For a family, the child is the icing on the cake, he is the source of vitality of a family and the bond of a family, no matter which parent's love for the child is completely impeccable. Therefore, we cannot question the love of every parent for their children, but some of the "ways" of love are not so correct, and may even harm the children.
"The sister is the child born to the mother, you are picked up under the bridge," Bao Mom joked, changing the child's personality
Yuxi is a very cheerful person, who loves to laugh and make trouble on weekdays, and whoever does it with her will be laughed by her for half a day. Yuxi has two daughters, the eldest daughter is very quiet and well-behaved on weekdays, although only 10 years old, but the little girl is very sensitive, Yuxi bluntly said that this girl does not look like her own, but the second daughter has a big grin and is very similar to her.
On weekdays, the Yuxi family jokes and plays with the eldest daughter on the side, laughing and watching quietly, never participating in it, once the eldest daughter suddenly asked Yuxi, "Mom, am I your daughter?" Yuxi listened for a moment and said, "Why do you ask that?" The eldest daughter said, "People say that my personality is not like yours." Yuxi wanted to tease the eldest daughter and said, "Well, in fact, you picked it up by me, and my sister was born to me." ”
After saying that Yuxi saw that the face of the eldest daughter suddenly changed, the tears of the bean big dripped down, yuxi quickly went forward to coax, while saying, "Mother teases you, of course you are born by your mother, otherwise how can you grow so much like me!" ”
For several days, the eldest daughter did not like to talk, and her husband asked Yuxi what was going on, and she answered truthfully and was seriously criticized by her husband, saying, "How can such a joke be opened!" The child is so young that she will believe whatever you say, you don't mean to make your daughter sad! Yuxi's heart was also very unpleasant, in fact, after saying that sentence, he regretted it, and now he could only try his best to coax her.
Adults always like to tease children in their own way and have fun with them, but they don't know that the impact of these ways of teasing children is very large, so stop these ignorant behaviors!
Our most common verbal teasing of children is not only to say "you are not biological", but also to say "no matter how you are, your mother does not want you!" These words seem to have become the mantra of some parents, as a way for them to entertain their children and to say to their children in order to achieve some purpose, but in fact, these words will really leave a deep imprint on the hearts of children, making them feel frightened. Over time, children will become sensitive and suspicious, and the impact on their personality and mental health is very large, if there are these habits, parents should stop these verbal provocations!
There are also some parents who like to take their children to "fly high", throw the child high and then catch it, and then repeatedly throw it up, this process will make the child laugh, and the parents will throw more and more vigorously, and regard this behavior as a "treasure book of coaxing", but the safety hazard of doing so is very large.
It is true that every parent is from the perspective of amusing their children, and they are confident that they can catch their children, but what is an accident? It is something that happened unexpectedly with serious consequences. Suppose that if a child falls off a wrong hand, the consequences may be irreparable, so stop this behavior! There are many ways to play with children, don't choose this high risk factor.
Another way that adults generally like to make fun of children is to feed children to drink. Some parents or grandparents will feed the wine at the dinner table when the child is a few months old, usually with a chopstick dipped in a little wine and then let the child lick it, and finally the child's spicy teeth grinning or even crying when the whole family will be "amused" haha.
What an ignorant and infuriating act! The harm of alcohol to adults should not be underestimated, let alone for children whose bodies are still developing or even some organs are not very mature and stable? It is recommended that some parents stop or stop this behavior in time!
As a qualified parent, do not take the recreation of children as a way to enjoy themselves, children need our good care, they are as fragile as the sprouts of small beans, need parents to carefully care, rather than the Internet said "to have a child is to play", in fact, this sentence shows the parents' irresponsibility! There is also a timely stop in the face of other people in the family teasing the child in an incorrect way, and fully do a good job of the child's "protective umbrella".