In traditional Chinese thought, the father is in the family, and more is silent. This has many similarities with the controversial "widowed parenting" of recent years.
Many fathers are still the traditional "male outside, female inside" view.
However, in today's society, which advocates equality between men and women, and some mothers earn more than their fathers, then this traditional view needs to be changed.
In the new era of family education, what role should parents play separately?
The old saying goes: "Father's love is like a mountain, mother's love is like water"
1. The father affects the child's gender formation
The gender formation described here is not a biological sex, but a psychological sex.
People who are often known as psychological gender distortions are more caused by the incomplete participation of family members in the child's development when the child is still in infancy.
The male hormones emitted by male adults themselves will guide the children in the family, especially boys.
During the growth period of children, the lack of companionship of the elders of the opposite sex will make the child become heterosexual.
For example, boys are more feminine and lack masculine beauty; girls are more masculine and lack feminine beauty.
2. The father affects the child's personality formation
In the process of growing up, the father has the character of perseverance, bravery, optimism, and enthusiasm, which will make the child deeply affected.
The lack of character in the process of children's growth will make children more indecisive, hesitant in case of things, lack of responsibility, etc.
Girls, without the company of their father, will become very insecure. Even when you grow up, it will be easier to meet scumbags and be deceived by scumbags.
3. Fathers affect children's cognitive development
In the process of growing up, the father will pass on what he knows.
(Although, sometimes it's all outdated stuff)
I have seen many parents with short knowledge, after the child graduates, let the child go to the driver to drive people, go to the factory to pull coal and move bricks, go to the construction site to be a truck driver...
First of all, I don't mean to belittle the high and low nature of the profession, and the profession does not distinguish between noble and low. "Three hundred and sixty lines, lines out of the yuan"
It is only because the insight of parents has been somewhat unable to keep up with the pace of the development of the times.
Thanks to the rapid development of China's Internet in the past two decades. Our generation of post-80s and post-90s, with the help of the Internet, is really opening their eyes to see the world.
However, it has to be admitted that the knowledge and experience imparted by fathers in the early growth of children, especially in terms of survival skills, is extremely important.
The lack of children's survival skills will make it more difficult for children to integrate into the collective, or more difficult to integrate into society.
However, fortunately, in recent years, I have seen many parents think and have made great changes.
Thanks to our wave of higherly educated post-80s and post-90s, parenthood, the importance of family education is clearer.
It is no longer the era when I was a child: "Everything is inferior, but the reading is high".
More and more young parents after 85 and 90 are more willing to pay attention to the healthy development of their children's hearts.
Looking forward to the future, there will be more: the father, who is the father of the child; the mother, the mother of the child.
[Author of this article]: Secretary Zhang of Orangutan Village
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