Leaves are not yellow every day, and people's hearts are not cool every day.
In the relationship, many people do not understand why the other half resolutely break up or divorce, always feel that the other half has changed their hearts before leaving, in fact, you just need to think carefully to understand that all the departures she has signs, disappointment has saved enough, that is, the time to leave has arrived.
I'm a person with character
Ruili (pseudonym) and her ex-husband Wu Yong (pseudonym) have been divorced for 3 years, but what Ruili did not expect was that even if she was divorced, her ex-husband still harassed her for 3 years.
Whenever she mentioned the matter of being harassed by her ex-husband, Ruili would not help but cry bitterly, she said that her ex-husband would not only insult herself and her parents with the phone, but even come to the door to threaten, and the scars on her forehead were beaten by her ex-husband, and her ex-husband had beaten himself more than once.
As for why the divorced ex-husband still harassed her and beat her? Ruili bluntly said that she didn't know what kind of hatred her ex-husband had with her.
Now Ruili wants to find her ex-husband to clarify this matter and solve this matter well, and then under the leadership of Ruili, we also met her ex-husband Wu Yong.
However, when confronted with questioning, Wu Yong directly denied that he had harassed Ruili, in Wu Yong's view, he had never thought of divorce in his life, and he did not know why Ruili suddenly had to file for divorce, even if he had been divorced for 3 years, but Wu Yong felt that he and Ruili did not really divorce, so he often went to Ruili.
At the moment, Ruili also explained that at that time, she did propose a divorce by herself, and Wu Yong did not agree at that time, but Wu Yong had already said that if she divorced, there was nothing of her own, anyway, she was clean, in fact, she had always left a back road for Wu Yong, saying that after the divorce, everyone was separated for a period of time to be calm and calm, and then think about it carefully.
But since the divorce, Wu Yong has never stopped, let me completely die is that 2019 has been under the premise of divorce, Wu Yong beat me again, beat me into a concussion, in the hospital for a while, I will leave him the back road closed, even if it is to death will not be with him again.
And a few days before Wu Yong beat me, he also asked his son to pass me a message, saying that he didn't let me go to the market to set up a stall, because a woman came to the village to find me, saying that I hooked up with her man, when the son asked me if I had such a thing, I directly told my son, rest assured, there is no such thing, even if the woman really came, it was also your father who deliberately found someone to slander me, I did not do these things, I was frank, I should go out of the stall, I should make money.
In Ruili's view, how can a father say these words to his son, who was only 11 years old at the time, is this not to convey bad thoughts to his son? Let the son feel that his mother is cheating, there is someone outside, is this a father should say to his son? Moreover, it is not a fact, it is simply a lie.
To say that this Wu Yong is also, how can adults' affairs involve children? Is it really appropriate for you to say these things to your children just after you got divorced, is this good for your children, or is it harmful to children?
At this time, Wu Yong also admitted that he did let his son pass on these words at that time, and he also knew that it was inappropriate to say these words to the child, but Wu Yong also said that he also listened to his friends at that time, a woman came to the village to find Ruili, this woman is still a wife with a husband, just say that Ruili hooked up with her man, so we are also a person with character, and I did not swallow this breath at that time.
Hearing Wu Yong's explanation, Ruili retorted on the spot, then you let this woman come to me, I want to ask her where the man is, can she come up with evidence, and you said that you listened to your friend, then you call your friend to ask what the situation is, I just want you to come up with evidence.
However, when Wu Yong called his friend for verification, he pushed it away, bluntly saying that his friend was not at home, the words turned sharply, and he said that he was absolutely suspicious of Ruili, because Ruili could resolutely propose the two words of divorce, which proved that there were people outside, and in the period after the divorce, the materials proposed by Ruili should be divided into family property, if there is no one behind her to point out, then she must not think of so much.
In Wu Yong's thoughts, Ruili lived with him for 13 years, is very obedient to his words, and there is no idea of divorce at all, and after the divorce, I thought that Ruili would return to the family after a period of time, but Ruili did not do this, so Wu Yong firmly believes that Ruili is someone outside, otherwise she would not suddenly become so smart.
Of course, Wu Yong's suspicions are also well-founded, because when he is not divorced, he often finds that his wife chats with strangers on the short video platform, he is very puzzled, what is the use of listening to the warm words of those men on the Internet, who will not say it, but living a life is one thing, can not be full of fantasies all day.
Ruili did not deny it, bluntly said that before the divorce did like to play mobile phone brush video and chat, but this is also a reason, because with Wu Yong can not say three sentences, their own mobile phone brush video is just the same as watching TV, and the chat is also with friends chat, are women, and there is no opposite sex, it is not the kind of chat that Wu Yong wants at all.
At present, the mediator believes that mobile phones are loved by everyone, but it is also necessary to play appropriately without affecting life and feelings, and not to be too obsessed. But Ruili said that this is the reason for the real divorce, and divorce has nothing to do with playing mobile phones.
Through Ruili's mouth, it turned out that her father had a cerebral infarction, and Wu Yong, as a son-in-law, only gave 3,000 yuan for medical expenses, if so, it would be enough, but Wu Yong said that the 3,000 yuan was also borrowed, and then returned after being discharged from the hospital, because he still had to return it to his friends.
This incident made Ruili's heart cold, in her opinion, no matter which son-in-law, 3,000 yuan is definitely acceptable, only Wu Yong rectified this stubble, but after the old father was discharged from the hospital, in order not to let the two small mouths have a conflict, he returned 3,000 yuan to Wu Yong, originally thought that this matter would pass, but when his mother was also ill and hospitalized, Wu Yong's approach completely made Ruili cold.
Speaking of this, Ruili suddenly became emotional, trembling, and roared out the grievances in her heart with a roaring voice, my mother lay on the bed and could not move, 170 height, 140 weight weight lost to 90 pounds, what was the taste of my girlfriend's heart, and then Wu Yong said to me, let me only go to visit my mother once or twice a week on the line, this matter rests on who is good, the mother is like this, he still treats his mother like this, he is not a person.
At this time, Ruili's mood has never been calm, and the whole person is trembling, she said that this is the real reason for her divorce.
Hearing Ruili say this, Wu Yong also quickly explained, although her mother-in-law was sick, but she also had two children in her own family, so she hoped that Ruili would focus her attention on herself and the children, and she did say that she could go back once a week, after all, the two children also had to eat, but Ruili would go once in two or three days, and she had to go back at night, and she was angry and told her, and the words I said did not count.
Seeing that Wu Yong was still making excuses for herself, Ruili on the side was more excited, the whole person trembled more, she directly ran out of the room and squatted down and cried loudly, the mother helped raise the child to more than one year old, and the result did not fall to a little good.
And this side of Wu Yong still thinks that there is nothing wrong with him, but still doubts why Ruili resolutely left him, he said that he did not beat Ruili, nor did he scold Ruili, that is to say, let her go back a few times, but on this sentence, Ruili dared to propose a divorce, and she was still dead set on divorce.
The article is written here really do not know how to write it again, because it is too chaotic, plus Wu Yong is really too speechless, the biggest weakness of this person is the parents and children, if a woman can not get the care of her own man, when the parents are sick to give a few thousand yuan to take back, then no one can accept it.
If Ruili treats you the way you treat her, maybe you can already feel it, everyone is changing, the leaves are not yellow every day, people's hearts are not cold, when the disappointment is enough, it is time to leave.
We can understand that Wu Yong has been pestering Ruili for several years, nothing more than wanting to give the children a complete home, but for so many years you have been asking ruili according to your own ideas, never taking into account Ruili's inner feelings, how can such a marriage continue?
Finally, under the persuasion of everyone, Wu Yong also realized his mistake, and he was willing to stop pestering Ruili from now on, but Wu Yong also put forward a request, that is, the 8,000 yuan given to Ruili when he was divorced was returned, and then Ruili found a partner, no matter what he did, it had nothing to do with himself.
Ruili on the side did not think about it and agreed, using eight thousand yuan to exchange for a lifetime of purity, this is what she dreamed of, so the two sides reached an agreement, more than ten years of feelings will end here, to say that this Ruili was looking for a partner with closed eyes? After the divorce, the eight thousand yuan must also be taken back, which is really worthless for you, and I hope that in the future life, you can go out of your own way.
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