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Some people fight hard for their children to get old, and some people work hard to get old for a better life, but no matter what kind of life they live, when they are old, they still hope to be old and dependent. But there are some things that only when you are really old will you understand that the difference between people and people is not money and status, but children.
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Lao Wang, the leader of the unit, was a very enterprising person when he was young, and he was focused on work, and the things in the family were basically taken care of by his wife, and the children were never managed. The son was very competitive from an early age, his academic performance was very good, and he was later admitted to a good university.
However, after his son graduated from college, Lao Wang's wife died of illness. The son found a job, married a daughter-in-law, had children, and was said to be a happy family. However, the most unacceptable thing for Lao Wang was that his son was not filial to himself.
Since the daughter-in-law gave birth to the child, she has lived in her own mother's house, asking her mother to help with the child, and it is difficult for Lao Wang to see her grandson.
Lao Wang has something to call his son, and his son will come back, but the two of them can't go together as long as they talk. Dad is used to being a leader, always thinking of arranging his son's career and life. As soon as the son heard his father "play official", he would pat his ass and leave.
Later, Lao Wang married an old partner, which was good, and even his son did not show his face. At the Time of the New Year, Lao Wang invited his son's family to come to his side for the festival, and said that he missed his son and grandson.
The son said to him: "When I was young, I also wanted to have my father's company, but my father said that work was very busy and important, and he never participated in any activities at my school." Now, you remember to be close to me, but I am also very busy at work and have no time to accompany you. ”
Lao Wang's son was not filial piety, and it was also spread among neighbors. The son's family rarely came back, and as Lao Wang himself said, "All year round, the melon seed skin has never seen my son buy one back." Later, Lao Wang fell ill, and then his wife and children left, and his son hired a nanny to take care of him, and he rarely showed up.
Parents and children, should be the closest people, I raised you to grow up, you accompanied me to grow old. However, if we deviate when educating our children, or if we spend too little time with our children and do not establish a deep emotional foundation, it is difficult for us to be filial to our children when we are old.
On the contrary, Lao Li, who also lived in a family home, was a subordinate of Lao Wang, and his officials were not as big as Lao Wang's, and his money was not as much as Lao Wang's, and he had to listen to his dispatches all his life' work. However, people's later life can be said to be a street hanging Lao Wang.
Old Li's two daughters, today the eldest daughter sent delicious food, tomorrow the younger daughter bought new clothes, the old two under the filial piety of the daughter, every day is full of smiles.
In the old age, people fight for children. Children are not filial piety, every day to provoke parents to be angry, you are with the taste of mountains and treasures and seafood to eat is not sweet. Children are filial piety, children and grandchildren are full of halls, the elderly are coarse tea and light rice, and every day is also happy.
Therefore, when we are young, we all say that making money is to support children, in fact, educating children well, spending more time with children, and teaching a filial child is the biggest guarantee for our later life.
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"At the beginning of man, nature is good" Children are a blank piece of paper, and if you want your children to be filial piety, you must use your heart to educate and guide your children.
From an early age, guide children to learn to share, not to be selfish people, and let children grow up to be more filial piety.
Parents are very fond of their children, there are good food, fun, let the child enjoy alone. In fact, such an approach is not very good. It will make the child become very selfish, thinking that the parents should pay for it. The child is selfish, and when the parents are old, he will not be grateful and filial to the parents, and will complain that they are a burden.
We should teach children to share from an early age, there are beautiful things, and family sharing together is the happiest. When children get used to sharing with their parents, they will also learn to be filial to their parents.
Cultivate children's independent ability, children can appreciate the parents' difficulties.
Parents who dot on their children often raise a child who is not filial piety. Some parents are reluctant to let their children do things, take care of their children meticulously, and as a result, children think that clothes should be clean, meals will be automatically placed on the table, and they will not appreciate how difficult the process of parental labor is, and they will not be grateful for the parenting grace of their parents.
We should cultivate children from an early age to be self-reliant and self-reliant, let their own things be solved by themselves, when children experience the difficulty of doing things, but also experience the hardships of parents.
Exercise the child's self-care ability, cultivate the habit of helping parents do housework, take the child to participate in labor, the child's hands-on ability is strong, and he can become a good child who is filial piety.
Spend more time with your children and establish deep feelings with your children in order to truly "rely on the old age".
Children honor their parents, on the one hand, out of a sense of responsibility, more out of the feelings between themselves and their parents. After some children grow up, we find that he is a "white-eyed wolf" and is unwilling to be with his parents, but looking back at his growth process, it may be that parents have less companionship with their children, and there is no intimate parent-child relationship at all.
Blood does not necessarily mean deep feelings, companionship, care, care, only we have paid time, affection and energy, in order to harvest the love and respect of children for their parents.
In a harmonious family, parents and children can reap happiness, do you think?
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