Normally speaking, men and women are in love, and after the relationship is stable, they should have a relationship with each other.
They should make public their relationship, meet their parents, and discuss the marriage together.
That is, from falling in love, directly transitioning to marriage, so that each other really becomes a family.
Most of the time, when each other has a certain age, get along relatively well, and have been together for a while, naturally, men will put this matter on the agenda and will not let women worry.
But there are always some moments, even if they have talked to each other for a long time, men still just keep silent.
I won't mention it, and when you mention it to him, he will procrastinate in all kinds, completely looking like he doesn't want to get married.
When a man does this to you, always pushing three or four obstacles, no matter what he says, in fact, it is just an excuse, the reason behind it, has never been so simple.
There is a family, and it is just cheating on you all the time.
A friend, with a man for two years, she talked about marriage many times, and the other party shirked in various ways.
Later, she became pregnant, thinking that this time the other party would definitely marry her, but the man still found all kinds of excuses, just asking her not to keep the child, and then she ignored it and gave birth to the child.
She thought that with a child, the other party would be soft-hearted and compromised, but it turned out that the other party had actually been married.
In the relationship, there are really a lot of men, he is obviously married, but he will still mess around outside, tell you that he is single, talk to you about love, and look how much he likes you.
For months, or even years, he will maintain a romantic relationship with you, as if the only person he loves is you, in fact, in addition to you, he has a family.
A man who has already been married, since he is already married, then of course he has no way to marry you again.
He can hide his wife from you and your own married identity, but he has no way to give you an identity after all, and there is no way to really promise you in the matter of marriage.
Such a man, at first, is all kinds of concealment, and then he will say that he will divorce, but basically, he will not, and he will not be a good person.
Just playing, never thinking about marrying you.
It is reasonable to say that two people become lovers, it should be because they have love in their hearts and like each other.
In real life, even if some people don't love you and don't like you at all, they can still talk about love with you, and even say a lot of love words to you, pretending to like you very much.
Pretend to be affectionate, but just to make you believe in him, to make you willing to be with him, and to be especially good to him.
He can pretend to like you and spend some time with you, but in his heart, he actually has no special feelings for you, and he has not thought of continuing with you for a long time.
Since he didn't think about being serious from the beginning, didn't think about how long he wanted to be with you, and he was just thinking about leaving while you were planning for the future, then it was normal that he didn't want to marry you.
Many times, playing is playing, getting married is getting married, these are two different things, and men are often very clearly divided.
If it is just play, he can just find someone at random, not so exquisite, but if it is married, he will consider a lot, and will not casually catch a person, but will be particularly cautious.
This is not the era that, in love, you must get married, many people only talk about love, will not say marriage at all, after playing enough, once you feel bound, you will only choose to leave directly.
Not content with this, I want to see other opportunities.
It's also possible that a man really likes you when he first starts out with you.
In the past years, he also considered marrying you and going to the road ahead together.
It's just that in your relationship, gradually, he becomes less like you, and no longer feels how suitable you are, and his state of mind has begun to change, and he wants to find a better person.
When a man's heart is no longer firm for you, and he is eager to meet better people in all aspects, even if he is still by your side at the moment, he will become a heartbroken and begin to look for other opportunities to see if there is more heart for him and better conditions.
For marriage, it is never only women who will be more realistic, men will also, he will also hope that men have better family, better work, better looks, more gentle personality, etc.
But whenever he feels that he still has a chance to meet better, he will not be willing to enter into marriage with you and will drag you first.
Once one day, let him really meet such a person, he will soon choose to break up with you, and then without turning his head, he will only hurry to marry that person and leave you alone.
Even if he is not so lucky and does not meet such a person, he will not accept it, really wants to marry you, wants to live well with you, he will always be very unwilling, very reluctant, and not very good to you.
In life, if you meet a man who is reluctant to marry you, you'd better not waste time with him all the time.
He doesn't want to marry you now, and probably won't in the future.
Even if he can only marry you out of helplessness in the future, he will not be very good to you.
The person who does not want to marry you, no matter what reason he finds and how nice he sounds, he is actually just consuming your feelings, wasting your youth, and delaying your sincerity.
Sooner or later, he will only choose to leave you, and you will only have no choice but to leave.
Instead of always taking chances and constantly investing in him, you should see the reality as soon as possible and stop the loss in time.
The person who really likes you, wants to have a future with you, who can give you a future, who doesn't keep dragging you along, who doesn't want to marry you all the time, who just makes you wait, he just doesn't want to marry you so much, and he doesn't even think about marrying you.
Text/Tan Meng
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