"Heart and Mind"
May you be one heart and warm thoughts
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Zheng Zhuanggong's real name was Yu Sheng, and he also had a younger brother named Shu Duan.
It is said that when he was born, it was difficult to give birth, and his mother almost died several times before giving birth to him, so from birth, he did not get his mother's favor.
The mother loves her younger son, Uncle Duan, who was born later.
Because the mother did not love The Birth, she did not want the Life to always wait in front of her, and she let the Life go outside often to walk in order to achieve the goal of not seeing the heart and not being bothered.
However, he often encouraged his younger son to study well with his master in the palace, hoping that he would have the opportunity to let his younger son inherit the throne in the future.
At a young age, she was coldly treated by her mother, and her heart was naturally extremely bitter.
But he was lucky, in the opportunity of often walking outside, he met a high-ranking man named Matsuri Foot, he told the Sacrifice Foot about his mother's favoritism over the brothers, and asked the Sacrifice Foot for advice.
Matsuri said: "If people want to develop, they must first learn to survive, and the way to survive is to change themselves according to the characteristics of the environment and adapt themselves to the characteristics of the environment." ”
Yu Sheng listened to the advice of the sacrificial foot and went back to respect his mother more and more and love his brother.
However, the mother was not moved, and repeatedly spoke in front of the monarch, hoping to abolish The Widow and make Uncle Duan the crown prince.
But because he was not at fault and his father valued him, he did not listen to his mother's advice.
After He ascended the throne, despite the opposition of the ministers, at the request of his mother, he gave Shuduan the richest jingyi in the country as a fief.
The vastness and wealth of Jingyi exceeded that of the capital xinzheng at that time, and if Duan Duan was in jingyi and operated in jingyi, he would live happily like a god.
It's just a pity that in his mother's years of favoritism, he has always thought that he is the material for being the monarch, and the whole Zheng kingdom should be his, and he should not only get such a small piece of Jingyi.
In such a wrong perception, he quietly launched a rebellion because of his mother's love for him.
The end result?
Yu Sheng has always expected his mother and brother to stop at the precipice and turn back in time, so he has been hiding from them.
It was not until Shu duan really began to send troops to rebel that he immediately decided to start suppressing it, and as a result, he conquered the rebels in one fell swoop, and Shu Duan was forced to flee.
From being born to a mother to being a brother, it can only be said that their mother played an unshirkable responsibility.
Such things also happen from time to time in today's life, although everyone has no throne to inherit, but in the face of a little inheritance of their parents, many brothers and sisters are also willing to fight a big war.
Why is this a problem?
Is it related to the fact that parents have not educated their children well since childhood, and the most important thing between brothers and sisters is "brotherhood and brotherhood"?
The elder brother loves the younger brother, the younger brother respects the elder brother, not only the parents should respect and love each other, but also educate the children to respect and love each other is the foundation of harmony.
Of course, what parents need to do most is a bowl of water, whether the children grow up, rich or poor, they should have a bowl of water, and then encourage the rich to help the poor, is the key to the unity of the children.
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I heard before that there is a family, because the younger brother's conditions are better, and the parents have been subsidizing the eldest son's family out of concern for the life of the eldest son.
This makes the younger son's family particularly dissatisfied, complaining about his parents' eccentricity, in order to achieve psychological balance, he also goes to his parents' house all day to eat and drink, and does not do anything.
In the long run, the parents were overwhelmed, and finally the father could not open it and committed suicide.
In a family like this, if the parents have a bowl of water, even if the eldest son is in difficulty, do not help too much, but distribute the benefits equally, and then let the younger son help the eldest son, can not only reduce their own burden, but also promote harmony between brothers?
Of course, there must be some people who will say that even if the parents have a bowl of water, but the rich may not help the poor, perhaps after the benefits are evenly distributed, the poorer the poorer, the richer the richer, which does not make the parents more worried.
If there is no problem with the family style, there is no problem with the education of the little brothers and brothers, and the rich brothers will not bear to watch their brothers have no food to eat, and they do not care.
It can only be said that if the brothers are selfish and selfish from an early age, and they do not develop the good habit of mutual respect and mutual love, then no matter what the parents do, the brotherly feelings will not be good!
So this problem finally has to return to the parents' own cognition, the parents' cognition is in place, then the problem of children's education will not be too big.
As for the depth of cognition, in addition to the words and deeds of the parents of the previous generation, there is also the degree of education of their own.
It's just that the current education does not pay much attention to the cognition of humanities, no longer teaches the etiquette to be followed in life to get along with people, how people should live, basically rely on self-taught talents, then it is not unusual to lead to repeated occurrences of family chaos.
When education truly returns to the education of people, and truly to help life in every detail, I believe that the chaos of the family can be changed!
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