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"There is more than one successful parenting experience, but unsuccessful parenting experiences are often the same mistakes."
What is the essential label for a good family? Wife and husband handsome? Or do you eat and wear without worry?
When they first got married, the elders' expectations for the newlyweds were nothing more than family harmony, and at the age when they should have children, the elders' teaching became "establish family rules for children, don't over-indulge."
There are no rules and no squares, but you know what? In a harmonious family environment, house rules should not only be used for new members, but also for the wife's "strongest comrades-in-arms".
Some time ago, a baoma's "tutoring experience" swept the screen network. Everyone sighed: behind the original happy family, these "rules" can not be less.
After raising a baby, the mother should make rules for the father in time, and these family rules will make the father reliable and sublimate the love
As a new father and mother, in addition to being happy and excited, it is more about facing the uncertainty of the future.
The birth of a child is a good thing, but for new parents, how to better cultivate their children and let their children develop in the right direction of life from the beginning is still a big problem.
To this end, many mothers have gone through the parenting scriptures and set one set of rules after another for their children, trying to create a "perfect baby" from every aspect of his life.
After tossing and turning for a while, I found that the "strongest comrade-in-arms" - Bao Dad is unreliable, and what parenting is in vain!
If you want to make the "strongest comrade-in-arms" reliable, you must learn this set of house rules.
"Should not be paid, less overtime", let the father also participate in the "parenting circle"
The personality traits of women and men determine the division of labor arrangement of "female protagonist inside and male male outside" after giving birth. In order to give better care to their newborn children, most mothers will choose to rest at home and become a "full-time mother".
Stay-at-home moms spend more time with their children and are relatively closer to their children than dads who need to go out to work. And the father, because of overtime or busy work, gradually moved away from the "parenting circle" formed by his wife and children.
In the growth of children, the lack of father's responsibilities will make children have the assumption of "single-parent family", and children who lack paternal love for a long time will have higher psychological maturity and frequency of mistakes.
If you want your child to grow up healthily, dads need to find a good balance between work and life, and develop the habit of going home after work.
"Tutoring homework and playing with each other" to increase interaction with children
Parenting is a heavy task, blindly handing over the burden to the mother, not only greatly increases the workload of the mother, but also is not conducive to the healthy development of the child's body and mind.
For children, father's love is like a mountain, and mother's love is like water. They continue to be guided by gentle and considerate maternal love, and they also need strong and powerful fatherly support.
When the father is absent in the family education, the children who have lost the companionship of the father may have a series of psychological problems.
After work, dads can share the burden of mothers, accompany their children to do homework, or exercise outdoors together, and enhance parent-child feelings and reduce distance by increasing interaction.
"Don't argue in front of the child", take care of the child's emotions
Living under the same roof, it is inevitable that there will be bumps.
The same is true between husband and wife, when the contradiction arises, most couples are directly quarreling, ignoring the children who are still staying aside, the rhetoric is fierce, and even pulling out words such as "divorce and separation" at every turn.
In the eyes of adults, such quarrels are nothing more than a momentary angry words, and it is natural to lose their temper; but for children who are worried that their parents will leave them, every quarrel between parents is like igniting the fuse of family breakdown.
If you want your child to grow up happily, "not arguing in front of your child" is a very critical issue. When an unavoidable quarrel arises, if the child is present, the couple can first control their emotions, bypass the topic of discussion, and then continue to solve the problem when they leave the child's sight.
Write at the end
Behind a good family relationship, there must be a joint effort of both husband and wife, once one of them is absent, the consequences may be unimaginable.
In the traditional concept of family, the role of dad seems to be permanently excluded, which makes the child lose the complete family experience and also affects the value cultivation on his growth path.
Smart mothers, when making "rules" for their children, don't forget the father's share.