The magnetic field in parents is the energy of children's growth

Children are natural receivers, sensing the breath and magnetic field of their parents at all times.

Children who live under the positive magnetic field of their parents will thrive and grow up to be what we expect.

Author | Pearl Mother

Recently, I saw this phrase on the Internet:

"It's completely different to get along with different people. Some people recharge you, chat with him, and you will be resurrected with blood; Some people only consume electricity, and if you say a word to him, you feel like you can live a few days less. ”

In fact, the same is true between family members.

Children need to replenish energy, just as mobile phones need power.

And the energy field of a family is created by the parents themselves.

Visionary parents will use magnetic fields to nourish and recharge their children.

Bookish magnetic field

Educator Sukhomlinsky said:

"The way to make children smarter is not to increase the amount of homework, but to read, read, and read again."

Someone has counted the occupations of parents in the college entrance examination in various provinces in the decade from 2007 to 2016.

It was found that the highest proportion was teachers, as high as 35.09%.

Compared with other parents, although the parents of teachers are not the highest income, they are the most aware of creating a reading atmosphere.

Just like a candidate surnamed Cui who scored 700 points in this year's college entrance examination.

When talking about parenting experience, his father said: He rarely interferes with his children, but he likes to buy books, and his home is equivalent to a small library.

On weekdays, he rarely uses mobile phones and tablets.

True deprivation is never material inadequacy, but spiritual impoverishment.

In a family where everyone loves to read, children can not only be contaminated with the aroma of books, but also have a tenacious spirit.

Remember the story of Su Zhengmin, a guy from the Yi ethnic group?

He was born in Daliangshan, Sichuan, a well-known poverty-stricken area in the country, and when his mother was pregnant with him, she often had to rely on wild vegetables to feed herself.

But Father Su was extremely fond of reading, and in the face of the astonished eyes of the whole village, he insisted on sending his children to school for education.

It's just that Su Zhengmin, who went to school, was not easy.

He had to walk two or three hours a day to get to school, and sitting in the classroom, because he couldn't understand the teacher's lectures because of the Yi language from the novel.

But Su Zhengmin never gave up, and after experiencing a series of twists and turns such as dropping out of school and resuming school, he was finally admitted to Zhongnan University of Economics and Law and became the first 211 university student in the village.

In Schwarzman's heart, all of this is inseparable from his father's encouragement and the edification of books.

When he graduated in 2022, he wrote 6,000 words of thanks, recalled his experience, thanked his parents, and touched countless people.

The old home in the world for hundreds of years is nothing more than accumulation of virtue, and the first good thing in the world is to study.

As parents, the best nourishment we can give our children is an atmosphere of turning books often and reading diligently.

There is a good saying: "There are many kinds of incense in the world, flowers, rice, sandalwood... And the most intriguing thing is the smell of books. ”

Children who grow up in a home of books, reading will be their instinct.

With books as armor and knowledge as weapons, they can be calm and rational at all moments of life.

Sunlight magnetic field

Some time ago, a friend from my hometown came to my home as a guest.

I saw her frowning and asked what was going on.

So the friend opened the chatterbox, saying that he had spent money and effort to send his children to school in the city, and who knew that before two months, the teacher would find him.

It is said that the child is full of things and is always distracted in class. The point is that he also wrote in the weekly record that he was not saved.

After careful questioning, I realized that because of school, my friends always complained to their children at home.

Talk about how difficult it is to make money yourself, how hard it is to raise children, and in the end, they all fall into a bad fate, and there is no considerate person around.

These words invisibly weave a thick web of pressure for the growth of children.

Friends and children wrote in the weekly record:

I really shouldn't have come to this school and made my mother work so hard. The key is that I am not angry, the classmates around me are so powerful, compared to them, I am really a trash.

Psychologist Li Xue said: "Complaining to children about their misfortune is one of the most effective means to destroy children. ”

Children are natural energy receivers.

Parents and children complaining is essentially poisoning the child's soul, causing the child to fall into the quagmire of negative energy and completely lose hope.

A video from two years ago, still very touching when I think about it.

Everyone calls him Master Mi.

In his twenties, Master Mi accidentally touched a high-voltage line, was hit by high voltage, and was brutally amputated.

But he calmly accepted reality, and when he learned to eat and dress with his remaining limbs, he said goodbye to his parents and went out alone to earn a living.

After some learning from his teacher, he rebuilt his life by setting up noodle kneaders at street stalls.

When facing the camera, Master Mi smiled and said:

"Although my leg was amputated very early, I never had the idea that life was very difficult, and I didn't have a particularly desperate time, I just thought about how to live well, and then try to solve these problems on my own, which was very happy."

Today, he is a father of three. When it comes to children, Master Mi always has a light smile on his face.

In his mouth, the children are sensible and optimistic, and whenever he comes home, the children will come and massage his lower back to relieve soreness.

In the book "The Power of Positive Emotions", there is a saying like this:

"We do not feel positive emotions because we live a full life and are healthy, but we sincerely have positive emotions that create a full and healthy life."

What children need most is not money, not toys.

It is a pair of warm and loving parents, a positive family.

and gas-magnetic fields

The mouth of the parent determines the path of the child.

In the TV series "Long Season", the two sons of the protagonist Wang Xiang, Wang Yang and Wang Bei, have completely different fates, which is the best commentary on this sentence.

Wang Xiang's eldest son is called Wang Yang.

When Wang Yang rebelled in adolescence, Wang Xiang was still the backbone of the factory, and there was a leadership frame, which no one could look at.

In the face of his son, he is also habitually picky.

Seeing Wang Yang writing poetry, he grabbed the book and began to point:

"I tell you, son, poetry is a rhyme..."

Later, I learned that my son was working in a dance hall, and he didn't ask three seven twenty-one, which was a bitter scolding and heart-piercing sentence.

With such a knife-mouthed and tofu-hearted father, Wang Yang did not dare to tell his family anything when he encountered anything, and in the end, he went to the abyss of destruction alone.

The loss of his son in middle age made Wang Xiang aware of his problem.

So when facing his adopted son Wang Bei, he changed his appearance and began to learn to speak well.

Knowing that Wang Bei wanted to enter the Academy of Fine Arts, Wang Xiang did not angrily scold and oppose, but raised his hands in favor of him going to Beijing to pursue his dream.

Wang Xiang will also pull his son out to breathe when he is working part-time, and ask the child if he is bored.

Wang Xiang, who stood in front of his adopted son, spoke softly, with a smile on his face, and his eyebrows were full of tolerance and acceptance of the child.

In the end, Wang Bei lived as a "child of other people's families", warm and sensible, and positive.

If a home is full of accusations and complaints, the hearts of children and parents will only drift apart.

And a home that is inclusive and considerate everywhere, no matter how big the problem will be easily resolved.

Cartoonist Cai Zhizhong said frankly in an interview: His dazzling achievements are inseparable from the gentleness and peace of his parents.

To this day, he still remembers his father's calm demeanor and solemn tone when he nervously mentioned to his father that he wanted to give up his studies and study his favorite comics: Think about it, do it when you think about it.

He couldn't forget that when he was frustrated, no matter how busy he was, his mother would put down what she was doing and listen patiently.

As he wrote in his autobiography:

"Whenever I think of home, the first image that comes to mind is definitely the kind smiles of my parents."

Parents speak well, so that children can have the soil for healthy growth.

Unhappy families must have a bad critic, and in happy families, parents are the best praise for their children.

Dynamic magnetic field

Seen such a video.

A fourth- and fifth-grader spoke to the camera about his confusion:

Very confused, have no learning purpose, don't know what to do homework for?

This is not an isolated case, but a common plight for children today.

Regarding this question, an answer in the comment area breaks the truth:

"The motivation comes from the parents, and it is the words and deeds of the parents that let the children know how to work hard; The motivation comes from the family, and it is the positive atmosphere of the family that makes the child willing to persevere in the effort. ”

Parents are the boats that take their children to distant places, and they are the energy fields that make their children realize their dreams.

Only if parents do not give up self-improvement, children can follow our steps to become a better version of themselves little by little.

Education expert He Yanjuan shared such a story.

The children of their classmates are about to enter the third year of junior high school, but their minds are not on studying at all, and they just want to play games all day.

In the early years, classmates and husbands were working hard outside the home, did not care about the children, and now they want to manage, but they find that it is useless to beat and scold, and the son has long given up on himself.

Unable to bear to see the child continue to degenerate, the classmate decided to drop everything and spend this crucial year with his son.

To everyone's surprise, it was this year that the child changed dramatically:

From an Internet addict teenager, he became a freshman in a key high school.

When asked about her educational experience, classmates said that she did not do anything special to her children.

Not only did it not strengthen the control, but it even installed broadband at home, so that children can play at home if they want to, without going out.

On the contrary, it was herself, because she had been fighting in the mall for many years and became a full-time mother, and immediately had a strong sense of crisis.

So, she picked up her college textbooks and got a certified public accountant certificate in one go.

It is in this process that the child gradually changes his attitude towards learning.

From ridiculing my mother at the beginning, I still have to study at such an age, to later taking back my mind from the game to the textbook, and humbly asking my mother for learning methods.

At this time, there was only one voice in my son's heart, that is:

I don't want people to say I'm not worthy of being my mother's son.

The story of this mother and son corresponds to the sentence: growing parents are the most powerful support for children.

Children may not obediently listen to their parents, but they will certainly imitate their parents.

Parents who are strict with themselves and never give up growing up can influence their children from action and help them embark on the flower road.

There is a saying in the book "Heart":

"All the misfortunes in life, for no other reason, are attracted by their own hearts, and it is the heart that endlessly pours out unhappiness and complains constantly, which evokes misfortune."

Many times, the child who is sick is actually a projection of our self, a reflection of our hearts.

Parents with great wisdom will not blindly accuse their children, but find ways to create a positive magnetic field, so that children can obtain upward and good energy under this magnetic field.

Give it a thumbs up and encourage all parents.