Why are memories before the age of 3 "deleted"? Knowing the truth behind it is good for children

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What age do you remember from the earliest?

There is a difference between people's memories, in the words of ordinary people, some people remember things early, and some people remember things late.

People with the best memory, the memory is only to 3 years old, after the age of 3, some can have some simple impressions, but before the age of 3, completely can not remember.

This is not an isolated case, and this is true of all people.

Have memories before the age of 3 been "deleted" or forgotten?

There are two theories about why children can't remember things before the age of 3, one is that the memory is completely deleted, and all the fragments of the brain before the age of 3 are no longer there, of course, they can't remember.

There is also a saying that we are easier to remember things that are logical, for example, a paragraph of text and a piece of garbled code put together, obviously the memory of words is more durable, garbled memory is very short. Lack of logic before the age of 3, so it's hard to recall what happened at that stage.

Both claims make sense, or are the result of a combination of actions.

How are childhood memories deleted?

As a child grows, the brain continues to develop.

The environment in which children grow up is constantly changing, and children are constantly learning and constantly being exposed to new things and new knowledge.

In the process of learning and memory, the hippocampus in the brain constantly produces new neurons, while constantly cutting the old neural connections and producing new neural networks.

This is the process of memory deletion.

When the old neural connections are cut, some memories disappear.

Therefore, the fundamental trigger point for the disappearance of memory lies in the production of "new neurons".

If no new neurons are produced, the memory becomes persistent.

Why do many things are remembered in adulthood and forgotten in childhood?

The reason is that in early childhood, the brain is in a stage of rapid development, according to scientists, infant period, brain development is at its peak, when the child reaches the age of 3, the brain volume increases 3 times, reaching 1000 ml, to 7 years old, the brain volume reaches 1300 ml, basically reaching the level of adults.

Neurons in your child's brain develop rapidly, forming new neural networks, and at the same time they cut out old neural connections, which is called "synaptic pruning."

During synaptic pruning, many memories are deleted.

In the process of growing up, a child has to undergo two large-scale synaptic pruning, one stage is after the age of 3 and the other stage is after puberty.

By now, you can probably understand why many things can't be remembered when children are young.

Individual moments and feelings can be crossed by age

However, there are some individual moments and feelings, basically can travel through age, for example, a person's childhood memory is gone, but some of the feelings and fears experienced when he was young can be clearly imprinted in the mind and linger.

This is the basis of the influence of the original family on a child, because the child's feelings at an early age establish the style of the child's life.

In addition, the above mentioned logic affects memory, which is also one thing.

No matter how many things you experience, some of the logical games that interested you as a child can be clearly engraved in your mind.

After recognizing these things, parents can guide their children positively and try to avoid hurting their children.

Avoid making your child feel bad

Once bitten by a snake for ten years afraid of the well rope, this is the experience left by the old ancestors, behind this sentence is the sense of fear, the impact on a person.

If the child is unfortunate, born in a native family without love, what he feels every day is quarreling and scolding, what he hears is insulting language, and family members are like enemies, without a little warmth, unable to communicate well.

Such a child's inner feelings are cold, heartless, fearful, and afraid.

And these feelings will grow with him all the time. Because of these emotions, the neurons produced by the hippocampus in the child's brain are affected, the association of neurons is affected, and synaptic pruning is affected.

Those feelings that disgusted him and wanted to forget the moments were well preserved, and would always haunt him, affecting his emotions and choices, and becoming the tone of his life.

The child was obviously unlucky.

And those children who live in loving original families will grow up normally, their feelings are full of laughter, after the neurons are reconnected, only joy is left, and the troubles of growing up are pruned away, so these children's childhood is happy.

Accompanying your child to play games will have a positive impact on your child

If you want your child to have more memory for childhood, parents can interfere artificially.

For example, the poetry I read as a child can still come with my mouth open many years later, and the meaningful things I did as a child, or the things that are more logical, can be preserved in my memory.

My memory can be extended to 7 years old, and I can't remember many things before, but when I was a child, my mother still wrote on the ground with chalk.

What impresses us is either painful or beautiful.

The child's growth is only once, parents must not miss the child's growth, accompany the child more, provide the child with more love moments, bring positive influence to the child, the child will remember the beauty of childhood.