Speaking of smart phones, I believe that parents love and hate it, "love" is that mobile phones provide us with a lot of convenience, regardless of life and work are inseparable from it; to say "hate", mainly because many children play mobile phone games addicted, food is not good, homework is not done on time, from time to time at home staged a "mobile phone battle".
The phenomenon of teenagers addicted to mobile phones has attracted the attention of the education department and even the whole society, this is not, at this year's national two sessions, there are CPPCC members in an interview with media reporters said that the reason why teenagers are addicted to mobile phones is that many parents are "lazy". Some people say that mobile phones are not terrible, and what is terrible is that parents use mobile phones to replace themselves.
What are their parents doing when their kids play with their phones?
I usually need to take the subway to work, like the following scene can be said to be commonplace, such as some children sitting on the subway a little crying, the mother immediately stuffed him with a mobile phone to watch cartoons, the child immediately quieted down, the mother began to chat with friends around; for example, parents feel bored when taking the subway, so open the mobile phone to play games, parents have fun, the child is watching lively next to it.
During the Spring Festival, relatives gathered, there were several children at the dinner table, they quickly finished eating and began to frolic, the adults felt that the children were noisy, and immediately someone threw them a few mobile phones. Immediately, the children quieted down, skillfully opened their mobile phones to find the game they wanted to play, and several people gathered together without saying a word, all staring at the mobile phone screen deadly.
I often sigh that the mobile phone does not know since when it has become a "coaxing artifact"? Children don't eat; children disturb our work; children are noisy in public.... One phone can do it all.
Kids who love to play with mobile phones,
It is being stolen by mobile phones little by little away from health and learning ability
Many parents are accustomed to taking mobile phones to coax their children to make it convenient and convenient, of course, many parents are indeed helpless choices in their busyness. But they may not know what the child loses while playing with the phone.
Jobs, the "father of Apple's mobile phone", who did not allow his three children to play with iPads and mobile phones before he died, said: "We restrict children from using smart products at home. As a developer, he knows the harm that smart products can do to children.
Now, many children wear glasses early, mostly because of premature contact with electronic screens. Because most of the cartoons or children's games are colorful, the picture changes too quickly, and it is easy to fatigue the child's visual nervous system.
The light and shadow stimuli from electronic screens are intense, adapted to the fast-paced child, and it is difficult to concentrate attention in a relatively bland, static real-life environment. A primary school teacher said that more than half of the children who can't sit still, love to wander, and can't sit still and read books in class have the habit of playing with mobile phones and watching TV too much.
Teens addicted to mobile phones,
It was concerned by the deputies and members
At this year's National Two Sessions, the deputies and members also actively offered suggestions and suggestions to solve the problem of children's addiction to mobile games. Different from previous years, this year's deputies and members not only "pay attention to what children should do if they are addicted to mobile phones", put forward solutions and coping methods, but also look at the deep reasons behind children's addiction to mobile phones, and look for the relationship between teenagers' addiction to mobile phones and family education.
Ding Lei, a member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference and CEO of NetEase, said in an interview with the media that parents and society need to reflect on the reasons why teenagers are addicted to mobile phones. Many parents will let their children play mobile phones to liberate themselves because they are lazy. Society should provide more places for young people to play.
Yu Xinwei, member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference and vice president of Guangzhou University, called for home-school linkage to exert efforts from the aspects of system norms, technical research, and expansion of publicity, to control the premature and excessive use of electronic products by children and adolescents, and to cultivate healthy eye habits of children and adolescents.
At this year's two sessions, Xiao Shengfang, a deputy to the National People's Congress and president of the Guangdong Lawyers Association, brought 6 bills and 9 proposals, one of which was titled "Proposal on Completely Banning Smartphones from Entering Primary and Secondary School Campuses."
Listen to your child's voice ——
"Mom and Dad, please spend more time with me"
In order to prevent teenagers from becoming addicted to mobile phones, the education department has been working hard in recent years.
For example, the Ministry of Education issued an emergency notice in April last year, which put forward requirements for schools and parents, requiring schools to clarify the responsibility of educating teachers and staff in various positions of the school, implement the responsibility for preventing addiction to the Internet work to each management link, strengthen the management of noon, after class, etc., and standardize the use of mobile phones by students; at the same time, the "Notice" also proposes to promote parents to perform guardianship duties, such as parents to strengthen communication and exchanges with their children, especially to arrange their children's life after school and holidays.
In fact, I hope that parents will accompany their children and communicate more, which is not only the requirements put forward by the Ministry of Education for parents, but also the voice of many children.
In July last year, a bus worker in Zhengzhou, Henan Province, picked up a small cardboard box filled with handwritten letters, which wrote what children wanted to say to their parents before the summer vacation, "Mom, I want you not to play with mobile phones, and accompany me more in the future" "Dad, don't just play with mobile phones, accompany me more, I love your father." ”
In January this year, a third-grade student of Henan Luoyang International School Xiao Zhi's essay "Daddy, I want to say to you", was shared on the Internet by the language teacher, Xiao Zhi wrote in the composition: "Dad uses breakfast, get up, sleep and other time to play with his baby - mobile phone, as if he can't live without a mobile phone; Dad, as long as you can put down your phone, I'm willing to trade things for things, even my life. ”
These words make people listen to full of heartache!
Please put down your phone,
Give your child high-quality companionship!
Some parents think that as long as people are around their children, it is companionship, but in fact, it can only be regarded as "accompanying". Only when parents are truly devoted to accompanying their children can they observe in detail and truly understand their children's feelings.
Mobile phones are not a flood beast, and it is important to reach a consensus with children
In today's working life, the complete prohibition of the use of mobile phones is not practical and unnecessary, when parents need to use mobile phones, you can discuss with your children, so that you can set a good time, boundaries, and equal communication, so that the use of mobile phones to get the child's approval, the child will not have a sense of alienation.
When relying too much on mobile phones, self-discipline is required
When parents use mobile phones, not reasonable work or relaxation needs, but develop the habit of brushing mobile phones for no reason, special self-restraint is needed. Try to stay away from your phone and keep it out of your sight.
High-quality companionship requires love and emotional commitment
Parents and children should get along with listening, verbal and physical communication, and really devote themselves to accompanying children. In this way, we can truly understand the child's feelings, understand the inner needs behind his words and deeds, and see the child's progress.
Playing with mobile phones for a long time not only affects the physical and mental health of children, but also seriously affects vision.
In the problem of mobile phones affecting children's vision, relevant experiments have been made on this and the following conclusions have been drawn:
Playing with a 10-minute mobile phone is equivalent to watching 30 minutes of TV;
Playing on the phone for 20 minutes, the vision has approached the state of light resort myopia;
Playing with PAD electronics for 20 minutes, the tear film rupture moment is similar to that of dry eye patients.