People love to bite their nails under what circumstances

People love to bite their nails under what circumstances

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Recently, friends have frequently complained to me that her 5-and-a-half-year-old daughter Tian Tian has a bad habit of biting her nails.

As can be seen from the photo, Tiantian's nails have been bitten very bald and short, which is obviously different from normal children.

Friends say that the child's habit has lasted for more than two years, and the fingers that bite are somewhat deformed, and sometimes even bite the flesh and bleed.

In order to let her daughter change this bad habit, the friend said that good discussion did not work, and even moved rough, but there was still no obvious effect.

After that, she also took Tian Tian to the hospital to check the trace elements, but did not find any problems, really worried about "one head two big".

Knowledge about "children love to nibble their nails"

In fact, nail bites are a bad behavior habit that occurs in children aged 3-6 years, and most children will disappear naturally with age, but a few continue into adulthood.

Therefore, there are often netizens who leave messages asking me: I am still biting my nails in my eighteens and thirties, is there anything wrong with me? This problem is not only related to physiology, but also a psychological problem.

▼ Discoveries by psychologists and foreign scientific research:

There is a study in France that aims to investigate under what circumstances adults love to bite their nails.

The results showed that 26% of people love to bite their nails when thinking about work-related matters, and the second reason is that people love to bite their nails when making decisions.

It can be seen that adults usually bite their nails when they are under greater stress, and the same is true for children.

Psychologists believe that children also have psychological stress and negative emotions.

For example, he will feel that his parents do not love him enough, the teacher talks about things that are too difficult, the moment is boring, nothing to do, which will prompt him to bite his nails to relieve and release stress.

In addition, due to the poor self-control of children, seeing other children biting their nails will also imitate out of curiosity, and over time it has become a habit.

The reasons why children aged 3-6 are more likely to bite their nails are roughly the above.

Nail gnawing is not necessarily a lack of trace elements, and solving psychological problems is the key

Once you find your child biting your nails, don't panic too much. As long as the following points are followed, the effect will be more significant than scolding.

One. Observe the state in which your child bites his nails

This is a very important premise to solve the problem, please observe that the child bites his nails after you have scolded? When writing homework? Or when you're bored?

In this way, we can understand the child's current psychological state, prescribe the right medicine, and fundamentally solve the problem.

Kojima has a saying: When you observe that your child is biting your nails, you must not scold or forcibly stop it, which will only deepen the impression of your child "biting your nails".

Perhaps the child does not bite his nails out of fear at the moment, but after repeated "reminders", he will use it as a command, and the more he wants to forget, the more he cannot forget.

At this point, the correct approach for parents is to use the distraction method to guide the child to do other things.

For example: tell stories, draw, write, play with toys, make games, etc. with children. Increasing parent-child interaction is very beneficial to sorting out children's psychological problems.

Two. Try to avoid exposing your child to people with "nail bites."

Because young children are extremely curious and imitative, if they see others have this habit, they will also want to try it, and it will be difficult to change it.

Kojima suggests: At this time, parents need to explain the disadvantages of nail biting to their children, and if necessary, they can appropriately exaggerate and aggravate the consequences, so that the child is afraid to bear and give up the idea of nail biting.

Three. The child has formed a habit that cannot be changed, and auxiliary measures can be taken

For young children, you can use the way of smearing "bitter nail water" on your fingers to let children taste bitter and unbearable, which can naturally play a role in forcing children to give up.

At the same time, parents also need to guide their children to shift their attention, engage in more outdoor activities, and make children completely forget the behavior of nail biting through things of interest.

Giving your child more love is fundamental

All in all, if the child bites his nails, do not be too nervous, which is bound to affect the child, and do not take the form of scolding and scolding.

What parents really need to do is to "ignore", first weaken the concept of "biting their nails" of their children, and then help their children vent their negative emotions and solve their pain and troubles by diverting their attention.

In order to fundamentally eliminate this kind of "finger gnawing" behavior caused by pressure, parents should give their children more patience and love, so that he is no longer anxious.

Carry out psychological counseling subtly, and slowly, you will find that this bad habit has disappeared.

(This article is aimed at children over 2 years old who have a serious phenomenon of "biting their fingers", which is not suitable for babies with "0 to 1 and a half years old" during the oral period, and this situation can be improved as long as the age increases)