The biggest difference between the modern version of love and the previous version is probably that modern people like to talk about love while watching the strategy.
The marriage of the old bottom, the progress depends on their own thinking. From "This sister I have seen" in the Red Chamber to "He loves me, he doesn't love me..." to picking up the petals, as long as you don't say it, I don't say it, everyone can be single for a lifetime.
The two modern love pushers, one is called Tao Baibai, and the other is called Tiger Poker JR (family). However, compared with Tao Baibai, who just caught fire this year, the emotional column that has existed for many years, Tiger Flutter, collects more people's complex emotional samples.
In 2021, the emotional story on the tiger pounce not only has the famous green literature, but even forms a strict emotional closed loop from blind date courtship to breakup and divorce.
How modern people can complete the emotional advancement through the help of netizens, we went to the Tiger Poker Pedestrian Street to see.
In addition to daily blowing water
Tiger Poker netizens are most concerned about falling in love
Hupu Pedestrian Street, equivalent to The Nanjing East Road of Cyber World, is full of neon lights and pedestrians coming and going.
Nowadays, as the center of the Hupu community, The Hupu Pedestrian Street has spawned a series of sub-sections. In addition to the "main road of the pedestrian street" (that is, Nanjing East Road itself), there are also many forks in the road such as "love area", "hot spot area" and "historical area" that spread around.
Among the forks in the road, the heat of the love zone is the highest. Here, on average, each post attracts 324,000 reads, nearly 60% higher than the second-place hotspot.
Passers-by netizens not only love to watch these emotional stories, but also love to pass by and speak. The average post in the dating zone was 148.7 responses, 22.1% higher than the second place "rational discussion board".
Netizens love to watch and love to talk, probably because the story here is bizarre enough (or outrageous), the words are novel enough, and the replies are curious enough.
Of the more than 8,000 posts we collected in total, the #3 hot (top 2 will be mentioned below) post titled "Girlfriend's girlfriend confessed to me, is this green tea?" ”
The post, which was born in August 2019 with 1.108 million views, tells an outrageous story like the title - a series of behaviors of the male protagonist make the girlfriend have an illusion, and after the sudden confession, the male protagonist panics to explain. During the pulling process, the girlfriend also threw out "You have time to look at her mobile phone more", suggesting that the male protagonist has been green.
(Source: Tiger poker user @ Bobo has a basketball dream)
The whole story brings together the plots of love, infidelity, being cheated on, and refusing to cheat, and gathers a number of dramatic characters such as stupid men, suspected unfaithful girlfriends, girlfriends who rob men, and passers-by who do heroic deeds.
Netizens who happen to pass by have also become the propeller of the legend of this story. At the end of the post, the male protagonist launched the "Is this girl green tea?" " survey. Of the 26,000 netizens who participated in the survey, 55% chose "yes" and 38% chose "it's hard to say." The top comment also replied that "more bloody may be colluding with your girlfriend to test you".
The story full of conflict, the refusal to face the characters, and the brain-opening netizens made this post one of the monuments of the pedestrian street love area.
The intricate plot reversals made Nolan feel brainy. But such a bizarre story is only a corner of the love zone.
Men want to prove themselves
Women want to understand differences
Through the titles, content and data of more than 8,000 posts in the love area, we found that the discussion in the love area usually revolves around 9 themes such as "blind date" and "ex-girlfriend".
Nowadays, the biggest emotional problem of straight men is how to talk about a reliable love. Judging from the data, among the 9 major themes in the Tiger Flutter Love Zone, the related posts of "blind date", "ex-girlfriend" and "girlfriend" ranked in the top three.
Although the content of the post is varied, the core pain point of straight men in the love area is to "prove personal value". Many of the JR who mention blind dates "ask for introduction" and "ask for knowledge", but more people want to know "why my blind date failed". Some people wonder why his girlfriend's mother always takes her on blind dates, and he doesn't know whether his girlfriend didn't officially declare his order, or whether his future mother-in-law didn't recognize him.
The straight man who mentions his girlfriend and ex-girlfriend wants to know why he can't reach a consensus with his girlfriend and keep his sweetheart. At the same time, some people hope to find out what kind of car the ex-girlfriend's current boyfriend is driving through a photo to prove whether they have "lost very thoroughly".
Out of empathy, but also out of the yearning for reliable love, passers-by not only love to watch this kind of content, but also love to make suggestions in the comment area. Judging from the average number of replies, posts with the theme of "girlfriend" can attract 477.8 replies. That number is 33.5 percent higher than second place.
Due to the high concentration of men in the Tiger Poker community, the love area has an atmosphere of answering each other's questions, and many female users with emotional confusion will also skip other sections and go straight to the love area.
Although the number of posts by women is small, they can often make a hit. Judging from the number of reads, 5 of the top 10 posts with the highest traffic in the history of the love zone are female JR's help posts.
Compared with men's confusion about personal value, women's need lies in understanding the logical differences brought about by gender.
In the 2019 post "The boy I met on a blind date ignored me", the 23-year-old landlord said that he listened to his girlfriend's advice and "wanted to get away with it" during the blind date. As a result, the male guests who had already impressed her became "indifferent", and she did not know what was happening without being in love. So she came to the tiger to report, looking for answers.
Similar posts include "Boyfriend temporarily overtime, I went to the movies with the opposite sex." What do you think? The landlord's boyfriend released pigeons because of temporary overtime, so she found a member of the opposite sex to watch movies and sent relevant circles of friends. She didn't understand why her boyfriend was furious, and left a vote after posting - "Is there a problem with the landlord doing this?" ”
These small things, which seem indifferent to their eyes, have been exchanged for unexpected results. They try to understand what these behaviors mean for men, under the explanation of Tiger Brother.
Although they may not really understand, the comments of tiger brothers are usually ruthless - "the most annoying girlfriend" "Selfish women do not keep the New Year? Of the 45,000-person vote, 93.4 percent of users also chose "The landlord problem is very big."
How the love zone makes people understand love
Part of the meaning of the existence of the love zone is theoretical, it is to ask "why" - why does he/she/it not want me; the other part of the meaning of the existence of the love zone is practical, it makes people ask "how" - what should I do?
At different stages of love, the practical answers THAT Tiger Poker JR looks for in the love zone are different.
In the pre-love stage represented by "blind date", everyone wants to know the girl, but they want to find their positioning in the "market" and recognize themselves.
In the mature period of love represented by "girlfriend" and "ex-girlfriend", everyone wants to know themselves and know each other. Although at the beginning of the relationship, everyone still posts their sweet chat records with their girlfriends from time to time to show off the "what level" to everyone, but the subsequent bitterness will follow.
For example, people have mentioned the "problem" many times. The contradiction between the size of the relationship makes the straight men understand the difference in thinking between men and women. In order to figure out what the problem is, they will not only find details in their own stories, but also learn from other people's stories.
For example, the keyword "zt" appears many times in the content related to "boyfriend". "zt" stands for "repost" in the Tiger Poker community, meaning that JR moved a post from somewhere else to the love zone. Straight men found some typical cases from platforms such as Xiaohongshu, Douban, Weibo, etc., and took them back to Hupu to share with the old brothers, find faults, and finally extracted to the key points and became a tool for dealing with emotional problems.
For example, one JR retweeted a post titled "Girlfriend suddenly asks if she's pregnant but the baby isn't mine." Just by looking at the title, JRs start to be "full of question marks". The content is even more confusing, in addition to the suspected cheating, the article also includes the bridge section where the girlfriend fights back with "this is your attitude to your girlfriend" after the boyfriend is angry.
A group of JR carefully analyzed and discussed under this post. This earnest study of the momentum is like the self-abuse of finding math problems from Jiangsu Province when I was a student.
Perfect love has a taste of mirror flowers after all, and there is no shortage of parting topics in the love area - such as breakups and divorces. If the focus of the first and middle periods of the relationship is on how to get it, how to "give up" is the problem brought about by breakups and divorces.
Finally, infidelity remains an inevitable topic of tiger poker. Despite feeling the hint of being green, the JR who posted still hopes to get some help, asking everyone to help "analyze" whether the other half is really cheating and how he should face it.
Although the results of the intimacy teaching on Tiger Flutter are not necessarily accurate, the responses in the comment area are often not very serious. But this kind of evening talk-like emotional crash course in the dormitory accurately reflects the anxiety of modern people in intimate relationships.
A satisfying relationship remains one of the most expensive luxuries in the adult world.
Resources:
1. Technology instigates hemp. Why do straight men in China love tiger poker? 2018.
2. Liang Chenglin. Anxious "Straight Men": An Analysis of Masculinity in the Tiger Po Online Community .2020.
3. Appreciation meter. The Economics of the Green Cap Behind the Failure of Tiger Punch Listing.2021.
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Author | Dong Daoli
Edited | Amy, Tang Yeqin
Data | Dong Daoli
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