In "The Story of Rose", Fang Xiewen asked Huang Yimei to lose her job in Shanghai and take care of the baby alone at home in order to let Huang Yimei belong only to herself.
When it was time to eat that day, Fang Xiewen happened to come home and saw Huang Yimei telling her 3-year-old baby daughter not to put the metal in the microwave oven, it would be fried, he was very curious, "My daughter is so young and can't cook, why do you tell her this?" ”
Although Huang Yimei heard his subtext, "You won't be able to cook in the future, the child will start teaching her how to cook at such a young age?" Is this going to be left alone? ”
However, Huang Yimei did not demolish him, but told him to let her know the common sense of life since she was a child.
Later, her daughter spilled the milk, Fang Xiewen thought that Huang Yimei would go to help, but she didn't expect Huang Yimei to continue to cook her own food, and at the same time asked her daughter, the milk got on her body, how did we say what to do last time, and how did your mother teach you at the beginning? The daughter hummed, and then went to wash the dirty clothes herself.
This scene made Fang Xiewen stunned, puzzled, "You just let her wash it herself?" How old is she? ”
Huang Yimei said, "If I can't wash it clean, I will wash it again, and my self-care ability is to be cultivated from an early age." ”
For this scene, many people are very much in favor of Huang Yimei's approach, just as in the book "Key Help in the Critical Period", the child educator Li Yueer starts from the law of children's natural development, dismantles the various critical periods of children's development, and advocates "let children get the right help at the right time." ”
The critical period for 3-4 year olds is to find spiritual pleasure. They will become interested in work, will learn to integrate into the group, build friendships, and become more self-reliant at this stage, and have a certain ability to take care of themselves in life.
After reading this book, what impressed me the most is that parents should understand in advance the various critical periods that their children will encounter in the process of development, and have a preliminary prediction of the actions and psychological changes that their children will undertake, so that children can develop freely within a wide range.
For example, children aged 0-2 are the critical period of mouth, eyes, hands, and legs, and they want to gnaw when they see it, look at it when they see it, grasp it when they see it, and go where they are uneven.
For 1-2 year olds, in addition to the physical perceptual development, the spirit of exploration is also taking root, they like to explore objects, and they also learn language in the process.
For 2-3-year-old children, begin to develop "consciousness", from the beginning of stubbornness and sensitivity, to the later control of emotions, for the imagination of the relationship between things, at this stage parents need to tolerate their children, but also to provide children with hands-on, brain-moving workspace, comfort children so that they can learn to recognize emotions.
From 0 to 7 years old, children are integrated into the kindergarten and into the primary society, but in this process, there are too many educational misunderstandings to avoid, and the child's personality needs to be cultivated.
This is an era of growing up with children, and it is also necessary for parents to dedicate to their children "teaching people to fish, it is better to teach people to fish".
Let's think together, have you done a key job of helping your child during the critical period of growth?
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