Men dislike that their ex-wives, who are only Chinese, always steal to see their children, so they file a lawsuit on the grounds that : "The ex-wife only has a Chinese, has a low level of education, and cannot create a good education and growth environment for her children." Moreover, the private life of the ex-wife has caused adverse moral influence and psychological harm to the children. ”
The man also demanded that the ex-wife must obtain his consent to see the child in the future, and could not leave his sight, and even asked the ex-wife not to take the child to her new family.
However, the ex-wife said so, after the divorce she missed the children very much, from time to time to visit the children, but also to the son to transfer the child support, but also took out a lot of transfer records and photo proof.
In the end, the court rejected the man's claim, saying that the level of education is not the only criterion for measuring a mother's character and educating her children, let alone quantifying her feelings for her children by academic qualifications.
Netizens said that when you get married, do you suddenly become a junior high school education? Why is it suddenly disgusted now?
A man who does not want his ex-wife to visit his children because of his low level of education is undoubtedly selfish, and he is not entitled to deprive his children of their mother's love.
Some couples always can't let go of their previous personal grudges after divorce, and talk about their children. Even using this as an excuse not to let the other party look at the child, in fact, doing so is extremely detrimental to the growth of the child.
For children, the love of parents is equally important, and in the process of children's growth, they need the care of their parents and feel the love of fathers and mothers. If, just because the parents themselves are emotionally contradictory, they will not let the other party look at the child, it can only be said that such parents are not mature enough.
"The Original Family" says: If parents cannot give the young children the minimum contact they desire after divorce, this will seriously affect the child's self-esteem and self-love. The departure of either parent will cause the child's psychology to have a very painful sense of absence and emptiness.
What adults call "good for the child" is sometimes not necessarily what the child wants.
I watched a video on the Internet that the little boy did not come home after school, he found a classmate who took out a bag of things from his bag and handed it to him, and carefully told his aunt that he must hand it over to his mother.
The people on the side were puzzled and asked the little boy why he didn't give it to his mother.
The little boy's classmates said that his grandparents would not let him see his mother and would be unhappy if they knew he had seen him.
The little boy anxiously urged his classmates to hurry up and send them up, where he waited.
The classmates searched in the alley for half a day, and finally found the little boy's aunt's house, coincidentally encountering the little boy's mother. When the classmate handed her something, the boy's mother opened the bag, which contained a letter and small gifts.
The boy wrote in the letter: "Dear Mother,
"I'm afraid I won't see you today, because my grandparents won't allow me to come and see you, so I can only write a letter." Mom, in fact, I have a very good life in Ningxiang, because the people there love me very much, and if I follow you, I may bring you a lot of trouble back, my grandparents' attitude is very firm, they do not allow me to come to see you, they are not in good health, afraid that something will happen.
Although I can't see you for a while, I can also call you and sometimes chat on QQ, which is very good.
Mom, I will definitely study hard in Ningxiang, go to a good school, and when you are old, I will definitely take care of you, Mom, I love you. ”
After reading the letter, my mother could not cry, and she asked the classmate who sent the letter, how is my son?
The classmate didn't hold back or told her that your son was waiting not far away.
Her mother was busy letting her classmates take her to see her son, and at that moment, she ran out anxiously to see her son who had not been seen for a long time, and she rushed up and held him in her arms and cried very wronged.
It is painful for children to think of their mothers but understand things, because they do not dare to see their mothers who miss day and night because they take into account the feelings of grandparents and even their fathers.
And what mother doesn't want to see her child? Even if she leaves the heart, she is still on the child. Sometimes because she does not have the ability to give her child a good life, the mother can only leave alone, but she also has to bear the insult of "fiercely not wanting the child". There are always examples of this in life.
Then again, a man who refuses to see a child because he dislikes his ex-wife for her low level of education is cruel to both the child and the child's mother.
Although the child is small, he is thoughtful, even if the parents are separated, they cannot deprive each other of their love for the child because they do not like each other. In fact, if it is really for the good of the child, it is best to temporarily put aside the previous grudge between the two people, and do not attach the previous love and hatred of the husband and wife to the child, so as to blackmail the other party to achieve their own goals.
As a parent, divorce has caused harm to the child, so even separated parents should try to create a harmonious environment for the child, so that he can grow up healthily surrounded by father's love and maternal love.