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Very chilling! Affected by the impact of foreign bad culture, some children believe that "their parents are not grateful to themselves" after becoming adults. This makes many domestic parents unable to accept, parents with hard work to raise their children, children not only do not appreciate Dade, but also use the "parents' unengiving theory" to fight against themselves, it is simply a big filial piety.
After studying abroad for three years, female college students called and joked: Dad, I really don't owe you anything!
A long-lost friend who had not been in touch for a long time suddenly called and cried bitterly: I have raised a "white-eyed wolf"! It turned out that he owed a lot of money in order to send his daughter abroad to study, and only paid off 500,000 foreign debts a few years ago.
But at present, his business is struggling, and his life is very stressful. But what made him even more sad was that when he called his daughter who was studying abroad and spat on her, her daughter jokingly said, "Dad, I really don't owe you anything!" Don't feel like you're all for me. ”
It is such a sentence that breaks a big man, depressed for a long time, and the heart is difficult to understand. The friend said that his daughter had always been a big grinning personality, and he may have said this without a heart, but he still couldn't accept it. Because when my daughter was a child, there was such a mantra: "My parents voluntarily gave birth to me, and it is only natural to be good to me." ”
Moreover, after my daughter studied abroad, it was almost as if she had broken off relations with her family. He doesn't make a phone call to home for a year, and his father takes the initiative to make money every month and never owes his daughter living expenses. Even if the money is tight, the father will transfer 20,000 yuan to his daughter.
In fact, to put it bluntly, the girl's childhood mantra has already explained everything. When the girl is young, she believes that her parents gave birth to her voluntarily, and that the contribution to the child is also voluntary. Therefore, the results should also be borne voluntarily by parents, rather than complaining to their children and spitting out the bitter water of life. Even if the father is tired, he should not complain to his children.
Even if the father does not hesitate to take the debt in order to send his daughter to study abroad, in the eyes of the daughter, it is only the voluntary behavior of the father, still has nothing to do with the child, she does not need guilt at all, and she does not have to repay the father.
This girl's thoughts and behaviors have revealed a sense of "filial piety" since she was a child. In particular, the sentence "Parents are naturally good to me" simply cut off the affection of parents to their children, and there is no feeling of family love and love, and they are very much.
When children are young, they always say some "filial piety" mantra, which is very dangerous. When children grow up, they are more likely to be unfilial to their parents.
Children who grow up to be unfilial often say this mantra: "Parents are good to me" is taken for granted
Qian Zhongshu said, "Thought is a silent language." Children whose parents have no gratitude and regard these five words as truth have problems in their thinking, and after putting them into action, it is naturally difficult to become a great filial piety.
In the hearts of such children, parents should do whatever they want, and their mantra is: "Parents are good to me, they are taken for granted!" "My parents gave birth to me, they should be good to me", "My parents gave birth to me, I don't have a choice, it is I who confess my fate", "Who rarely wants parents like you?" ”
These are the words of a child who has no filial piety in his heart and often hangs on his lips. If your children often love to talk, then parents should pay attention to it and be sure to cultivate their children's filial piety quickly. Don't wait for the child to grow up and become an unfilial son, and then reverse the child's thoughts and behaviors, it is too late.
Some educators say it well: "Filial piety is a habit that must be cultivated from an early age, and the habit of filial piety of children must be cultivated as soon as possible." Even if parents can't set rules and regulations for their children and use rigid dogmatic rules to constrain children from filial piety, they must also root filial piety in the child's heart to avoid children becoming "unfilial children" in adulthood.
Filial piety is a habit that must be cultivated from a young age
There is a mother who has done a good job in cultivating filial piety for her children, which is worth learning. The mother pretended to ask her daughter casually: "Mother play with you, play so hard, in the future I am old, will you be filial to me?" ”
The daughter was curious and asked her mother, "What is filial piety?" "Your mother told her daughter that filial piety is when you were a child, and your mother washed and cooked for you and played with you. Well, when your mother is old and sick, you should do the same. For example, just like your mother did to your grandmother, give her money to spend on a monthly basis, spend regularly with her, and don't leave her alone.
The daughter didn't even think about it, nodded fiercely, and took the initiative to promise her mother that she would beat her back and rub her shoulders every weekend.
This is a good example of education, unconsciously, to pass on the important concept of gratitude and filial piety to the children. At the same time, he also made demands on his daughter that the child must be grateful and must be filial piety. Moreover, the daughter is also very powerful, promising to give her mother a regular pat on the back and give back to her mother's love.
In fact, it is not difficult to cultivate children's filial piety and gratitude, so that children can inherit filial piety, the difficulty is that some parents have not done it, and they do not feel that their children will not be filial piety in the future. Even, in the hearts of these parents, they always firmly believe that parents have kindness to their children, and children should repay their parents.
Truly intelligent parents will not ignore their children's filial piety education, and they will not expect their children to be a "saint" without training, and have a heart that is particularly grateful to their parents.
Therefore, if you also expect that your children will be a big filial piety in the future, and do not put "parents are good to me for granted" such words on your lips, you must follow the above mother's practice, try to cultivate the filial piety of your children, and stop raising children naturally.
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