Wen | Yifan
A female international student was missing in the UK for 19 days, and this matter quickly fermented on the Internet and received the attention of the majority of netizens.
On the evening of March 20, the girl herself suddenly sent a circle of friends and reported safety to everyone.
Finally, the people who cared about her were relieved. After all, there are many international students who have encountered accidents after they lost contact abroad.
I don't know why, after reading the girl's writing, "In fact, I was writing a doctoral research plan recently, the mobile phone was turned off for a long time and I didn't see the news, and my parents usually contacted once for a long time..." After this paragraph, my heart was full of mixed feelings.
It is a good thing to be sure that the female international student is now safe, but while feeling fortunate, I am deeply sad for the girl's parents...
01.
Previously, some media reported that the girl's father had the last call with his daughter on the night of March 1 and could not be contacted since.
As of March 20, it has been exactly 19 days, and the girl's "parents have gone crazy at home..." But the daughter is abroad, thousands of miles apart, and they have no choice but to post online for help.
It can be imagined that a female student who is alone outside the country suddenly breaks off contact with her family and friends, and which parent will go crazy, which is the common sentiment of people.
However, the girl was "recently writing a doctoral research plan" and because "her parents usually contacted once for a long time" and other reasons, so "the mobile phone was turned off for a long time and did not see the news."
On the surface, the girl's explanation, well-reasoned and impeccable, but carefully tasting, it is heart-wrenching.
Under the news report, I saw a lot of netizens' messages, many people blamed girls for not knowing how to understand their parents' feelings.
I believe that the netizens who blame this girl for not understanding things do not have any malicious intentions.
They are sure that most of them are already parents, so they can personally understand that when parents are anxious to finally find their missing children, they can't help but scold their children twice.
02.
The incident of Zhang Yingying, a girl who was killed abroad before, is still vividly remembered, and no one wants such a tragedy to happen to their children again.
On June 9, 2017, Zhang Yingying, a female student studying at the University of Illinois in the United States, disappeared after riding in a strange man's vehicle.
Later, the police confirmed that Zhang Yingying had been brutally killed. It's just that it's been nearly 5 years now, and Zhang Yingying's bones are still missing.
Once, Zhang Yingying was the hope and motivation of her parents; now, she has become a white-haired person sending a black-haired person.
At first, the parents did not want their daughter to go so far away to study, but for the sake of their daughter's future and future, they could only bear to agree.
Zhang Yingying is a sensible child, she understands her parents' longing, so as soon as she has time, she will contact her parents and often share her experiences and feelings about living in the United States.
But the accident happened... Such a tragedy is a fatal blow to every parent.
How much the parents hope that their daughter will run back to see herself as soon as she is on vacation, as usual; how they hope that they can make up their minds and not let their daughter go abroad, and not let her run so far to study!
What was full of worries and thoughts at the beginning is now full of regret and self-blame. Parents choose to let go for the sake of their children's future, but children who leave home and fly away from home have become the most important concern in their parents' lives.
How many children are not around the parents, their hearts are like hanging in mid-air, there is no way to fall on the ground, there is no way to sleep well.
They worry about their children all day long, worry about their children's safety, worry about their children's poor eating and dressing, worry about what obstacles children have encountered in life...
However, parents dare not tell their children all these worries, because they are afraid of taking up too much of their children's time and energy, afraid of affecting their children's learning and work.
Every time they talk to their children out of town, the parents are also cautious.
They would rather look for key information from the details of every conversation, and would rather look for clues from the circle of friends of their children, and dare not easily contact and disturb the children.
Parents want to leave space for their children, but they can't control what happens in their children's lives.
On the parent's mobile phone, the location is often the child's city. Because of this, you can always know the weather conditions in your child's city, emergencies and so on.
Many parents are the ones who know the city where their children live better than their children. And the safety of children is the greatest wish of parents.
03.
The female student who has been missing for 19 days has finally appeared in a thrilling way, which reminds me that some time ago, the news reported the oolong incident of a mother and daughter.
Xiao Yang, a girl who was studying in other places, accidentally fell asleep at 3 o'clock in the middle of the night, playing with her mobile phone, and as a result, she mistakenly dialed her mother's phone.
Unexpectedly, I woke up the next morning and "frightened" her! I saw that I received 38 messages from my mother on my mobile phone, and 22 missed calls.
From the chat records posted by the girl, it can be seen that the mother, from more than 3 a.m. to nearly 7 o'clock in the morning, has been sending messages to her daughter.
In other words, because she could not contact her daughter, the mother was worried that she had not slept all night. It wasn't until she contacted her daughter the next morning that my mother finally put her mind at ease.
The girl felt very remorseful, she said, because the phone was muted and she didn't hear it at all. She was also very upset with her mother, feeling that she had worried her.
After the girl posted the matter online, the news quickly rushed to the hot search. Many netizens were moved to tears by the message sent by their mothers.
To be honest, I was crying too. Many netizens have a deep understanding and have said: I really don't know how this mother survived this night?
When my daughter was going to college outside the home, as an old mother, I was often nervous and often worried that something bad would happen to my daughter.
As soon as there was a storm, I began to use phone calls, text messages, and WeChat calls to my daughter, often provoking her to lose her temper and thinking that I was too nagging.
However, children who are in other places cannot understand at all, and they will not understand that sometimes their careless behavior may make their parents in other places crazy.
After all, the distance between the two places and the space makes it impossible for parents to appear in front of the child immediately, and the fear of everything unknown to the child is really like a hundred claws scratching the heart.
So children, no matter how old you are now, no matter how far you go, as long as your parents are still there, you must remember to contact your parents often and take the initiative to report peace to your parents.
04.
Sometimes, the older the parents, the more humble they seem to become.
Even though I have all kinds of concerns about my children in my heart, I don't dare to hang on my lips often, for fear of disturbing my children.
In particular, some educated parents always like to hide love in their hearts and put it in action, but they will not often hang on their lips, for fear of causing their children to be bored.
But how many children can understand this? "If you don't raise children, you don't know the grace of your parents", maybe only on the day when they become parents themselves, they will really understand!
Parents are older, we must understand our parents' worries and worries about themselves, and we must understand their parents' powerlessness and insecurity.
Whether you are abroad or in a foreign country, do not feel that your parents are long-winded and nagging, and you should often inform your parents of some recent situations. It is best to set up your mobile phone as well, and don't miss your parents' calls in the future.
Poor parents in the world!