Just like the ancients said that "loyalty and filial piety can not be two perfect", on the road of life, people often encounter a variety of different choices, must give up the same, the same choice, in the face of these choices, are you decisive, or hesitant?
In real life, some girls will ask their boyfriends or husbands such a tricky question: "If I and my mother can't swim, and both fall into the water, you can only save one, who will you save?" ”。 This can be said to be a soul torture, it can also be said to be a sending proposition, choose which answer is not right, choose to save the mother first, is considered to be a betrayal of love, choose to save the wife or girlfriend first, is considered filial piety.
Of course, this question is a "joke", in real life, people will not encounter such a difficult choice, therefore, men encounter this problem, the most rational choice, is not to answer.
In the Spring and Autumn Period more than two thousand years ago, there was a woman who encountered a similar problem, a cruel reality, so that she had to make a choice: husband and father must die, how to choose?
In the face of such a cruel reality, this woman has no possibility of avoidance and escape.
This woman was the daughter of the first powerful servant of the Spring and Autumn Period, named Yongji.
The life experience of the sacrifice foot is very similar to that of Sima Yi.
The foot sacrifice was a courtier of zheng guo in the Spring and Autumn period, and it played a pivotal role in Zheng guo, and the importance of foot sacrifice can be seen from a comment by Qi Huangong. After the death of the sacrificial foot, the Duke of Qi Huan said to the ministers: "The sacrifice is dead, and Zheng Guo has no one."
During the reign of Duke Zhengzhuang, he was deeply respected by Duke Zhengzhuang, advised Zheng Zhuanggong, and was a minister who assisted Zheng Guo in the government. After the death of Zheng Zhuanggong, Matsuzu was made a chancellor of the Trust, and successively assisted four Hou Lords to ascend the throne, of course, Matsuzu was also jealous and hostile to the Hou Lords.
This life experience of the sacrifice foot is very similar to that of Sima Yi in the Three Kingdoms period, who was appointed by Cao Cao as a minister of entrustment, and successively assisted Cao Pi, Cao Rui, and Cao Fang. However, during the Spring and Autumn Period, the State of Zheng was poor and weak, and it was not as dominant as the State of Wei in the Three Kingdoms period, otherwise the sacrifice foot might also become Sima Yi's second.
After the death of Duke Zheng Zhuang, according to the will, the sacrifice was assisted by Gongzi Ku succeeding to the throne, that is, Zheng Zhaogong. After that, under the coercion and inducement of the Duke of Songzhuang, he sacrificed his feet to help the prince suddenly seize the throne, which was later Zheng Ligong. After Zheng Ligong seized the throne, he was very jealous of the sacrifice foot, and he was very dissatisfied with the dictatorship of the sacrificial foot to control the government, rather than letting the sacrificial foot empty himself, it was better not to do two or two, and the first move was strong, so Zheng Ligong tried to assassinate the sacrificial foot.
Zheng Ligong sent Yong Gui, the son-in-law of the sacrificial foot, to assassinate the sacrificial foot. Yong Gui was loyal to Zheng Ligong, and was also extremely dissatisfied with the brutal dictatorship of the old man and the control of the government for decades, so he gladly accepted this action.
The daughter of the sacrificial foot, Yongji, was beautiful and moving, and after marrying Yongjie, she behaved extremely virtuously, so she was deeply trusted by Yonggui, and Yongjie told Yongji about this plan.
The speaker has no intention, the listener has a heart. Hearing that her husband wanted to kill her father, Yongji fell into a painful choice, Yongji ran to ask her mother how to choose, and her mother gave the answer categorically: "Everyone is a husband, the father is only one, Hu Kebi is also?" ”
Meaning: the husband is gone, you can choose to remarry, and the father has only one, how can it be compared?
A word from her mother made Yong Ji daigo enlightened, and she immediately ran to tell the sacrifice foot of the assassination plan, so the sacrifice foot also took the initiative and killed her son-in-law Yong Gui.
After learning that the plan to assassinate the sacrificial foot was exposed, Zheng Ligong angrily scolded: "If you plan to kill the woman, it is advisable to die." The accusation is that Yong Guilian even has such a plan, he must consult with his wife, and he deserves to die.
Due to the heinous power of the sacrificial foot, in the government of the dynasty, the deer was referred to as a horse, Zheng Ligong was so frightened that he fled overnight and began a journey of exile, and seventeen years later, the sacrificial foot was dead and Zheng Ligong was restored.
Yong Ji's choice created a well-known idiom - "man can do his best", this idiom, at first, did not have a pejorative meaning, but later became a derogatory term.
Because of this choice, Yongji was called "filial piety" by later generations, and of course, it was also considered to be a betrayal of love. In fact, no matter what choice she makes, she can't blame it, because her inner choice is not to make a choice, and she can't escape it because of reality.