Hoping for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is the expectation of every parent.
But if it is to promote the growth of seedlings, is it to let the child "win at the starting line" or "collapse at the starting line"?
Parents with high education in the family were originally lucky for their children, but recently a hot search for "Doctor Tiger Dad" because of its radical education methods, causing netizens to be angry.
A doctor in Nanjing, "Tiger Dad", forced the children of primary schools to learn high numbers, he often taught the knowledge of middle school and university to his two children, let the two children learn literature and higher mathematics, but the son is only 7 years old, in the first grade, the daughter is only 5 years old, still in kindergarten.
In the process of educating children, they often insult and insult children, and even beat them.
In desperation, my mother could only apply to the court for a protective order.
The court ruled that through relevant evidence and from relevant personnel for verification, the respondent's education method was improper, there was domestic violence against minors, and the respondent was prohibited from committing domestic violence against the child and his relevant close relatives.
This case is indeed quite impressive!
Children are the future of the family.
How to educate children and let children thrive is a problem worthy of serious reflection by every parent.
Parents should carefully observe and discover that the development of children has their own strengths, awaken the child's talent, and pay full attention to the child's physical, psychological and intellectual development, and educate them with correct thoughts, methods and behaviors.
Instead of imposing difficult words and high numbers on children.
A "Children's Potential Self-Examination Table" launched by the People's Daily is worth a look, patient guidance for children, and then strive to develop further education in accordance with children's talents.
01
Language talent
If the child excels in 1, 8, or 17, it means that he may have a good talent for language.
For a child with a talent for language, parents should always ask him to describe some object, an event, a natural phenomenon, etc., and often provide him with books on this subject.
For example, the easiest and most straightforward approach is to ask a few more "what is this" and encourage your child to answer it in complete sentences.
"Can you describe to me the cartoon you just watched?"
"What stories did the teacher tell in class today?"
Most of a child's language skills depend on the environment at that time, and parents should enter a lot of vocabulary for their children when they are able to reach their potential.
02
Mathematical talent
If the child excels in articles 3, 7, and 15, it means that he may have a talent in mathematics and logic.
In daily life, parents can use some interactive games to enlighten their children in mathematics.
Give him some completely messy toys and he'll categorize them in categories.
Climb the stairs together and then launch a contest invitation: "See who climbs the stairs faster, counts more, and there is a reward for going home", helping children to make a connection between the number of steps and the abstract numbers.
This kind of child may not have satisfactory math grades after school, but his potential in this regard should not be doubted.
Because math is not just a calculation, but a way of thinking, it also determines whether a child is creative and has a sense of rules.
Before the age of 6, children are the golden age of mathematical enlightenment, and cultivating their interest in mathematics is better than all the indoctrination and rote memorization.
03
Spatial cognitive talent
If the child excels in 4, 11, and 13, it means that he has a good talent for spatial cognition.
The stage when the child is 0-6 years old is also a period of "space sensitivity".
In their daily lives, they like to pull things from high places to the ground, or stuff things into small holes, and constantly push down and build their blocks.
He has a rich imagination and has a keen interest in painting and mechanical assembly.
You should take him on a long trip and let him play a game of drawing maps from an early age.
04
Musical talent
If the child excels in 6, 12, and 18, it means that he may have good musical talent.
Musical Intelligence: Refers to the sensitivity to rhythm, tone, melody, and timbre.
These include the ability to perceive, discern, express, appreciate and create.
When the child is very young (2 or 3 years old), he pays special attention to listening to regular sounds, as long as there is music, he will stare wide-eyed and listen attentively, and the degree of concentration he shows at this time is not even comparable to that of a seven- or eight-year-old child, which shows that he has great potential in music.
To develop your child's musical talents, you can say some words, phrases, simple sentences, and shoot rhythms, or listen to animal sounds to make movements.
05
Physical kinesthesis
If the child excels in 5, 9, or 14, it means that he may have a good sense of physical movement.
It is said that every child is a natural dancer, because at a very young age, children like to express their emotions by dancing and bouncing with their hands.
Stimulating the child's physical kinesthesis is actually to stimulate the neuronal cells in the child's brain about movement and let them grow more fully.
Through designed games to increase children's interest in sports, such as "train drilling cave", parents can lie down to complete the arch of the body, so that the child can drill through the middle.
06
Social skills
If the child is outstanding in the 2nd, 10th, and 19th, then it means that he has good social skills.
When a child is able to make involuntary judgments and reflections on himself and others, he often has the potential to interact, communicate, and organize with others.
They are very good at taking care of other people's emotions and often think differently.
If your child is such a "social talent", be sure to give them enough feedback and express gratitude or praise in a timely manner.
Usually, you can also take your children to contact unfamiliar environments, create more opportunities to meet and interact with children, and expand your children's interpersonal circle.
These can not only help children establish healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships, but also play a positive role in sound personality and high emotional intelligence.
07
Self-awareness
If the child can have outstanding performance in 10, 16, or 20, then he has a good talent for self-awareness.
Self-perception determines a person's personality characteristics, emotional changes, values, life direction and goals.
Some scholars have tested more than 1,000 children with talent, and found that 80% of Chinese children have low self-awareness talent, ranking last in the 7 major talent fields.
Think clearly about who you are, what you want to do, learn to talk to your future, know what kind of rhythm you are suitable for, and while embracing life hard, you can also see the beauty around you.
Every child is a seed of a flower with a chance to germinate.
Some flowers, a few drops of dew can bloom brilliantly, and some flowers, it takes a long time to water.
Don't complain because other people's flowers bloom, each flower has its own flowering period, just watch quietly.