Falling in love is a process of mutual screening, and you will find out in the process of falling in love whether the other party is really suitable for you, and what kind of other half you want to find.
If you find out in the middle of the relationship that the other party is the wrong person, you must stop the loss in time.
Don't think that the other person will become the right person, the wrong is the wrong, just like the right choice for a problem is only A, and he is just a B.
Single people hope that they can get off the list as soon as possible and learn to swim in the ocean of love.
However, many people have clearly entered the siege of love, but they themselves do not know it.
Wang Min was like this, Lin Li loved her, everyone saw it, only she herself did not realize it.
Wang Min and Lin Li are classmates at the university.
Lin Li is the class leader, and he and every classmate in the class are quite familiar.
Only for Wang Min, he always seemed to have an opinion on her.
Later, Lin Li said that this was to attract her attention.
Lin Li would deliberately chat with Wang Min and ask the classmates what they thought and opinioned about him.
Wang Min said: "You shouldn't ask me about this, you should ask yourself what benefits you have worked for us." ”
At the New Year's party, Lin Li asked Wang Min to perform a program, saying that everyone was dancing a group dance.
But when it really came to the day of the performance, it became Wang Min's solo dance.
Fortunately, Wang Min had a dance foundation before, otherwise it would be embarrassing.
Every morning, Lin Li will bring breakfast to Wang Min, and the breakfast comes in a variety of forms.
Wang Min asked Lin Li, "Are you trying to chase me?" ”
Lin Li said, "I didn't, I just bought one more copy." ”
For a few days, Lin Li didn't know what he was busy with in the morning and didn't bring breakfast to Wang Min.
At this time, Wang Min began to get used to it, she had never taken the initiative to contact Lin Li before, but now she missed him very much and wanted to know what had happened to him.
At Christmas, Lin Li suddenly ran downstairs to Wang Min's dormitory, took a guitar and sang to himself.
Wang Min wanted to know what Lin Li wanted to do, but the words had not yet been asked, and he felt that he was still very good at singing, so he did not interrupt him.
After Lin Li finished singing, he got up and left, leaving Wang Min alone and scratching his head.
Wang Min had some good feelings for Lin Li, but Lin Li said that he didn't want to chase her, and he really didn't know what he wanted to do.
When Wang Min was menstruating, he didn't know how Lin Li knew about this matter.
That day, Wang Min was lying alone in the dormitory, resting, when he suddenly heard someone knocking on the door.
Wang Min asked who was and no one agreed, opened the door and looked, and there were two packs of brown sugar on the ground.
Looking not far away, Lin Li stood there smiling foolishly at her.
Wang Min cried and laughed, what kind of a boy is this?
How can there be an angelic side and a little devil side?
When Wang Min used to chat with Lin Li, Lin Li said that the fruit he hated the most was durian.
Wang Min smiled and said that her favorite fruit was durian.
Later, every time the durian was in full bloom, Lin Li would always buy the most delicious durian for Wang Min.
He said to her, "If it weren't for you, I wouldn't want to see durian in my life." ”
On the night the two were engaged, Wang Min had just eaten durian, and she did a very bold thing and took the initiative to kiss Lin Li.
Lin Li was confused, all along, everything he did to Wang Min was because he liked her.
He had not yet confessed to Wang Min, but Wang Min took action first.
After a kiss, Wang Min and Lin Li established a romantic relationship, and since then, Lin Li has also fallen in love with the taste of durian.
Two people have a hazy feeling about each other, as if love is not love, can not see will miss, see and do not know what to say.
Sometimes deliberately provoking the other party to be angry, deliberately cold to the other party, but at a certain moment, showing the caring and considerate side.
If this is not love, I really don't know what else can be regarded as love.
How can two people be in love?
From the love story of Wang Min and Lin Li, the four elements of love are simply summarized, which is for your reference only.
01
Will miss
When you reserve a place for a person in your heart, you will definitely miss him.
Just like Wang Min and Lin Li, Lin Li brought breakfast to Wang Min every day, and when she didn't deliver it for a few days, it was when she began to miss him.
When Lin Li had become a part of Wang Min's life, she probably didn't even know that he had quietly settled into her heart.
Missing someone must be a feeling in love.
If you don't care if a person is not around you, even if you are in a relationship, it is just a fake love.
Love without missing does not exist, and only missed love cannot last long.
Love also requires two people to invest and pay for each other, so that each other can have gains.
02
Would be romantic
No one would dislike romance, whether it's a man or a woman, no matter how old or young they are.
Romance is a kind of nostalgia, an emotion, an atmosphere created for the person you love.
Although the other person never said "I love you" or "Can you be my girlfriend".
But in fact, his every move has made such a confession.
Lin Li's mouth was hard, and he did not admit that he wanted to pursue Wang Min, nor did he admit that he had a good feeling for her.
However, when he sang for Wang Min, everyone could see that he liked her.
Wang Min did not think in that direction because of Lin Li's previous denial.
03
Would be considerate
Men's thoughtfulness toward women is often reflected in subtleties.
Lin Li will send Wang Min an early breakfast and brown sugar to her during her menstrual period.
In the adult world, it seems that these are trivial and insignificant.
But in the world of college students, these little things are already very warm.
What women enjoyed and liked, at that stage at the time, this unique thoughtfulness was really enough.
There are some things that are worth remembering and cherishing for a lifetime.
When these memories with great love are remembered years later, they never fade.
That feeling still exists.
That kind of heartbeat will still come to mind and linger.
04
Will change
No one can keep themselves in a relationship all the time. Those who insist on being themselves in the process of falling in love are often unloving to their lovers.
If he loves, how can he be willing to let the stab wound on his body hurt the other party?
Love is a process of mutual change, mutual tolerance, and mutual concession.
Lin Li deals with the durian he hates the most for Wang Min.
After the two fell in love, he also fell completely in love with durian.
If the direction of this matter changes, Lin Li asks Wang Min not to eat durian in the future, then he is not truly in love with her.
Love is a kind of acceptance, in addition to accepting the strengths and weaknesses of the other party, but also accepting that the other party is completely different from yourself.
Two people together, how can it be considered to be in love?
I believe that everyone's opinion is different.
There is no standard for this matter itself, and the above four points are just the feelings and emotions that are often found in love.
If you feel differently and your emotions are different, it doesn't matter, it's just that the way you love each other is different, there is no right or wrong.
As long as you can get nourishment in the process of falling in love, everything is the best arrangement.
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Author | Mo An holds a certificate as a psychological counselor of the Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security, and has a lot of practical experience in the original family, long-term relationship, love redemption, marriage repair, and single removal. Trained in emotionally oriented marriage therapy, gestalt therapy, etc. Good at training the ability to resolve conflicts and manage love. Let's learn love together and enjoy love.