Never give your child old clothes, psychologically speaking, these 4 hazards are difficult to avoid

It is said that children are "two-legged gold-devouring beasts", and when old mothers raise their babies, they can naturally save and save.

Especially in the cost of clothes, on the one hand, when the child is still young, there is basically no concept of "beauty and ugliness", on the other hand, the child's development rate is too fast, the newly purchased clothes have only passed through a season, and then when they are taken out, they can't be put on, which is really wasteful.

So some mothers in order to save money, just happen to be friends and relatives and some children wear old clothes, will take home to pick and choose, for their own babies to wear.

However, is it really appropriate to dress your child in old clothes?

Some elderly people may think, "Old clothes are 'hundreds of clothes', and children are blessed to wear them."

But from a psychological point of view, wearing old clothes for the baby can be described as "a hundred harms and no benefits", at least in these 4 aspects have an impact, so if conditions permit, parents should never wear old clothes for their children.

May be "overpaid" when you grow up

There is a concept in psychology called "over-compensating", which means that someone must not only make up for a certain aspect of the deficiency and achieve normal compensation, but also strive to make this compensation exceed the normal limit and satisfy their own psychological deficiencies.

I remember that some netizens shared such an experience, although the family's economic conditions are not bad, but when she was a child, her mother always took her cousin's clothes to wear, and once she wore her cousin's old clothes to school, because there was an opening in the back, and she was ridiculed by her classmates.

When she grew up, she began to buy clothes like crazy, and in the first year of work, almost all of her salary was spent on dressing, and some clothes would be bought and put in the closet even if they were not very liked.

The reason why she will have this behavior is precisely because the "over-compensating" psychology is at work, the desire to wear new clothes in childhood is not satisfied, and adulthood will use extreme methods to over-compensate for her own psychological deficiencies.

Destroy your child's "sense of control"

Parents give their children second-hand clothes, which is essentially a kind of control behavior: what clothes parents give, children wear, they do not have the right to choose the style, color and other characteristics of the clothes.

Humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow believes that "sense of control" is one of the inherent psychological needs of everyone, and it is also an important embodiment of subjective initiative, and people with a "sense of control" will have a more secure sense of security, thinking that their fate and life trajectory are controllable.

If the child has been passively accepting the arrangement of the parents and has to wear old clothes, it is easy to cause damage to his "sense of control", and over time, he will show the personality characteristics of obedience, lack of initiative, and lack of independence, and are accustomed to blind obedience.

Affects a child's self-confidence

As children grow up, they will gradually establish their own aesthetic concepts and have a strong sense of "self-esteem".

Especially when children enter kindergarten and move from the family environment to the collective environment to learn and live, their self-esteem will be further amplified.

In psychology, there is an effect called the "halo effect", which means that if people leave a relatively bad impression on each other in the process of communication, they will cover up the understanding of other people's other good qualities.

Once the child often wears old clothes to school, even if he himself does not care about wearing old clothes, but in the collective, it is easy to be given some not very good evaluations by small partners, and over time, it is likely to lead to self-esteem setbacks and inferiority complex.

It is not conducive to developing a healthy aesthetic concept

Generally speaking, children will come to the "aesthetic sensitivity period" around the age of 2 to 5, when they pay special attention to the appearance of things, and they will also have their own standards and aesthetic needs for wearing clothes.

For example, everyone will suddenly find that the daughter is suddenly infatuated with her mother's high heels and lipstick, and even can't help but try it herself, and the son suddenly begins to pay attention to his own hairstyle and clothes, which are the performance of the "aesthetic sensitivity period".

And once the parents often give the baby old clothes, so that the child loses the opportunity to choose, there is no right to pick the beauty and ugliness of the clothes, it is easy to affect the establishment of its aesthetics, aesthetic ability development deviation, not sensitive enough to beauty or ugliness.

Just like in real life, we may have more or less aesthetic "strange" friends, who give themselves full marks for their own dress, but others are difficult to accept, which is largely because of the "aesthetic sensitivity period", parents do not guide correctly.

Of course, it is worth noting that we help the baby successfully pass the "aesthetic sensitivity period", it should be to let the child choose his favorite clothes, rather than the clothes we feel "beautiful", the key is to give the child the right to choose, so that the child gradually establishes the concept of beauty and ugliness, and forms a healthy aesthetic.

Crooked Mom Conclusion:

Although thrift and thrift are the traditional virtues of our Chinese nation, on the issue of dressing children, we had better not compromise, otherwise it is easy to blindly wear old clothes for children, and it is easy to cover children with a bad shadow in their hearts.

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