Instead of explicitly prohibiting and confiscating mobile phones, parents should be the designers of their children's "life games"

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Have we ever wondered why so many people, including adults, like to play games? In addition to the natural love of play, children's minds are not yet mature and the willpower is relatively weak, the design of the game is more attractive to the public, because the game is based on the needs of human nature. For example: clear goals; clear, simple, easy to understand rules; from easy to difficult, step by step in-depth procedures; efforts to immediately see the effect of the immediate feedback mechanism; easy to find a sense of mission and honor; continuous encouragement and rewards.

It is human nature to pursue pleasure. Looking at the nature of things through the phenomenon of children playing games, children actually choose not to play, but to be happy. Many children face not being valued by parents, facing themselves as tools used by parents to "compare vanity", facing self-esteem and honor are not satisfied, facing loneliness and confusion, only games can make children happy and prompt children to find themselves in virtual games.

Therefore, I think that if parents can cultivate their children, like game design, so that children have an addictive joy in learning and growth, then children will naturally be proactive in learning and growing. Why don't parents get inspiration from the game and be the designer of their children's "life game"? Rather than explicitly prohibiting and confiscating mobile phones, parents should be the designers of their children's life games and give their children a good life guide, wouldn't it be more able to solve the problem of children's addiction to games?

1. Help children develop interests and build dreams

Helping your child find and nurture hobbies that he is really interested in, such as reading, drawing, music, sports, inventions, etc., is more important than giving your child a high score. Once he has a hobby, in his free time, the child will take the initiative to do this thing that makes him feel happy.

On the basis of the child's interest, helping the child to establish a dream is like the first rule of game design - to help him find a clear purpose in life. This dream may not be used to be realized, but the dream itself is a seed that will awaken the child's inner desire and motivation for learning and growth.

2. Help children to grow up and make friends, and subtly let the beauty of life occupy children's time

Parents must take their children to see and make friends in the limited years, arrange colorful extracurricular activities, such as taking children to outings on weekends, museums and libraries, and long holidays to travel, even if they can encourage him to go sports with friends after he finishes his homework, so that a healthy and happy life will fill the child's free time. Children are active and curious, and it's more fun to participate in colorful after-school activities than to sit in front of a computer all day.

Man's reach is his world. When a new life falls to the ground, his understanding of the world starts from scratch and gradually adds. The living environment of the parents is his original world, so the upward and downward effects of the parents are very important; the parents take the children out of the far door, the children's hearts are planted far away, one day he will know that beyond this small earth, there is the solar system, and there is a vast and boundless universe; parents give the child a book, the child can know countless friends in the limited text, he will know that Jing Ke is not a daughter, in fact, it is a boy who stands on the top of the yishui River, and he will also know that Li Bai's best friend in life is poetry and wine. There was no way to be an assassin licking blood on the tip of a knife. Therefore, good parents should be palm lamp people, illuminating the way forward for their children. What they do, think and think will determine the reach of their child. If more fun things are found in the wider world, will children still be obsessed with the joy of mobile games?

Children like to play games, but if you replace the virtual world games with fun and healthy outdoor experience activities, it will not only satisfy the children's psychology of seeking challenges and achievements, but also improve their ability to communicate with others and society.

There is a parent, today to take their daughter to participate in children's drama, tomorrow with the child to do handicrafts, or the door does not have to come out, two people lying on the sofa you say a word and I make up a story, you can also spend a happy afternoon... The family's life is so colorful, such a child may not easily indulge in the game and cannot extricate himself.

There is a parent who simply follows the child, accompanies the child in the computer or TV set to watch movies and televisions, but it is just a good movie, TELEVISION, and even a good cartoon, such as "Chinese Moral Education Story"; at the same time, the stereo at home is better, and the screen is bigger; sometimes the whole family watches together, what to do after watching it? Share with each other, what is this film about? What do we learn from other people's affairs, and what does it teach me? Everyone must remember to associate external things with their own lives, which is called digestion and absorption. Only when digestion and absorption, our life can grow, just like when we eat, we first put it in our mouth, then chew it up and swallow it into the stomach, then digest it in the stomach, absorb it in the small intestine, inject nutrients into the blood, and then grow into hair, grow into flesh, grow into bones, this is called reorganization, and reorganization is growth. Reorganization doesn't need to be brainy, because as long as we absorb it, it knows on its own that it has to grow, grow into this, grow into that.

Some parents said that the child may not like to watch cartoons when he is older, I said that it does not matter, there are many good things to see, to see what is not our intention, accompany him is. Some older kids, he may like to watch those violent movies, romance movies, we use cartoons to occupy his time. So, we don't want to occupy anything, we just need to occupy time. In the end, we will find that there is nothing else when time is occupied, is there no time to play the game, it is as simple as that, we have a good way to play together, then the bad game has no time, is not canceled.

3. Unconditional trust, appreciation and acceptance of children to meet children's inner desires

Every child's heart longs to be loved, accepted, affirmed, appreciated, and respected. In daily life and learning, we should show satisfaction and appreciation for every bit of progress made by our children. Even if the child has some unsatisfactory points, we should also accept and encourage him to correct it, so that the child can always find his own sense of existence and achievement, so that he does not have to find comfort in the online world.

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