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You may not have read the inspirational book "The Weakness of Human Nature", which swept the world, was well-known, and helped many people get rid of poverty and get rich, and achieved a counterattack in life, but you must have heard the name Dale Carnegie.
He is not only a famous master of interpersonal relations in the United States, but also the founder of modern interpersonal relationship education in the West. He has also been named the greatest spiritual teacher of the 20th century.
Over the years, he has devoted himself to adult education, helping countless people find their own position in life and achieve a magnificent reversal of life, and the book "The Weakness of Human Nature" is the master of his thoughts.
In this book, we can find our own position, understand how to get along with others with high quality, and gain the respect and confidence of others.
Interpersonal communication is not as difficult as imagined, as long as you find the right skills and methods, everyone can become a popular person, closer to success, even successful people.
Therefore, this book is also known as the most practical, classic, and best-selling reference book for people. It can be said that after understanding the wisdom of life in this book, we will go much smoother in the future.
The following six classic quotations are excerpted from "The Weakness of Human Nature", some of which are related to getting along with the inner self, and some are related to getting along with others. Understanding these two points, life is not so difficult.
01: Hate can't hurt the other party's hair, but make his life into purgatory.
Have you ever hated someone? Probably many people will answer yes, no matter what the cause of hatred, the result is the same. These hatreds are like a stone, weighing heavily on our hearts, and the further we go, the more difficult it is.
And what about those we hate? It may be as if nothing had happened and still live well. Take a closer look, is this hatred really necessary?
We don't have to rush to forgive each other, but we must remember not to let this hatred affect our existing life, not only is it not worth it, but it is not smart.
02: Many of the troubles in life stem from blindly comparing with others and forgetting to enjoy their own lives.
Many people will feel very tired of living, often deeply confused, but in fact, many times of tiredness and confusion are unnecessary, which is imposed on themselves.
If you don't see someone buy a million cars, you may not feel that your hundreds of thousands of cars are very bad; if other people's children do not report tens of thousands of cram schools, you may not feel that there is anything in hundreds of cram classes.
Many times the pain and trouble come from blind comparison, but sooner or later one day you will understand that the day is your own, and has nothing to do with others. Instead of thinking about this, it is better to find ways to improve ourselves and live our own lives well, which is what we should really care about.
03: What you think of as you is not the real you, how you think, but what kind of person you will become.
People have a certain degree of subjective initiative, life is also full of various possibilities, and everything around us is changing, including ourselves. The only constant in the world is probably change.
Therefore, what we think of as ourselves at this stage is not the whole, complete, and true self, but only a part of ourselves at a certain stage.
As long as we want, the future can become whatever we want. Don't feel a little idealistic, sometimes positive psychological cues will make things more effective.
For this reason, do not be limited to the narrow world in front of you, your gaze should be the stars and the sea, only if the pattern is large enough and you can see far enough, can we live more and more freely.
04: The way to cultivate self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do and get a record of a successful experience.
Do you also often feel inferior? In fact, inferiority is a very common emotion, as long as it does not develop into an extreme, to the point of blind denial of oneself, so as to affect normal work and life, it does not matter.
If you want to build self-confidence, the best and most useful way is to overcome psychological barriers and do things that you have been afraid to do, and when you do take that step, whether the result is good or bad, you have gained a valuable experience.
With such a start, it will be much easier to move forward slowly in the future.
As soon as it starts, the most difficult time has passed, and the more hesitant and dare not try, the easier it is to fall into the small circle you have set for yourself, so that the more you live, the more screwed.
05: An immature person can always make excuses for himself to cover up some of their own shortcomings.
Truly mature people have always dared to face their shortcomings, and only by facing these shortcomings can they have the opportunity to improve. If you always think about hiding and escaping, it will only lead to aggravation of the problem.
No one is perfect, each of us has all kinds of shortcomings, which is not a kind of misfortune, the real misfortune is that there is always a way to make excuses, to cover up these shortcomings, and then to deceive ourselves, to tell ourselves that these do not exist.
Mature people dare to face the true self, good and bad are all accepted; immature people are just the opposite, they live more and more hypocritical, more and more confused, only to get farther and farther away from the desired self.
06: The most important thing is not whether anyone loves us, but whether we deserve to be loved.
Marx said that man is the sum of social relations, that we cannot exist alone apart from the society as a collective, and that is why the desire for certain attention, affection and affection is almost predestined.
However, if you want to be truly loved, the first thing to do is to make yourself worthy of being loved, only those who know how to love themselves can win the favor and respect of others, because at this time, you have a kind of ability to love.
As sociologist Li Yinhe once said, if a person wants to win the love of the opposite sex, he must first have the ability to love. If you don't know what love is, then even if someone loves you, you won't feel it.
Therefore, instead of finding ways to win the attention of others, it is better to find ways to improve yourself first. Make yourself worthy of being loved and glowing, and others will naturally seek the light.
Dale Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature" is full of great wisdom in life, which can not only teach us how to get along with others, but also teach us how to get along with others.
If you also want to become a successful person and a popular person, you may wish to enter his ideological realm, refresh your original three views, and believe that you will have a new understanding.
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