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An important basis for measuring the purity of a relationship between a man and a woman is the boundaries of how they relate to each other.
Although this boundary cannot be seen or touched, adults are often tacit and do not break through. For example, some things cannot be shared; for example, no matter how close the relationship between two people is, they cannot have physical contact, and they cannot spend the night together; for example, no matter how much they trust each other, they cannot be secretless, and they cannot be nosy.
A very important reason why a relationship can survive for a long time is that they know how to maintain a sense of distance, a sense of proportion and a sense of boundaries between each other.
Only if all of this is done, the relationship is pure, otherwise once the boundary is crossed, the friendship will become love. Even if you don't officially become a lover, you will be blurred because of ambiguity, and in the end you will only hurt others and hurt yourself.
To know if the relationship between men and women is pure, you only need to look at whether they have shared the following three things, which is the most basic boundary of interpersonal communication.
Even if they have been shared, it means that the relationship between two people is no longer pure.
One: Shared tableware
Friends of the opposite sex who have a good relationship cannot drink a cup of milk tea together and share a set of utensils, otherwise it can only show that the relationship between two people is extraordinary, and even has been intimate enough to distinguish between you and me.
Yang Zi's ex-boyfriend Qin Junjie is a typical example.
Qin Junjie and actor Zhang Xueying, when filming the TV series "Summer of Bubbles", were photographed drinking a bowl of peppery soup, and the two talked and laughed, and their behavior was very intimate.
At that time, a reporter said that the two were in love, and at that time, Yang Zi and Qin Junjie did not break up.
Later, after Yang Zi and Qin Junjie officially broke up, Zhang Xueying became the third party targeted by everyone, and many people blamed that it was because of her intervention that the two broke up.
As the rumors intensified, Yang Zi himself debunked the rumors under Zhang Xueying's social media, saying that his breakup with Qin Junjie was a personal reason and had nothing to do with Zhang Xueying, which helped Zhang Xueying clear his suspicions.
However, with the "Hu Spicy Soup Incident", Zhang Xueying's image also plummeted, which was a big blow to her career.
It can be seen from this that even if there is no ghost in the heart between men and women, such a thing as sharing tableware is almost equivalent to indirect kissing, which is too intimate.
If you can get along with the opposite sex and don't care about things like sharing tableware, then the relationship between these two people must be more intimate than they show on a daily basis.
Two: Share clothes
On the one hand, the clothes will be contaminated with the other person's breath, and when you wear other people's clothes, there will be a sense of protection that is wrapped up, and there will be a sense of freshness.
If you are not a very good friend, wearing his clothes, you will only feel uncomfortable, and even a little disgusted.
Such things as breath are originally changed through the addition of psychological feelings. The same man's coat, in the woman who has a crush on her, she will feel that it is manly and fascinating. The woman who was not impressed with him was draped in a wind-shielding coat, and may even hate the smell of sweat.
Clothes, on the other hand, are visible to everyone.
When a woman appears in front of everyone in a man's clothes, it seems that the man is swearing his sovereignty, showing the special significance of this woman to him.
Therefore, if friends of the opposite sex can share clothes without any hesitation, then more or less, psychologically speaking, they have exclusive desires for each other, and want to let everyone know in this way that their relationship is not ordinary.
A piece of clothing conveys temptation and love.
Three: Share personal belongings
In addition to cutlery and clothes, sharing personal belongings is also a big sign that relationships are no longer pure.
For example: towels, toothbrushes, toothpaste, nail clippers, etc., these extremely personal items, if not a certain point of good relationship, can never be shared.
Imagine, when you go to someone else's house, you will not say hello and directly wipe your face with someone else's towel? You won't, partly because you have qualities, and partly because you know that it's impolite and inappropriate to do so.
Personal belongings, which are personal items, mean that they cannot be shared and shared with others.
Once shared, it means that the relationship between two people is extraordinary, such as between lovers or couples, sometimes they may share a cup to drink water, share a box of toothpaste, etc., which is extremely normal, because they have lived together, no different from each other's family.
But how can ordinary friends of the opposite sex be intimate to such an extent? If you say, it can only mean that the relationship is not pure.
Whether it is a friend or a lover, this life can meet itself is a kind of fate, if you do not know how to cherish it, you can only face loss in the end.
If you really value a person, don't let it become impure, otherwise it will be too late to try to save it.
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