For a woman, the father and husband are undoubtedly the two most important men in life, the father gave her life, and the husband formed a family with her, but if only one of the father and husband can survive, then how should the woman choose? I didn't expect that there was such a story in history, and the heroine's choice suffered from thousands of years of scorn, while also creating an idiom.
There is a song called "Seven Heroes of the Warring States", which sings about the current situation of history in the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, and the lyrics in it read: "Kill the king and seek the country, and try to dominate the xiong". In ancient China, the respect of heaven and earth was the most important relationship, but during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, many people took the goal of "killing the king and seeking the country", which shows that the collapse of the world at that time was serious, and the history books commented that "the king was thirty-six, and the country was destroyed fifty-two".
The State of Zheng is a country with a much shorter history than that of States such as Qichu, and it was only formally established in 806 BC, but because it was a princely state divided by the orthodox Zhou Dynasty royal family, it was strongly supported by the Zhou Dynasty as soon as it was established, and it developed rapidly. However, the princely states that were originally divided to defend the royal family soon deviated from their original intentions, and its third-generation monarch Zheng Zhuanggong began to launch an attack on the Zhou royal family, which was very closely related by blood.
It is precisely because of the opening of a head that violates the etiquette system, the story of Zheng Guo's "killing the king and seeking the country" began to increase later. The overlord Zheng Zhuanggong died in 701 BC, and Zheng Zhuanggong had his son Zheng Zhaogong Ji Ku succeed him, but Ji Ku's younger brother Ji Tu, with the support of his uncle Duke Zhuang of Song, seized the throne of Ji Kuo and succeeded him in 700 BC as Zheng Ligong.
Zheng Zhaogong himself was the eldest son of Concubine, and at the same time capable of excelling, in 706 BC led an army to rescue the State of Qi attacked by the State of Rong, and defeated the State of Rong, at that time, the Duke of Qi wanted to marry his daughter Wen Jiang to Ji Kuo, but Ji Kuo heard that Wen Jiang had a problem with his character and rejected the State of Qi, and also lost a strong foreign aid. However, for Zheng Ligong's seizure of the throne, the vast majority of Zheng Guo's offices were opposed, including the sacrifice of feet.
He was the elder of the Three Dynasties of the State of Zheng and had already held important positions during the reign of Duke Zheng Zhuang. At the same time, he was also able to fight a good war, once led troops to defeat the combined forces of the Wei and Yan states, he supported Zheng Zhaogong as the monarch of the Zheng state, and strongly opposed Zheng Ligong's usurpation of the throne. For such a high-ranking minister to oppose himself, Zheng Ligong felt like a fish in his throat, so he plotted this matter with his confidant Yong Tang.
However, Zheng Ligong forgot that Yong Gui's wife Yong Ji was the daughter of the sacrificial foot, and Yong Gui was the kind of man who could not hide his words in front of women, and he went back to drink and drunk, and he missed the wind in front of his wife. Yongji had known that her husband had a conflict with her father, and now that the political situation was turbulent, she immediately understood that her husband might want to harm her father.
At this time, Yongji is very contradictory, husband and father, which one she does not want to lose, but the development of current events has made her husband and father go to the complete opposite, how to choose? At this time she thought of her mother, besides her father and husband, and the people closest to her were probably her mother, so she had a classic conversation with her mother:
"The wife, the daughter of the priest, knows, and says to his mother: 'Father and husband?' Mother: 'The Father is only one, and every man is a husband.' ’”
This means that Yongji asked her mother, which is more important, father or husband? Her mother replied, "There is only one father in the world, and any man can be your husband, how can this be compared?" Her mother's words strengthened her resolve, so she told her father the news that Yong Gui might want to join forces with Zheng Ligong to kill the sacrificial foot, and her father then attacked First in 697 BC, killed Yong Gui, and drove Zheng Ligong away. Zheng Zhaogong was reinstated.
In this matter, Yongji chose her father, because there is only one father, but the husband can remarry, in fact, there is nothing wrong with it, but the sentence "everyone is a husband" has made her bear the scorn of future theorists and apologists for thousands of years, and an idiom is also derived from this sentence, called "people can be husbands".