The writer Yishu wrote in "We Are Not Angels": "A mature person often finds that there are fewer and fewer people to blame, and everyone has his difficulties. ”
That's true. In these years, it is not easy for everyone to live, and they all need understanding and relief.
If you hear the voice of reproach when you are tired, your heart will be cold and your spirit will collapse.
As a middle-aged man and the head of the family, he has to stand up to the sky and the earth and shelter the people around him.
Men, please improve your upbringing and achieve the "five non-responsibilities".
01
Nightless wife.
As the saying goes: "Roosters fight head to head, and husbands and wives quarrel without holding grudges." ”
How can two people not quarrel? It's just that you have to be generous, don't always put resentment on you, and don't resent each other.
When you quarrel and score points, don't do it anytime and anywhere.
In the dead of night, we should get some rest.
The husband and wife comforted each other a few words, and the night was very comfortable, and the next day they went to work full of energy.
If a man rebukes his wife, she will be upset and will curse. The good atmosphere of the whole night, because a few words were lost, it was too bad.
What's even saddest is that when couples quarrel at night, the sound will appear particularly loud. The sons and daughters listened, and were terrified; Neighbors will also hear it, evolving into various versions of the rumor.
Seeing the disadvantages of quarrels at night, men should put away their emotions, breathe a sigh of relief, and calm down.
The philosopher Bacon said, "In life, the wife is the lover of youth, the companion of middle age, and the guardian of twilight age." ”
It's too late to love your own wife for a lifetime.
02
Morning is not responsible.
Early in the morning, the children are going to school.
For most people, it's a blessing to see children bouncing off to school.
Children are the hope of a family. All the hard work of adults will be relieved at the moment when the child achieves good results.
Of course, in the morning, there are times when children are struggling. Eating is slow and there is no concept of time.
There are also some children who are not obedient enough and do not have good grades.
In any case, the morning is not to blame the child. If your child gets angry and refuses to go to school, or goes to school, he will also get emotional. The learning situation on this day must have been terrible.
The most terrifying thing is that adults are also very uneasy when they see children going to school alone. As a result, it affects the work mood of adults.
The plan of the day is in the morning. This is true for children's learning and adults' work.
Every day, when you see your child going out, give more encouragement, at least say "come on".
03
Poverty does not blame the father.
When people reach middle age, everything is off. If you don't have money, you don't have to do anything.
Why are we poor? Is it really because he is not a rich second generation? Or is it because the ancestors did not leave fixed assets?
Since childhood, we have believed that this is an era of fighting for fathers. If my father is rich and powerful, his life is really much better.
But when you reach middle age, you don't have much to do with your family of origin.
You have a family, you have to rely on yourself to make money and support your family. Middle-aged people, but also gnaw at the old, this is a joke.
On the other hand, your parents are also old, and they don't want you to take care of them, and they are already fine.
You blame your father for being too poor, which is ungrateful and unfilial.
My father lived in a different era than yours. the opportunity of a father's life; The pattern of life is also different.
For example, you are a post-80s generation who mainly earns money by part-time work; His parents are post-50s, and they mainly rely on farming and raising pigs in the countryside to make money. Your parents' lifetime income may not be as good as your income for 10 years.
Think about it, it is commendable that your parents raised you and sent you to study.
04
It's hard not to blame friends.
At the moment, there is a popular saying: "Don't talk about money, talking about money hurts feelings." ”
There are always some friends who eat and drink, friends at work, and good relatives. You think these people can be relied on.
When you're struggling, ask a friend if they can help. But many friends will refuse to help.
The indifference of a friend will make you very uncomfortable. The next time we meet, if you blame, it will come out.
Maybe when you borrow money from a friend, you blame the other person for being too unkind.
More likely, you speak ill of your friends behind your back. Friends don't borrow money, but they always eat at your dinner; Once you helped a friend, but the friend wouldn't reciprocate your favor.
Remember, it's a love to help, and it's a duty not to help. In the end, people rely on themselves.
After the incident of "friends don't help", you can see the truth of socialization. Not all friends of interest, if you get along well, there will be more and more friends; If you fall to the bottom, you won't see any of your friends.
Being rejected is also a good thing, so that you can get rid of the world and travel lightly.
05
Tired and not blamed.
The ancients said: "It is better to blame others than to blame oneself, and it is better to blame than to be excessive." ”
A lot of truth is leading you to blame yourself.
But you always blame yourself, aren't you tired? Why blame yourself? Did you make some big mistake?
When you reach middle age, your life is too difficult, as long as you work hard enough, don't blame yourself.
Smart people will let themselves go and live an easy life.
No one is perfect, no one is perfect. All you can do is have a clear conscience.
When you are tired, you have a good rest, when you are thirsty, you drink water, and when you are hungry, you eat. If there is friction with others, then take the initiative to go away, don't blame others, don't blame yourself.
Only when you make a mistake can you think deeply and correct it. Usually, give yourself a relaxed living and working environment.
Don't be sad because you spilled milk yesterday, or you'll lose your life today.
06
There is a good saying: "When the things that used to make you laugh can now only make you smile, you have entered middle age." ”
We can also evolve into another sentence: "When you can face the things that make you angry now, you can face them with a smile, and you start to succeed." ”
When a man reaches middle age, how can it be easy? But it's okay, take your time and don't add a touch of bitterness to your life.
It is useless to blame, it is useless except to bring resentment.
Middle-aged man, pack up your mood and make money.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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