Four missing young boys were urgently located. Yesterday, the news of the unfortunate death of the sisters and brothers in Xingtai City after they lost contact made my heart unable to calm down for a long time and felt the tragedy caused by the carelessness of my parents. The problem of adolescents and children missing often occurs, so the next step is to collect and sort out the news of missing contacts in recent days, I hope that everyone will share and forward, and I hope that the children will go home as soon as possible.
Luo Yuchen, a 15-year-old boy in the old town of Chengmai County, Hainan Province, who is 1.7 meters tall and wears a blue vertical striped T-shirt, black 7-minute pants, gray tourist shoes, and a lace diving mask, disappeared on February 7, 2022.
Wang Yudong, a 16-year-old autistic boy in Shaling Town, Yuhong District, Shenyang, who is 1.75 meters tall, wears a black and white hat jacket and black pants, and disappeared on February 8, 2022.
Zeng Binghan, a 12-year-old boy around Zhanggong District, Ganzhou, Jiangxi Province, who is 1.53 meters tall, is a fifth-grade elementary school student wearing a black cotton coat and black pants, and disappeared on February 8.
Cao Yong, a 16-year-old boy from Sunjiagang Village, Jiashan Town, Changde, Hunan Province, about 1.6 meters tall, wearing a black hooded jacket, black pants and black shoes, disappeared on February 9.
Every time I see a news report on the disappearance of minors, all kinds of veiled questioning on the Internet will follow, some questioning teachers, some questioning parents. In fact, many of the missing cases are related to parents. We parents should reflect on ourselves, how to communicate with children is very important. As parents, the heart of hating iron and steel is understood, but simple insults and barbaric shots are all extremely unqualified education methods, which are very easy to damage children's self-esteem, and even can directly lead to children's rebellion and collapse. Therefore, you must pay special attention to the method when communicating with your child.
It is said in the parents' language book that the parents' language can directly affect the child's IQ, emotional intelligence, children's expression, self-learning ability, successful ability and development potential. I was seriously reflecting on whether I had spoken to my children before. Many unreasonable words. I thought about a few correct ways for parents to deal with such a situation.
First, parents should first understand the root cause of the problem, stop taking away the child's autonomy to speak, give the child a chance to appeal, and at the same time make the parents more targeted in the process of educating the child.
Second, parents and children know how to think differently.
Third, criticize and scold children must pay special attention to the place. Many parents criticize children at home, but I think that there must be problems of insulting and beating children in public, and we should protect children's self-esteem.
Fourth, criticize children not to be in a hurry anymore. Every child is different, to give the child enough time and space to think about mistakes, to rush to achieve will only backfire.
Fifth, criticism and encouragement are combined. Criticism and some encouragement not only allow children to quickly realize their mistakes, but also help children develop in the direction they are good at.
We all say that the family is a child's lifelong school, family education has a particularly great impact on children, the first teacher of children is parents, most of the root causes of running away from home are due to the lack of communication between parents and children. As parents, we can let children suffer some hardships, but we should encourage children's courage, self-confidence, and sense of responsibility to make children grow up healthy and happy. As long as the child is strong-willed, the phenomenon of running away from home will naturally not occur.