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Outdoor
Climbing
Glamping
The world
It's
not set in stone
Free to choose not free ways
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This issue is written by Lynne
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Co-host of Rock Sheep Expedition
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Columnist for Tai Ge You
CHANGE
A NEW ME
Become a mother
NOTICE
I am a mother. I have two children, my brother is in the third grade this year, and my sister is in kindergarten.
When we found out we were pregnant, my husband and I were planning to circle Taiwan Island with a New Year's Eve locomotive. As planned, the circle around the island coincided with the cross-Chinese New Year's Eve to Taipei on December 31st, because that year's Taipei 101 New Year's Eve concert had Zhang Huimei! There were 300,000 people on the scene at the time, and I took him from the back seat to the front row, jumped to the point where I could jump to see Zhang Huimei, and stood and sang and danced with everyone for 4 hours. In the early hours of the morning, on the way back to the homestay, I felt very nauseous, and I had already suppressed vomiting before I went upstairs, and I found out that I was pregnant after the test. We both cried in the homestay, both scared. After all, it was too unexpected, and it wasn't something I was planning for the moment. But, women are like that, and when you know you already have a child in your body, you're already a mother in that instant.
It is said that being a mother is the hardest job in the whole world, and it is true. Raising children is a bystander of human nature, a process of self-confidence destruction and reconstruction. When you hold a baby and find out how to coax him to cry, it will evoke the despair in the depths of people's hearts. The arrival of children did bring many limitations to my life, but it also made me experience the feeling of being completely and deeply loved by a person. Besides, mine is double.
It is this feeling from family life that has transformed into my sense of strength and faith, allowing me to affirm myself and regain my self-confidence.
HOW TO KEEP BALANCE
How do you balance family and career?
For a long time, the problem belonged only to women, especially working mothers with children. This is unfair under the gaze of male power, and women certainly have to defend their rights. However, in the time of raising children, in every detail, I had to face my own heart--- mother's nature and children have a deeper bond. From the moment I heard the baby's heartbeat at the obstetric check-up, I was connected to the baby.
Under the principle of "self-generation and self-support", I gave up generation-skipping parenting and nanny assistance. Making this decision in a foreign country at the same time meant I needed to give up my career. At that moment, I realized for the first time that not choosing freedom is freedom.
As the children grew older, especially after entering school, one day I suddenly realized that I seemed to have forgotten my name. I was called "wife", "mother", "so-and-so mother", but I did not have my own name. I have a troubled beast in my heart, and I am eager to work again. Before I became whose wife and whose mother, I should be myself. I'm Lynne!
But how easy is it for an 8-year stay-at-home mom to return to work? I don't want to work for the sake of work and become inactive. I want to do what I love--- travel outdoors. Whenever I think of these four words, the passion for exploring the world always makes me want to move, and my memory flashes back to the life experience of that hitchhiking trip.
Pregnant women pregnant with a second child split at this prime meridian!
In 2011, he and I resigned and set off from Beijing with all our savings of 20,000 yuan. Carrying a hiking bag and a sleeping bag along the way, he took the Gannan Small Ring Road, the Silk Road, the Qinghai-Tibet Line, the Sichuan-Tibet Line, from Chengdu to Xi'an, and then back to Beijing. In order to save money, we all slept in the 25 or 30 yuan youth hostel, and at that time I also made a sign that said "please ride" along the way, and he hid in a corner nearby, and there would really be a lot of cars stopping and willing to take me for a ride.
The opportunity for the new job came from the "donkey friend" I met during this road trip, a person who lived in Golmud and I lived in a hostel. Little did I know at the time that this brother, who slept in the bunk opposite me, would be the leader and partner of my outdoor adventure ten years later.
During my time as a stay-at-home mom in a foreign country, I watched my partner travel all over the top of the snow-capped mountains, inside the canyons. And led different people to camp in the hinterland of the mountains and mountains, to measure the mountains with their feet. With their services, more and more people are turning their outdoors into a healthy lifestyle. I know this beauty. Because, in the darkest hours of my life, I traveled alone and was healed by the energy of nature. In my opinion, the earth is extremely small to the universe; human beings are only a drop in the ocean to the heavens and the earth. Human beings, like animals and plants, are creatures of the earth, and we have come from nature, and it is only instinct to devote ourselves to nature.
CHOOSE
Dynamics Balance
After becoming a mother, I stepped into a new stage of life, needing to take responsibility for the life of another person, and there will be more things to worry about than before. I still love to travel outdoors, and I travel with my husband and children, but at the moment, it is difficult to take children outdoors to eat a certain kind of suffering that adults can eat. For safety and health reasons, parent-child travel is now more like playing in a hotel with children. The four words "outdoor travel" seem to have no edges.
I want more people to want to go out of the city and go outdoors. For me, it's the most convincing to experience my own children. At the same time, I seem to see the paradigm I want--- children and career dynamic balance.
Before leaving for the camp, I will do process sorting and coordination with the camp steward and team leader. During the holidays, I can only work with my children. Before entering the office, I would talk to them about "don't make noise, don't interfere with the work of others, including moms."
Sometimes, the results of education will come in a way you might not expect: they keep their promises and do not interfere with the work of others, although my sister will not be able to resist coming over to see me typing. But the older brother would finish his homework and read books in self-discipline; his sister would be able to talk to a 20-year-old barista; and the brothers and sisters would be able to play with children who didn't know where they came from.
Through the floor-to-ceiling glass, I see children playing happily, and they see hard-working moms. At that moment, we were both free.
I would take the kids to the camp to work. The car went all the way to the Western Sichuan Plateau region, and they looked through the window at the blue sky, the cold rock mass and the snow-capped mountains in the distance. During breaks, monkeys, squirrels, yaks, goats and horses are also encountered. The mountain hinterland behind the snow is something they have never seen in the city. If you can't see it with your own eyes, your child will never understand the meaning of "wrapped in silver.". But in nature they understood. Faced with dry and cold weather and a slight high reaction brought about by the elevation climb, they did not complain. Always in good spirits, eager to try everything in front of you.
Finally, we crossed the mountains and mountains to Aba, to the sacred mountain of the Jiarong Tibetans, our San'ao Snow Mountain camp.
It's not so much in the camp as it is about going back to nature. The camp is surrounded by the San'ao Snow Mountain and is surrounded by primeval forest. Sitting under the canopy, with snowy mountains in his eyes and tiramisu in his mouth. My colleagues and I set up the camp, prepared the ingredients, and welcomed our friends. Things are trivial, and I don't have time to take care of the children. When I realized I was going to take care of them, they looked like "camp stewards": helping the camp designer sister beautify the details of the camp together; laying out candlelit dinners in the mountain kitchen, listening to the chef and learning to beat eggs and making themselves a steamed egg to eat. When my friends arrived at the camp, they followed me and introduced every functional area of the camp to me. At candlelight dinner, they are especially happy to serve everyone and bring joy to everyone.
I always remember my brother running to "complain" and saying, "Hum! My sister did everything, and I didn't have anymore! "In nature, children don't have to be domesticated, they are born with what to do. Watching my sister run around the camp was as happy as a bird in the woods.
As night fell, he and his friends were cooking red wine in the public tent, sharing their private music library, and the notes were floating in the air at that moment. I'm so relaxed about handing over the kids to nature.
In the middle of the camp, the campfire is lit, the brother holds the guitar freestyle, and the sister is always the best king. My sister stood at the door of the public tent and shouted twice: "Mom, come out!" The brother said there was a surprise. "It wasn't until the second time that I walked out. As soon as I looked up, I couldn't help but "wow". The sister said, "That's why my brother asked you to come out." "The dome is like pale blue velvet, and the stars are like diamonds sleeping on velvet, each shining.
My sister said, "It's the first time I've seen so many stars in the sky. The brother said, "That's a good surprise, right?" "The rest of the time is the time when the shutter sound rises and falls. Stargazing has been the driving force behind mankind's exploration of the world since ancient times. The moment my gaze met that star was a journey of more than 100,000 years. Every time I think about it, I think nature is too romantic.
I lay on a straw mat and counted the stars while the kids watched Madagascar 2 in the Starry Sky Cinema. The campfire dispelled the cold, and everyone sat around in a comfortable position, without speaking, and no one felt embarrassed at that moment, and needed to socialize.
I heard the sound of dry wood being roasted, and my children were around. I was calm and at ease.
THE LAST
Write on the back
Today, it's not Mother's Day. It was yesterday.
"Feminism" has been sung all the way, and it is already the moment of traffic password. However, how many people can understand whether it is the grievances of full-time mothers or the grievances of working mothers? While public opinion warns women to be economically independent and independent in their thinking, they impose most of the cost of childbearing and the burden of parenting on mothers. It is simply contradictory, a "why not eat meat" looking down.
I have also been PUA by this public opinion, physically and mentally exhausted, physically and mentally sick. But now that the logical self-consistency of the life stage has been reached---- physiological structure and function determine that the cost, risk and responsibility of women's fertility are higher than those of men. This is the truth, face it, don't run away, don't be disturbed by the noise of the outside world. Follow the heart to make a good choice in the moment, we are the mother, but also ourselves.
Yamarashi, Makino, Harukawa, The Sky, The Stars, Birds, Flowers...
Everything about nature does not cease to exist because yesterday has passed away. Just like a mother doesn't just be a mother on Mother's Day.
The praise and understanding of motherhood should not be only yesterday.
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