There are many things around us that will constantly change due to external influences. Cute things will become disgusting, happy people will become unhappy, but there is always a sincere and pure love that is always with us.
Sam is an intellectually retarded man who has a daughter, Lucy.
Faced with this little life, he was at a loss, did not know what milk powder to buy, did not know how to change Lucy's diaper, and did not know how to soothe Lucy's repeated cries at night.
Fortunately, with the help of the neighbor's wife, Sam gradually adapted to the role of "father" and slowly grew up with Lucy.
Seven years passed, Lucy grew into a little girl, she began to realize that her father was different from others, could not accompany herself to study, and even when she read for herself, she could not even read her own textbooks. Lucy, a thoughtful child, quietly took away the book that her father could not read, saying that she still liked the previous stories and let her father read the stories he had read before.
The quiet and warm time between father and daughter was broken by an accident, and the police found that a father with intellectual disabilities was carrying a daughter alone, worried that he could not take good care of his daughter and could not give her a proper education. Moreover, they also found in the investigation that seven-year-old Lucy had been accommodating to her father, Sam, who was mentally inferior to her own, and even began to tire of school. This further led them to conclude that it was inappropriate for Lucy to live with such a father.
With the strong intervention of the police, Lucy was taken to a child care center, where she would later be adopted by a family willing to adopt.
Sam is caught up in passivity, spending a lot of money to get a lawyer to help him, and trying to prove to the judges and the jury that he can still raise his daughter even if he is mentally inferior.
The trial went through several twists and turns, and as a result, Lucy was still fostered in a couple's home, and Sam could only watch his daughter from a distance.
Fortunately, there are friends around him who advise him, and they let Sam rent a house near Lucy's new home so that he can see the children every day. And Lucy would sneak out of her room every night and return to her dad's house.
Lucy's adoptive parents knew this, and they were finally touched by this father-daughter relationship, and frankly said: Originally, we wanted to tell the judge that we could give Lucy the love she did not have. But now we find that we don't have that ability.
At the end of the story, Lucy is judged to be raised by Sam and her adoptive parents, all of whom continue their new lives amid love and smiles.
The above plot is from the movie "I Am Sam", a story about a mentally handicapped father and a sweet little cotton jacket.
While we are moved by the plot of the movie, we can also see the truth of education - we don't have to be smart parents, we just need to be a parent who brings love and companionship to our children.
In the movie, Sam is sorry for not being able to answer Lucy's questions, he can't know everything like other parents, can't satisfy all of Lucy's curiosity, he can only say "I'm sorry" over and over again; Lucy replies: It doesn't matter, no one's dad can accompany me to the park as often as you, no one's dad accompanies me when he is on vacation like you.
In contrast, in the film, Shanmu's defense lawyer Rita and her son. Rita was highly educated, intelligent, logical, and given her son a fairly materially abundant life because of her good job pay. However, Rita's relationship with her son is not good, and his son always does not listen to himself, and will deliberately oppose himself, smearing his dirty hands on the clean sofa.
Rita defends Sam in court: intelligence and the ability to give love are not related, anyone has the ability to love someone, and a parent with middle intelligence and good ability may also put his child in pain because he will not love his child. Just back at home, Rita is helpless against her stubborn and rebellious son.
But the situation is not so complicated, because of the work relationship, Rita and her husband need to spend a lot of time outside, the home is always empty, and the only thing that can accompany her son is the cartoon character on TV.
Let's go back to real life, how many parents worry that they are not smart enough, worry that they do not have superb parenting skills, worry that they are not good at math and cannot tutor their children's homework, worry that they cannot accompany their children to practice spoken English, worry that they do not understand music and art and cannot cultivate their children's emotions...
But the most important fact is that the first important thing in educating children is to learn to love children.
Only when the parent gives the child enough love to make the child's heart full and safe, will the child develop other intelligence and skills. Otherwise, growing up in a loveless environment will only be a child with an empty heart and a grumpy mood.
Second, do children really need super smart and absolutely invincible parents?
For his own reasons, the movie Zhongshan Mu can't guide Lucy and give her advice on many things, so he can only say this to Lucy: Have you considered the results of this?
He is not a smart parent, can not think about everything for the child, can not plan the future life for the child, he may not have the ability to light a lamp for the child to illuminate the future path of life for her.
But does it have an impact? Do "stupid" parents necessarily teach "stupid" children?
Not necessarily.
Children don't need parents who are smart enough to be omnipotent, they need parents who care for themselves and respect themselves, even if they can't give themselves any advice, just let themselves "think again" and "think more".
As a parent, cleverness, parenting skills, and godson tricks are not necessary, love is.
The simple subject of loving children only needs to be achieved through the simplest word "companionship".
At the end of the film, the lawyer Rita and her son have a much more relaxed relationship, just because she returned the weekend to the family and sat next to her son.
What we have to do is so simple, accompany the child, let him develop a sense of security under our protection, let him feel the flow of love in the parent-child interaction, the heart is full of love and satisfaction, let the heart gradually become stronger, and then have the strength to explore the outside world and become a sound social person.
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