Today, I saw a question about the kindergarten parent group on the Zhihu hot list, and after entering the parent group of their children's kindergarten, they were not used to the parents who often told the teacher that they had worked hard, and often troubled the teacher in the group, and even had the idea of changing schools for their children.
I, who is also a kindergarten parent, would like to persuade this parent to negotiate.
Every kindergarten will have such a situation, this is a very common phenomenon, just like the work group of adult companies, you want to make the group peaceful and peaceful, that is impossible, school transfer can not solve the problem, let you transfer to a lot of expensive kindergarten, you can not unify the thoughts and behaviors of others.
You just need to do a good job of yourself, cooperate with the teacher to do a good job of home-school co-education, when there are things, try to communicate with the teacher in private messages to solve, as for other parents, as long as they do not do very out of line things, it is their freedom, we can't manage so much.
Some parents like to reply "received" in the parent group, "the teacher has worked hard", or it may be habitual, subconscious, and do not specifically dedicate the meaning of hospitality. Usually we do not often do this in the work group, customers, leaders, cooperation departments send a WeChat, we will also reply in time to "received" and "thanks" such words, which is also a kind of respect.
Many times the kindergarten teacher will explain in the group from time to time, so that everyone does not brush the screen, or does not need to reply to receive, just communicate with the teacher in a private message.
If you don't like post-type replies, you can just don't participate, don't get angry, and don't change schools. However, it is recommended to reply to the post when appropriate, such as when the kindergarten holds a large event, when the weather is bad, when the teacher sends photos of taking care of your child alone, these times the teachers are really hard, praise and encourage the teacher verbally, there is nothing bad.
For example, there was heavy rain on our side this morning, the teacher posted a few photos of drying shoes for the children in the class group, some parents replied "hard teacher", which happened to have photos of my son being taken care of, I usually don't like to make fun in the class group, but at this moment, I must reply "Thank you teacher, the teacher has worked hard", if I don't reply, it seems that I am rude.
But there are also a very small number of parents in the group words and deeds that make people angry, such as this parent mentioned: clearly stipulated breakfast meal time, some parents in the group @ teacher let leave a breakfast. There are also such parents in my son's kindergarten class, the kindergarten stipulates that the latest breakfast time is 8:20, there are always one or two parents often over the time in the group @ teacher, let the teacher help keep breakfast, the teacher is also embarrassed to always say in the group can not stay, say too much will cause conflicts with these parents.
There are also a few parents who always feel that kindergarten teachers are exclusive to their children and should stare at her children to take photos and videos. When my son was in kindergarten, the mother of a child in the class often @ the teachers directly in the class group, saying that the photos in the teacher's group did not see her baby, and saying that the video in the teacher's group did not have a footage of her baby.
At the beginning, the teachers will patiently explain to her in the group: the main job of the teachers is to take care of the children's eating, drinking, playing and teaching, and only take out their mobile phones to take a few photos to send to the group when they have free time, but they may also pause to take photos at any time due to various emergencies, and everything is mainly to take care of the children.
But this mother just couldn't listen to the explanation, and still often asked the same question in the group. Later, some parents couldn't stand it, and would help the teacher to say a few words: "Teachers take care of children very hard, take care of the children well, if the photos are better, if not, don't care too much." The mother felt that the teachers and parents were targeting her and began to intimidate these parents who helped.
There are many similar situations, there is a child's parents, grandparents are in the class group, these 4 people have different requirements for the teacher, once the children's day teacher took a lot of photos in the group, grandma eyes are not good so that did not find the child's photos, just sent more than a dozen voices in the class group to scold the teacher, and then the child's mother found the child's photo, and apologized to the teacher in the class group. In short, make it as lively as singing.
It is difficult for teachers to satisfy every parent, just as we cannot satisfy every customer, leader, and colleague in our work, and contradictions are universal. But as parents, we still have to respect teachers and support their work as much as possible.
Taking care of a small child is actually not simpler, at home, parents, grandparents, grandparents, and several people can barely take care of one or two children, kindergarten two teaching teachers plus two life teachers to take care of 3, 40 children to eat, drink, play, study, in fact, is really hard.
If you see that the teachers are very conscientious, good for the children, and occasionally say "hard work" and "thank you" in the group a few times, it is also good, everyone needs to be recognized and encouraged, right?
The teachers in my son's class are very responsible and often send private messages about my child's situation in kindergarten.
The son is a little uncomfortable, the teacher observes very carefully, and the teacher will try to capture some cute moments of the son in kindergarten and share them with our parents.
One day the teacher posted each child's painting in the group, my son's eyes accidentally closed, the teacher was worried that I had an idea in my heart, and specially sent a private message to explain it to me.
I know that kindergarten teachers are very young, in fact, there is no experience in raising children, it is really not easy for them to take care of so many children, I will also actively cooperate with the teacher's work, do a good job of home-school co-education, and occasionally "cheer" in the class group, such as the mother mentioned earlier who always said that there is no photo of her own child, I couldn't help but stand on the teacher's side and say something.
I usually dive in the class group most of the time, I don't reject those parents who often say "the teacher has worked hard" and "thank you teacher", but I will reject those parents who always treat the class group as a family group and a grumbling group, of course, I only secretly reject it in my heart.
In the big world, people are different, we can't change others, we can only try to manage ourselves well, fulfill the responsibilities of parents, as long as the teachers are good to the children, try not to cause confusion to the teachers.