Every woman longs to have a happy marriage. However, in today's society, people's hearts are too impetuous, and many people swore yesterday that they would love each other for a lifetime, but they turned around and threw themselves into the arms of others.
In the face of changes in people's hearts, women's biggest confidence in marriage is to have "divorce power". The so-called "power of divorce", as the name suggests, is the ability to divorce. That is, when the man has done something to betray the marriage, or the man no longer loves himself, you do not have to rely on the man because you have no financial ability, so that you can live a humble and wronged life.
However, in reality, there are not many women with "divorce power", and many women will be forced to become housewives for practical reasons or voluntarily once they enter marriage. They think that marriage can be their lifelong dependence, so they give up self-improvement, give up self-management, and eventually have to rely on men to support themselves.
There is no doubt about the woman's contribution to the family, but the man has changed his heart, he will not think about this, if he will think of it, he will not do anything to betray you. Therefore, before a woman enters marriage, she should have these kinds of thinking, only in this way, your life will not be too passive.
01, the mountain will fall, rely on everyone will run, be an independent woman
Many women become comfortable after entering marriage, and they feel that they are tired enough to be busy with housework and children every day, so they have free time to play with mobile phones, completely forgetting to improve themselves.
But getting married is not a once and for all thing, there is no bottom in marriage, and in the end it is yourself who is sad. Therefore, women must not be easy to be housewives, your life can also be colorful, in addition to children, family, you also have the right to achieve self-worth.
If you have to be a housewife, don't give up on yourself easily, don't live yourself as a "yellow-faced woman". Insist on being exquisite yourself, insist on improving yourself, so that even if you encounter betrayal by men one day, it is not terrible, because you still have your "market".
Women must understand that the mountain will fall, and everyone will run. The only person you can rely on in this world is yourself, be an independent woman, and you will live a more exciting life.
02, don't take out your heart and lungs for anyone, your good should be given to those who deserve it
When many women first marry into the man's family, they have a heart to live in harmony with the man's family to integrate into the family. They think that people's hearts are exchanged for people's hearts, as long as they show kindness first, then they will definitely be able to win the return of the other party.
But sometimes, some people's hearts are not hot. Your overtures, your low posture, will only make the other party look down on you and think you are a bully. Therefore, they ask for you, disrespect you, and even embarrass you everywhere.
When the other party does not cherish and does not know how to reciprocate, then you have to put away your own good, you do not have to put yourself in a humble position to let yourself be wronged.
You must understand that not all people are worth your heart and lungs, and your good is only worth it to the right people.
03, home is the home of two people, do not do everything in a big package
It is a good thing that women are virtuous, but it is not necessarily good to be too virtuous. Women who are too virtuous think that their husbands only need to earn money to support the family, and the affairs of the family should not be worried about him.
Therefore, whether it is cooking and mopping the floor or helping children with homework, women are all big packages. Women feel that men work hard outside the home and should let him relax when he returns home. As everyone knows, their "kindness" actually deprives men of the right to pay for this family.
When a man pays less for a home, the less he understands your hardships and the less he cherishes the home. On the contrary, letting him participate in housework and raising children will make him understand your hard work and cherish the family more.
Therefore, women should not be too virtuous, and there is nothing wrong with you hurting men, but use the right method. Don't unconsciously push the man farther and farther away, depriving the family of the opportunity to be more cohesive.
04, to be a "bad" woman, have their own bottom line and principles
Whether in love or marriage, every woman should have her own bottom line and principles.
These bottom-line principles should be clearly told to the man, so that if he violates, the relationship may break. When a man knows that you are a "bad" woman, then he will consider your feelings before talking and doing things.
Men make unprincipled mistakes, women don't forgive easily, forgive too easily, they will think you are very good, so they think they have pinched you, and then what awaits you is that he hurts you again and again.
If you make a mistake of principle, you can stop the loss in time, if you can't easily forgive, you are too soft-hearted, thinking that if you forgive, you can make him turn back. You're wrong, he won't really correct it, and forgiveness without much cost will make them break through your bottom line again and again.
No matter how much a woman loves a man, she must also keep her own bottom line and principles, and let him know that you are not easy to mess with.
Women with happy marriages, they all understand: independent women are more confident; treat the man's family is not humble and unflattering, and exchange hearts for hearts; let men participate in the management of the family, the family will be more cohesive; be a "bad" woman, let men know how to weigh.
May every woman be able to live her own posture and use wisdom to manage marriage.
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