For most families, having children is at the most appropriate stage. Children for the family not only mean the continuation of the bloodline, but also a symbol of happiness. However, some poor and backward parents in mountainous areas, because of their own ideological limitations, regard their children as the so-called hope of "making money".
With the continuous development of society, the price level continues to increase, and people's economic pressure is getting greater and greater. In modern society, due to economic pressures, there are not a few families who have suspended their birth plans.
However, in a poor mountain village in Sichuan, there is such a family adhering to the concept of "saving money is not as good as saving people", and has successively bred 11 children in 15 years.
The couple lived in a small mountain village in a remote area, and their daily days were filled with poverty and labor, and they had to raise children, which made the wife full of complaints.
However, the husband retorted that it is better to save money than to save people, as long as there is one who has a good life, the whole family can enjoy happiness.
Because the husband and wife do not teach their children, they pin all their hopes on their children, and they do not go out to work to earn money to support their families, so the family's life is becoming more and more poor.
If there are more children in the family and their parents do not teach, they will naturally develop the bad disease of mischievous children, so that other families in the village are even more evasive of them.
In such a dilapidated family, the eldest daughter resolutely chose to flee, and never returned after running away from home. The second eldest has excellent grades, should be the hope of a family, has a bright future, but is forced to drop out of school because he has no money to pay tuition.
The saddest thing is the fourth oldest, he has nothing to do all day, often fights and fights, and eventually he is cut and has to recuperate at home. In addition, even the family, who is the pillar of the father, has been imprisoned for beating people.
Today, the family is truly divided, and I thought that having a few more children would change the fate of the family, but I did not expect that the current situation is really regrettable. This family is the most obvious tragedy for a family that does not focus on quality, but only on quantity.
So what are the effects of having too many children on the family?
1. Lead to disharmony in family relations
The greater the number of children, the greater the likelihood of family strife. Once there are multiple children in the family, the parents' energy will also be distracted, and there is no guarantee that each child will be equally cared for and loved.
The bias of the parents is bound to cause the other child to feel unfair, which will affect the feelings between the children and cause the family relationship to be disharmonious.
2. Children receive a limited amount of education
Too much child rearing will increase the family's expenses. In the face of economic constraints, parents will not be willing to invest heavily in their children's education, so that their children's education is also limited.
3. Influence the child's future mate selection
Too many brothers and sisters means that the more likely the family conflict is. Modern people's mate selection standards are also getting higher and higher, and almost no one is willing to choose a family with more than three siblings, but is more willing to choose an one-child family.
Because the one-child family is conducive to the longevity of the marriage, it avoids disputes.
In fact, as far as having children is concerned, first of all, parents should correct their fertility attitudes, and must not have children in order to have children.
Since they want to have children, parents should understand these truths:
1. Having children is not about getting rewarded
The child should be a continuation of the love of the parents and a source of family happiness. Since you decide to have a child, you should not define the meaning of the child as the guarantee of old-age care, and you cannot blindly raise your child with the mentality of seeking returns.
2. Have children with quality rather than quantity
The most important thing to have a few children is to stand in the perspective of loving children, not the more the better. The improvement of material living standards has also made the cost of raising children higher and higher, so it is better to have more children than to raise them.
In the process of children's growth, parents play a very critical role, as parents must first correct their own attitude, with the right mentality to give birth and raise children, to avoid birth without teaching leads to tragedy.