Under the background of the "double reduction" policy, the parents of children are more fond of "talent training classes". Surveys show that nearly 85 percent of parents sent their children to different categories of "talent training classes" this summer.
Parents send their children to the "talent training class" may be a helpless choice, because in this long summer vacation and other holidays children can not carry out the "cram class" of cultural classes, the best choice is to send the child to the "talent training class", cultivate the child's interest and strengths, perhaps there will be unexpected gains.
In the author's opinion, it is not the wisest choice for parents to blindly follow the trend and send their children to "talent training classes" without any purpose. Not to mention the increase in the expenditure of family expenses, it is more important to destroy the normal growth environment of children, and it is harmful to the development of children in serious terms.
Japanese educationalist Daisaku Ikeda said: In any case, the first thing to do is to let the child grow up freely, which is the expression of the deep affection of the parents, and such a deep affection must be taken as the purpose of family governance.
Once upon a time, cultivating "compound talents with high comprehensive quality" in China has become a popular boom, and parents have taken this as the goal of educating their children.
Some researchers engaged in education have also proposed that it is difficult for single-type talents to adapt to the development of this pluralistic society, and if a person wants to survive in this society or survive securely, he must become a well-rounded person. When parents receive this signal, they begin to plan for their children's "all-round development".
In order to enable children to develop in an all-round way, parents have set their sights on "talent training", as if talent represents all-round development.
The survey found that 84.9% of parents in China believe that their children should be trained in talent, and nearly 80% of parents hope to let their children participate in more than one talent training. These parents boil down the reason why their children learn talents: they want their children to be able to develop comprehensively. Parents who let their children learn a variety of talents believe that the more they learn, the more "comprehensive" they are.
However, can a child's talent training represent the child's overall development? Non also. When it comes to all-round development, parents and educators must think of the five aspects of "morality, intelligence, physique, beauty, and labor". Because this is the specific connotation of comprehensive development.
Talent should only represent "aesthetic education", and can not replace the "morality, intelligence, physique, labor" four subjects, not only can not be replaced, talent at most only accounted for 1/5 of the overall development. Only when a child has good morals and a healthy mind can he talk about the development of other specialties.
If a parent overloads his child with talent learning while ignoring his child's physical and mental health, he will eventually embark on a depressed or other unhealthy path because he is too stressed to vent.
So, as a parent, should we correctly treat the development of children's "talents"?
1. Children learn talents, and parents' attitudes should be clear
For children to learn talents, parents should have a clear attitude. Parents should not have the idea of letting their children "become famous and become a family", but let their children improve their literacy and increase the index of happiness through artistic influence. Since learning talent is to make children happier, talent should not be the culprit that makes children miserable.
Some parents begin to obey their children's preferences, hoping that their children will enrich their lives in the process of exposure to talents. However, as the learning progressed, parents began to have various expectations for their children.
As a result, the attitude of going with the flow changed, and began to supervise and urge children to learn. At this time, the child's attitude will also change. In the past, the preference for talents gradually decreased, and the scenes of conscious learning gradually decreased, and what was replaced was the urging of parents and their own helplessness.
Parents summed up this phenomenon: this child is not regular, and everything is only 3 minutes of heat. Yes, when the child's heat can be sustained, the parents' compulsion is like cold water that constantly extinguishes the child's enthusiasm.
Parents must respect their children's wishes and go with the flow. Children like to learn, ask to learn, let him learn, parents do not have to worry too much. The child is free to explore his own preferences, so that he can experience the fun.
2. Respect the child's interests, and parents should selectively cultivate them
Lin Ling has a wide range of hobbies since childhood, likes to play football, draw, learn English, photography, especially like to read and write. When she graduated from elementary school, she published the book "Brilliant Childhood", which not only collected her paintings and photographs, but also wrote to some famous writers.
How did Lin Ling's talent path go? When Lin Ling was young, her parents did not deliberately cultivate her interest, basically "laissez-faire". However, she especially loves to read. And for her, writing is not boring, it's fun.
Regarding painting, she did not go to a training class, that is, she always scribbled on white paper, and her parents found that she liked it, so she slowly accepted formal training.
Lin Ling's story should cause many parents to reflect. In fact, the 68-year-old child is in the "trial period" and likes to try new things, and parents can expose their children to more talent content during this period, and when they find that the child is really interested, they can cultivate him in a targeted manner.
At this time, parents create learning opportunities for their children, and children will make full use of them and absorb nutrients from them.
Therefore, for children who have just begun to learn talents, parents must focus on observation, have patience to wait for children to experience, and do not rush.
Because, for children, only interest-based cultivation is the most meaningful.
3. Parents should help their children make choices about their "talent" interests
During the "trial training" period, children will show obvious interest in "talent", or obviously not interested, or hesitate and wander in it. At this time, parents can no longer ask the child to learn if they are obviously not interested; for the child wandering, parents should not immediately make the decision to insist or give up. Even if the child insists on giving up, parents should not make hasty decisions.
The reason why the child lingers may be that the learning has encountered a bottleneck; the child insists on giving up, or perhaps the bottleneck cannot be broken for a while. At this time, parents should help their children break through the bottleneck, rather than giving up at will.
Parents can encourage their children to try for a month or two, and maybe soon "willow dark flowers bright another village". Once a child's self-confidence is built up again, he will find the joy of learning again.
Of course, if the child continues to suffer, it is not a "bottleneck" problem, and it is not a pity to give up learning. Because the talent at this time can no longer play a role in cultivating sentiment and improving literacy, giving up is the right choice.
For the development of children's "talents", in the author's view, most children can only be cultivated as "interest specialties", and cannot force children to pursue, which will only lead children to the wrong way.