There is an old Chinese saying that "a daughter-in-law has become a wife for many years", which means that after enduring a lot of suffering, a person is finally no longer managed, but begins to manage others. That is to say, in ancient society, there is usually a certain magical antagonistic relationship between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law, which is also the familiar "mother-in-law problem".
The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has not been much improved in the feudal society that has lasted for thousands of years, and now the so-called "sending proposition" has been derived, and some girls will ask their boyfriends when they are in love: "If I and your mother fall into the water at the same time, who will you choose to save first?" This seems like an unsolvable puzzle, and whatever you answer is "fatal."
But in fact, similar things happened in ancient times, and the ancients have already given the answer, which is a story that happened in the Spring and Autumn Period. Ji Zhong is a famous politician of Zheng Guo, deeply trusted by Zheng Zhuang Gong, presumably we will not be too unfamiliar with Zheng Zhuang Gong, that is, the "Zhuang Gong" in the text "Zhuang Gong Ke Duan Yu Yan", is a very powerful and scheming figure, and Ji Zhong is his confidant minister.
After the death of Duke Zheng Zhuang, Ji Zhong became the most powerful minister of zheng guo, and successively appointed four sons of Zheng Zhuang duke as monarchs, which shows how great his power is. In the "Records of History", it is said that "the power of the sacrifice is so great that it will inevitably cause the monarch to be unhappy and even worried and afraid, so in 697 BC, Zheng Ligong secretly sent someone to kill the sacrifice.
However, as the elder of many dynasties, Ji Zhong himself had great power a long time ago, and the entire court was intertwined, almost all of them were his people, and it was difficult for Zheng Ligong to find the right person to kill Jia Zhong. In desperation, he remembered Yong Jie, the son-in-law of Gong Zhong, who was originally Zheng Ligong's confidant, and later married Yong Ji, the daughter of Gong Zhong, but because Of Zhong's power was very powerful, Yong Ji did not have much good looks for Yong Jie.
Every time the young couple quarreled, Yong Ji would say to Yong Ji, "Be careful that I call my father to cure your sins!" In the long run, Yong Gui had a very deep resentment towards The Sacrifice Zhong, and after hearing that Zheng Ligong wanted him to kill the Sacrifice Zhong, he immediately agreed, and planned to set up a banquet in the suburbs, invite the old father-in-law to dinner, and kill him while eating.
Yong Ji was afraid that there was a loophole in his plan, and he also talked with his wife Yong Ji specifically, Yong Ji heard that her husband wanted to kill her father, one of them must die, if she did not tell her father, then her father would die, if she told her father, then her husband would definitely die. Yong Ji could not make up her mind for a long time, whether she needed to tell her father, and finally asked her mother: "Father and husband, which one is closer?" ”
Yongji's mother replied, "Every man has the possibility of becoming a husband, but there is only one father. (Ren Du Fu Ye, Father One, Hu Ke Bi Also)" So Yong Ji told Yong Gui's plan to Yu Zhong, and then Yong Gui was killed by Yu Zhong.
Yongji is faced with the choice of "between the husband and the father can only leave one, who to choose", and today's "first save the wife or mother" of the question, in fact, more cruel, in the end she easily made a choice from the distance of blood, leaving behind the idiom of "everyone can be husband", but also let today's married people no longer have to struggle with this problem. What do you think about that?