Parents may not yet know that taking good "labor lessons" is the key to their children's success and happiness

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01, children who love to work are more independent and even have better grades

02, behind learning to work is excellent personal ability

03, take the opportunity to improve the parent-child relationship is a good opportunity

In a few months, primary and secondary school students across the country may set off a "labor boom"!

Recently, the Ministry of Education solemnly announced that it will set up independent "labor classes" at the primary and junior high school levels, and has also issued detailed curriculum standards.

For example, the 1st and 2nd grades should be able to wash vegetables and plant plants;

3. Grade 4 should be able to steam steamed steamed buns and raise poultry;

Grade 5 and 6 should be able to cook and stew soup;

In junior high school, you have to learn to cook a meal independently.

In addition, there are labor tutorials on the use and maintenance of household appliances, traditional craft production, industrial production labor, modern service industry labor, public welfare labor and volunteer service.

It can be said that the article issued by the Ministry of Education this time is very serious and meticulous, and this time it has rushed to the hot search of various platforms.

For me, a post-70s generation, the 3 words "labor class" are simply a wave of "memory killing"!

In the era when we were studying, there were labor classes every month, even week, going to work in the fields, picking sand and stones, and following the teacher to make various utensils... Saying that it is a class, in fact, everyone has a lot of fun, and they have learned a lot of crafts, and they are happy to think about it.

So many post-70s, post-80s netizens shouted, this is the return of labor class! It is time to give some labor education to the city children who are now grainless and have no hard work!

Indeed, from the perspective of the Education Bureau and the national level, the emphasis on labor classes is of great significance, which not only helps children to develop in a balanced way of "morality, intellectuality, physical fitness and labor", improves labor and self-care ability, but also further prevents children from forming psychosomatic injuries due to excessive academic and excessive "inner volumes".

The Ministry of Education's emphasis on labor classes and the previous increase in the proportion of sports scores are further extensions of the "double reduction" policy and the improvement of quality education.

However, some netizens and parents hold different opinions:

The original intention of the labor class sounds very good, but will it end up in a formality, mostly arranged by parents and agencies? Isn't that a spoiler?

There are also some parents who feel that this course is not much necessary, "Children can do a good job of learning, these things will naturally happen when they grow up, why spend so much time now?" "If you can't cook, you can order takeout, you can't wash clothes and have a washing machine, why do you have to ask your children to do this?"

This part of the parents are likely to pay special attention to academic performance, and they are eager for their children to have more energy and time to devote to learning and improving test scores.

If parents think like this, I am afraid that they have not been able to see the positive role and significance of the labor class from a deeper level.

In fact, to improve the child's labor and life self-care ability, this is only a superficial role, from the scientific spiritual psychology, labor and life self-care ability and children to establish real self-confidence, independence, maintain mental health has a close relationship.

Moreover, if the labor class is used well, it can also promote family relations, parent-child relations, and even improve the efficiency of children's learning.

Why?

01, children who love to work are more independent and even have better grades

First, the ability to take care of oneself independently can contend with emergencies and even save one's life when necessary; more importantly, this is an important part, or even the most basic part, of one's independent consciousness.

I heard that the epidemic in Shanghai and the long home isolation have forced many young people who can't cook and do housework to appear:

Obviously, there are pots and pans and ingredients, but they can't do it, and they can only eat instant noodles;

Cutting a vegetable is scratched, stir-frying a vegetable is burned, and I don't know how to deal with the wound urgently...

Therefore, many of the self-care ability of life may not be used in normal times, but it must be; in the face of emergency, there will be no panic and chaos, which is what the ancestors said, "more skills are not pressed".

More importantly, a person who takes care of himself and knows that he can do it is an important part of his or her sense of independence.

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We often emphasize that in order for a person to be truly happy or successful, he must be independent in many ways, including self-care in life, independence in thought, psychology, personality and economy, especially in modern women.

Self-care is the most basic independent ability, and it is also the most suitable ability to start cultivating from an early age. If the foundation of this step is not laid well, the child is prone to dependence psychology, the active consciousness is poor, and the follow-up thinking, psychology, personality and economy are likely to be difficult to be independent.

All in all, the ability to take care of oneself in life is necessary not only in practice, but also in the child's personality and psychosomatic health.

Second, labor is an important way for children to relax their brains, and the combination of "labor" and "learning" helps to improve learning efficiency.

Many parents feel that the main task of students is to learn, so they should devote the greatest energy and time to learning. But they ignore that textbook learning in the narrow sense belongs to mental labor, that is, the cerebral cortex is excited for a long time and highly, and it is easy to get tired after a long time, that is, it is said that "excessive use of the brain", and the learning efficiency declines.

For this situation, one of the best ways to rest is physical labor, especially aerobic physical exercise, which includes what we call life labor, and aerobic exercise such as running and swimming.

At this time, the cerebral cortex is relaxed and rested, and other areas of the brain responsible for limb labor and aerobic exercise are mobilized.

If you reach a certain intensity, or this process of labor and exercise is more happy, it can also make the brain produce endorphins and dopamine, accelerate the metabolism of the body, increase the amount of oxygen carried in the blood, and provide more blood oxygen for the brain, thereby driving away fatigue and preparing for the next "mental work".

Therefore, proper labor actually helps to eliminate children's learning fatigue and improve learning efficiency as a whole.

Not to mention those children who have certain learning disabilities, such as doing homework is always procrastinating and distracted, then parents can not force children to learn all the time, but should guide children to combine work and leisure, and then learn when the mood is more relaxed and happy after labor, and gradually eliminate children's anxiety and resistance to learning.

02, behind learning to work is excellent personal ability

Third, the ability to work is not only a life skill, but also improves the child's overall management ability and time arrangement ability, which can make the child lay a good foundation and benefit for a lifetime.

I have a friend who is now running her own company as the boss, and her overall management ability is much higher than mine. I thought it was thanks to the fact that she had studied abroad and learned a scientific method.

As a result, she told me that this was mainly because when she was a child, her parents gave her the task of sorting out and storing the family and taught her to classify things. Whenever an adult needs to do housework and take something, she has to immediately think about what she needs to do and where to put things, like a little housekeeper, doing a good job and rewarding, she is not tired.

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"I only realized when I was older that I now have a lot of management and coordination skills, and I've been accumulating since then," she said.

Therefore, parents should understand the fact that their children learn housework from this perspective. A lot of housework is very simple to take apart, and it takes a few minutes to learn, but when it comes to multiple tasks, and how to balance the time allocation of housework, learning, and entertainment, it is a very test of the child's overall management ability, time arrangement ability, and very important self-discipline ability.

To some extent, the importance of these abilities is not necessarily less or more important than textbook knowledge.

Fourth, learn to participate in housework on a regular basis, which is an important way to cultivate children's sense of family responsibility, and every family member should pay something to the family and assume some obligations.

Many parents do not have this awareness, especially the elderly who are "separated from each other" with their children. They habitually take care of all the affairs of life for their children and meet almost all the requirements of their children. Children at home except for study, almost no other affairs have to be done.

Such children are likely to be unconscious about "giving" and "responsibility", and they have become accustomed to having what they want and taking it for granted. If one day their parents refuse their request, they will feel incomprehensible and even angry and beat their parents.

We sometimes see news that children beat their parents in public because their parents refused to buy mobile phones. Such children should certainly be condemned, but at a deep level, parents also have a great educational responsibility.

Boys punched and kicked their mothers because their mothers did not agree to buy themselves mobile phones, the picture comes from the Internet

03, take the opportunity to improve the parent-child relationship is a good opportunity

Fifth, when children work at home, if parents know how to give timely and concrete affirmations, this is a great opportunity to improve children's self-confidence and improve parent-child relationships.

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Many parents are troubled by not having a common topic with their children. Want to talk about learning, now the knowledge of children may not be parents, or talk about children are disgusted; want to talk about children like animation, games, parents are even more clueless, awkward chat.

In fact, doing labor, housework, handicrafts, etc. together is an opportunity to close the parent-child relationship. When children learn labor skills, they often need parental assistance and participation at the beginning, or parent acceptance. At this time, parents should learn to give their children timely and specific affirmations.

For example, the first time a child stirs vegetables, it must be in a variety of situations, and the taste is not as good as that made by adults, and it may even be more difficult to eat. But at least they did it, they took the first step, and that's something to be affirmed.

Parents must be the "king of the scene", eat as much as possible, and give their children encouragement and affirmation, and also guide their children to see their own progress. If you want to make a suggestion, you can kindly and gently say, "If you put some salt next time, it will be more perfect!" ”

In fact, whether the food is good or not, the child knows very well in his heart, if the adult directly points it out, they will be very hit and resist. At this time, what they need is timely and concrete affirmation, a sense of accomplishment, and then they can do it more diligently, enter a virtuous circle, and the parent-child relationship is more intimate.

Sixth, labor classes can help children evaluate themselves more comprehensively and actively and rationally face temporary backwardness in some aspects.

The Ministry of Education of the People's Republic of China regards labor classes as an independent course in primary and secondary schools, in addition to wanting children to develop more balancedly, in fact, it is also the embodiment of a diversified evaluation of a student.

It is not necessarily a good child and a good student with good grades in english and mathematics, physics and chemistry, but also a strong ability to work, and a strong athletic ability. Society's evaluation of a person is always multifaceted, then it should be in school.

Some children have poor academic performance, they may have inferiority, but the labor class learns well and gets the affirmation of others, which can help them gain some self-confidence;

Similarly, some children are top students in the discipline, but "high scores and low ability", labor housework and sports are not good, the quality is unbalanced, I believe they are not easy to go crazy.

Therefore, parents can use labor classes to guide their children to actively face competition. We should not completely deny ourselves because of the temporary backwardness of a certain aspect, and instead of comparing ourselves with others everywhere, we should compare our past selves.

The child will only make a fried egg now, the appearance is very average, although it is likely to lose in the "labor competition" held by the school, but compared to the past, it will not do anything, which is already a great improvement. If you still want to do better, then practice more, summarize the methods more, and continue to compare yourself with yourself.

In fact, many parents also need to learn to actively and rationally face wins and losses. Why do many parents love to take care of their children's manual and labor work? On the one hand, they want children to have more time to study subjects, but there is also another reason: they are afraid that their children's works will not be able to get their hands on, and they will not be able to compare with others.

I hope that this part of the parents should reflect on themselves in time, and establish a "positive effort, go with the flow" mentality with their children, face it calmly, and do not continue to cheat, so that children can easily lose their integrity, thinking that cheating is very normal, which will affect their personality bottom line and life.

For the positive significance of housework, you can also go to the Internet to search for a study, "children who love housework are better than children who do not love housework, and it is easier to succeed", I believe it will also inspire parents.

Finally, whether it is the importance of labor classes, the increase in the proportion of sports scores, or the landing of the "double reduction" policy, I hope that parents will see the meaning behind this in depth, use this education reform, and think deeply about this problem:

What is the ability and quality to ensure that the child grows up mentally and physically and lives as happily as possible for a lifetime?

In the past, many parents only saw academic achievements, diplomas and academic qualifications, and blindly put pressure on their children. Many children, even if they are admitted to prestigious universities, suddenly lose their goals, or cannot take care of themselves in life, or seriously lack self-discipline ability, and finally can only drop out of school, and even suffer from so-called "hollow heart disease", depression, bipolar disorder and other diseases.

Countless bitter lessons and tragedies have taught us that this concept is anachronistic.

In order to ensure that children are as happy as possible, the first guarantee should be mental and physical health, including the independence of all aspects mentioned above, which is the biggest foundation and cornerstone. Then, we try our best to cultivate children's strong interest in learning, lifelong learning and interdisciplinary awareness, and efficient learning ability, which is a more scientific "road to success"!