In the criteria for women's mate selection, many women have put "good for me" in the first place, and this standard even exceeds the importance of money, status, appearance, and work, and has always been at the top of the list. This shows how important it is in a woman's mind to be good enough for her.
A woman can not want a lot of money, but she must want a man's wholehearted love and unreserved goodness. A woman is easily captured by such a man, and from then on, she has only him in her heart.
A woman who has not been hurt in the relationship will never understand, and a man's kindness to a woman will also become a poison in the relationship, especially when the woman can't stop the man but whisks his sleeve away, and his departure will make the woman "terminally ill". No wonder some people say that the way to ruin a woman is very simple, as long as you desperately try to be good to her.
Perhaps while accepting the kindness of men to her, a woman should also ask herself, do you want love in the long run, or a fleeting wind and snow moon? As Shakespeare said, "Less passionate love lasts forever." ”
When a man gives you his life's best in a short period of time, then in the next few days, you will either face him who is no longer good to you, or you will lose him forever. No matter how good a man is to you, even if he picks the stars in the sky and gives them to you, he still can't stop him from preparing to leave your steps.
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Friend Zimu is 32 years old and has never been in love since breaking up five years ago. Her parents worry about her marriage, her friends worry about her feelings, and her girlfriends worry that she will not dare to fall in love in the future. All of Zimu's friends know that her ex-boyfriend was particularly kind to her and chased her for half a year before the two of them established a relationship. However, in a year, Zimu was abandoned.
The ex-boyfriend broke up with only one sentence, "I don't feel anything for you anymore." Zi Mo didn't know where he was wrong, but he couldn't sleep in the countless nights after the breakup, thinking over and over again about what he had done wrong, why did he have to break up?
Zimu has not been able to think of the answer, what she can think of is the ex-boyfriend once had all kinds of thoughtfulness and understanding for her.
When the ex-boyfriend pursued Zi Mo, Zi Mo casually said that she liked pink walls, and the next day, he painted his room all pink. When he took a picture to show Zi mo, her mouth was "O" shaped. Zi Mo once said in the circle of friends that she liked a blind box very much, but there were still a few who could not buy it. So he dismantled a dozen blind boxes in order to find the doll she liked.
There are too many such things, so after the breakup, Zi Mo can no longer love anyone. She couldn't forget her ex-boyfriend's kindness to her, just as his hurt to her had always been. Zi Mo thought, men who are so good to her will change, how can she believe that there will be unchanged men in this world?
The ex-boyfriend had desperately been good to Zi Mo, and Zi Mo never thought that his good would one day ruin her expectations and yearning for love.
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The influence of her ex-boyfriend on Zimu is that she does not dare to believe in love anymore, it is her fear of love, it is her difficult choice in the face of love, it is her disillusionment with love, it is her obsession with the past and it is difficult to let go.
Once a woman has experienced vigorous love, it is difficult for her to accept plain love anymore. Accustomed to eating big fish and big meat, naturally not used to rice and vegetables; accustomed to the life of wind and snow, how can it be content to be in the long flow of thin water?
Zimu should come out of her past feelings, no matter how good her ex-boyfriend was to her, his departure fully proved that he did not love her so much. Even if all past love is true, so what? The road ahead is still long, and there is no need for Zimu to ruin her love and marriage because of a man.
No matter how long that road is, no matter how long it takes, she should learn to be grateful for his kindness to her. When the man waved goodbye, he arched his hand and said, "The green mountains do not change, the green water is always flowing, and there will be a period later." ”
Accept everything in the past, don't care whether that love is true or not, and learn to forget the past, because that is letting go of yourself. Since you have ever received the good of the other party, you must learn to be grateful, grateful for his appearance, grateful for his efforts.
Each other did not go to the end, perhaps the fate is not enough, or the personality is not compatible, or the other party has a better candidate. No matter what kind of possibility, the result is already predestined, and only by truly accepting this result from the heart can we start a new tomorrow.
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Sometimes, a woman's memory is too good is not a good thing, and a woman may be trapped in the memory and cannot walk out of the ivory tower of the past for a long time. Whether a woman is willing to admit it or not, a man's kindness to her lasts only a short time, but the destruction of her may be continuous, long-lasting, uninterrupted. If Zi Mo had known that her ex-boyfriend's goodness would have made her have a shadow on love, presumably, her pursuit of him would definitely retreat.
Let go of the past, forget the past, his kindness to her is real, and his departure is also real. If so, there are no regrets for each other, why can't we wave goodbye?
Want to tell all men that if you're not planning on spending time with a woman, please don't be too nice to her because she really can't afford it.
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