Wen 丨 Fish Daddy
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On the way to promote parent-child reading, one of the most common problems I encountered was: "Why does the child always need me to read to him, and he doesn't read it himself!" When will children be able to read independently on their own? ”
Sometimes when I ask, I realize that some children are just four years old and are still in kindergarten.
Some children are eight years old and attend elementary school.
Before answering this question, I would like to talk about the age of the child.
Because age is sometimes not an absolute reference.
Because some children begin to contact parent-child reading when they are more than 1 year old.
Then he will be 6 years old and have 5 years of reading age.
Some children do not begin to contact parent-child reading until the age of 5.
Then he was 6 years old, in fact, only 1 year old.
In this way, children of the same age will have greatly different reading ability, and even worlds of difference.
For example, some children can hold a book and read quietly for more than half an hour.
Some children, on the other hand, can't stay for a minute and can't be quiet.
So, before the child embarks on independent reading.
We need to reflect on how many books children have been exposed to, and how many days of parent-child reading time have been added up?
Do you know?
Many problems were sown a long time ago.
It can't be solved for a while.
There are also mothers who ask me that a ten-year-old child has never loved to read, only likes to play with mobile phones, is there any way to make children fall in love with reading?
My answer is, really sorry, there is no good way for children to fall in love with reading all at once.
Because what have you been doing over the past decade?
Why don't you cultivate your child's reading habits?
If at 6 months you give your child a rattle and a brightly colored cloth book.
He will not refuse, but will extend his small hand to touch like every child.
Don't think it's a waste of time to read to children in infancy.
Indeed, children at this stage, they still can't understand what you mean by what you say.
However, parents who have actually read books to infants and toddlers will find out.
When we make a sound, their eyes sometimes open wide.
They can't understand every word, but the language and understanding areas within their brains are already quietly changing.
It was as if the first new shoots of a willow tree were still bare from a distance, but a large patch of green was already brewing.
I always remember when Little Fish was half a year old, when I read him a book.
He grabbed it and stuffed it into his mouth.
I grabbed it and kept saying to him, "This is a book, can't eat it, can't eat it!" ”
Seeing my anxious look, he was stunned for a moment, then giggled.
It was between you and me that he kept him in touch with interesting books.
He doesn't listen to stories, so I read pictures with him.
Those bright colors, vivid pictures of cars or animals, there is always a page that moves him.
When you buy toys for your child, you also buy books for your child.
Arrange the time to play with the child, and there are also arrangements for parent-child reading.
By the time you are two years old, your child will basically fall in love with reading.
By the age of 6, you will be able to read some simple picture books independently.
By the age of 8-10, you can basically read more profound books independently, and you will have your own opinions and ideas.
But if you do nothing, the child's reading world will be blank.
So in the end the child can't keep up with the reading, who is to blame?
So, you can see that the problem was actually buried many years ago.
Before your child embarks on the road of independent reading, it is important to remember to start parent-child reading as soon as possible.
It can begin in infancy, and this is the first golden reading period.
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Let's talk about the two basic abilities of independent reading.
When Xiaoyu was 6 years old, his reading status was parent-child co-reading + primary independent reading.
And when I was more than 7 years old this year, I continued to take a step forward.
Why should I call it elementary independent reading.
Because the books he reads are still limited to picture books, the more complex pure text books cannot be read.
The content still needs to be selected, and some people can't understand it.
The most popular science books he turned to, such as his beloved dinosaur books, were always periodically moved from the shelves to the tatami mats of my study.
There was also the comic book, the Father and Son he had placed on his cot, and several times I had found him quietly flipping through it alone.
I started reading text books for him this year.
There are probably only a few hundred words I know at the beginning, so it still reads like a tug-of-war.
He may have found it difficult for himself, but fortunately he was interested in it and did not give up.
By now, there should be more words to know, and there is no specific measure.
So sometimes he would hold a comic book or a storybook and point to a few words in it and ask me to teach him.
As soon as I read it, before I could explain, I hurried away with the book.
And sometimes, I see that he can recognize all the words, but he can't read them.
That has nothing to do with literacy, but with comprehension.
Because some words are grouped together, they become proprietary words, and children cannot understand them.
So the mother of a child who is in elementary school told me that her child knows a lot of words, why she can't read it.
Maybe I really can't read it.
Because you only know words, but do not know how to use, how to combine, how to understand the meaning behind these combinations, sentences, paragraphs, then you can not appreciate the beauty of independent reading.
Therefore, before cultivating independent reading ability, it is necessary to help children read and improve comprehension.
When it comes to reading and literacy, there are many parents who care about whether or not to give their children reading.
Some mothers said that every time they read, when they encounter words that their children know, they excitedly point out that they will quickly tell their children when they encounter idioms, hoping that he will remember them.
But the child's reaction is to ignore it, and even to be very unhappy that the parents do it.
Because they are more concerned with the development of the story or the picture.
So I respect the child's choice and can't read when reading, unless he asks questions on his own initiative.
Then we prepare a time for literacy individually.
Every Wednesday afternoon, I would let the little fish read aloud some simple sentences, paragraphs, and little stories.
Let him consolidate the new words he knows, let him see the use of words.
And more time is usually we play a lot of language games or read outside.
These small fragments of life accumulate a lot and are also very effective.
And the ability to understand?
In general, reading comprehension is often proportional to the amount of reading a person has read.
It is tempered by repeated reading.
In addition, communicate with children more often on a daily basis and listen carefully to their questions when reading.
Then discuss together.
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In the process of the child's reading ability to grow.
Parents will witness that their children's interests are constantly changing.
As their insights and horizons increase, the books they read need to adjust accordingly.
For example, before the age of 3, many books were selected by me.
But now, he himself would pick up books on the shelves and bring them to us to talk about.
He went from the first flip book to picture book story, to popular science story, comic book story, and short fairy tale.
Step by step, open up the world of reading.
And you will find that when you are two or three years old, your child will like a certain book, and then you will ask you to tell him several times a day.
At that time, the little fish liked a book of "Ah Woo Jun", which told the story of eating and eating.
He especially enjoys seeing those delicacies, as well as adventurous experiences, hilarious plots.
So every day I asked him to tell him, and finally I could recite it.
And now, he will not be satisfied with some simple stories.
Sometimes after listening to a book or a story, it is still not finished.
So sometimes I have to talk to him a little more before going to bed.
And I also prepared a wealth of books for him at home, so that he could reach out.
So much so that a friend who came to my house said that our house was a small library.
Books were piled up everywhere.
Of course, the more books to read for children, the better.
It's better books a little more good.
How to pick the right good book for the child is very important for cultivating the child's interest in reading and reading ability.
Don't think that if your child doesn't like to read some books, you don't think that your child doesn't like to read.
Take me reading "My Daddy" and "Guess How Much I Love You" with the little fish.
When I was more than 1 year old, I took the book "My Daddy" and excitedly handed it to him, and he didn't pay any attention at all.
It makes me sad, you see, this is my dad, he's great.
The child does not care, but looks at me twice, his father is me, what is the father in the book? He still couldn't understand.
So I put the book away.
Then when he was more than two years old, he once saw the book from the bookcase, and he became interested and thought that the metaphor in it was funny.
Dad was as powerful as a gorilla and swam as fast as a fish.
He read the book for days.
And "Guess How Much I Love You", this book many mothers introduce their children to their children when they are one or two years old.
I think this can show my love for you and help children understand love.
But to say love to a one- or two-year-old child is to play the piano to a cow.
So that's when I said affectionately to the little guy I love you.
He didn't care, he thought it was interesting for the big rabbit to jump and jump.
Then I jumped on the bed and imitated the big rabbit, and he imitated the little rabbit.
No one cares where this love comes from.
But now that I recall, I think that when parents and children read, the time of bouncing around with little fish is the time of love.
So a mother said, "Why doesn't my two-year-old son read this book Guess How Much I Love You?" ”
It's okay, you just didn't find the right time.
We don't have to carry a heavy burden to read with our children.
Because they just need to enjoy watching and find happiness.
And those so-called meanings are sometimes too utilitarian and impatient for us adults.
Let a six- or seven-year-old child read this book, and it will definitely feel different.
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So, how can we choose books for our children?
Choices can be made based on the age and interests of the child.
For children aged 1-3, it is best to choose a picture book with a simple composition, brighter colors, clearer contours, and cleaner lines. The text of the book given to them should be rhythmic and catchy, the plot changes in repetition, and the image and scene are common in the baby's life.
That way they will feel that reading is safe and interesting.
At the age of 3-6, they will maintain their love for pictures, but they will also like small stories, so they can find some short, vivid storybooks, and find some picture books and storybooks according to their children's interests.
For children aged 6-8, they will have their own choices and preferences, and have the initial ability to read independently, parents just need to check the gate, put some good books where they can get, allowing them to decide when and what to read.
For children over the age of 8, they have more room to read, folk tales, celebrity biographies, classical masterpieces, detective stories, adventure novels, can be tried, parents do not obstruct, but to actively participate in the child's reading choices.
There is a saying that "opportunities are always left to those who are prepared".
So, when you want your child to become a reading-loving race, be prepared.