, the daughter actually directly "publicly insulted her father" on the social platform, and all kinds of unsightly words were instantly commented by netizens: "Is this raising a daughter, or raising a white-eyed wolf?" ”
It is precisely because of this that the father and daughter are unexpectedly on the hot search, and this time the comments of netizens are also one-sided, scolding this filial daughter, and it is not easy to hurt her father.
★ The selfless efforts of parents cannot be exchanged for the gratitude of their children
Parents work hard to raise their children, and also take out 10,000 yuan of living expenses every month, they only drink porridge with pickles, for their children to study abroad, such a hidden tolerance, just out of the love of parents.
Even if parents are not, as children, they should also be considerate of their parents, rather than publicly abusing their fathers on social platforms. So how chilling are parents?
★ Behind not knowing gratitude and "acting recklessly" is a problem in education
In addition to this girl who is on the hot search, in our real life, there are actually many children like this, fighting for their parents' love for themselves, blindly demanding that their parents pay unconditionally to themselves. If it is slightly unpleasant, they complain to their parents, forget their parents' goodness, and all that is left is threats and hatred.
Children do not understand gratitude, misbehaving, everyone is really angry and cold after seeing it, but while we blame these children, it is time for parents to recognize the flaws of education, and it is time to change their own education methods!
Many parents' requirements for their children are: as long as they study well, nothing else needs to be managed, it seems that only good grades, children are filial piety and understanding.
● But good grades do not mean that the child's emotional intelligence is high, nor does it mean that the child is a person of good character.
A child may not have good grades, but he has good qualities, has the fighting spirit, especially respect for parents, and knows how to be grateful. Then such a person, who has been working hard to live, will not only be happy in the future, but also his parents will be more and more relaxed.
So what should we pay attention to in the process of educating children?
Learn to respect children and cultivate their independence
Why do some children go to college and start to work and study slowly, knowing how to reduce the pressure on their parents?
And some children, even after graduation, always open their mouths to their parents for living expenses? Not even dirty clothes can be washed, a large bag sent to parents? In addition to the reasons for children, it also has a lot to do with the education of parents.
Parents, we must always learn to respect the child, from a young age should know how to give the child a certain independent space, so that the child learns to explore the world by himself, rather than doing everything, big and small.
Only the children who are educated in this way can become more and more successful.
Quality education must keep up, and the three views must not be "crooked"
Many people are always on top, thinking that they have gone abroad to study, they are superior to others, and everything is intimidating to others. But no matter how high the academic qualifications, no matter how much knowledge, no quality, no bottom line, do not know respect and etiquette, then even if you enter the society, sooner or later you will turn over.
Therefore, parents are improving their children's academic knowledge, and while educating their children, quality education should also keep up.
● Lead by example, and never let the child's three views deviate.
Pay attention to gratitude education, let children learn to be considerate of their parents from an early age, understand that it is not easy for parents, then the children who are educated can be filial piety and kindness. Otherwise, blindly improve academic qualifications, and do not pay attention to the quality education of children, no matter how high the academic qualifications, the educated children will not have much achievement, but let the parents feel desolate in their old age.
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Therefore, here, I hope that every parent can correctly educate their children, never let the child "walk on one leg", while improving the child's academic qualifications, while the child's knowledge continues to increase, but also can not relax the child's three views and quality of education. This is not only responsible for the child, but also for oneself and society.
Parents, do you pay attention to the quality education of your children?
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