German psychologists once surveyed and compared the birth orders of 20,000 people and found that the first child born had an iq advantage over younger siblings.
When there are more only children, parents often compare their own children with "other people's children". But in multi-child families, brothers and sisters are also compared to each other.
Who is taller than whom, who looks better than which child, and the most compared is often how to learn, that is, the gap in IQ.
Sugar Mom's most commonly heard saying is that the old man is stupid, the old man is the second fine, is this really the case? It may not be the same as everyone guessed.
The boss, who looks a bit silly, is actually more powerful
There are many children in Little Candy's class, all of whom grew up in two-child families, and parents often discuss the problem of second children together.
Some parents who have only given birth to one baby will ask everyone, is the second child more refined than the first child, and the IQ is also higher? As a result, the answers of the parents of the second child are overwhelmingly negative.
Speaking of the word jing, Erbao does seem to have a higher emotional intelligence than Dabao, and usually has many ghost ideas, while Dabao looks a bit embarrassed.
But when it comes to the issue of IQ, parents feel that Dabao has a higher IQ and better academic performance than Erbao, compared with the second child.
In other words, some second-born children look clever, but they also have elements of "playing smart". The big treasure in the family is low-key in appearance, but he is a child who speaks with strength.
In the eyes of outsiders, they are all stupid, in fact, the boss is more powerful. This is not only the experience of parents, but also the conclusion reached through surveys and experiments that the level of children's IQ may be related to birth order.
Which is smarter, the first born child or the child born later?
The CHILD's IQ is randomly inherited from the parents' IQ, and in several children of the same father and mother, there will be a gap in IQ, and the birth order is one of the factors affecting IQ.
Dutch psychologists have tracked and surveyed 400,000 people. He found that under the premise that the family's economic level and class level were similar, the earlier the child was born, the higher the IQ.
This conclusion was later named "mental decay phenomenon", that is to say, the eldest in the family is often the child with the highest IQ, the second and third elders look fine, but the intelligence level may not necessarily exceed the boss.
Sugar Mom has seen many examples of this, not only among the classmates of little candy, there will be this situation. My eldest uncle and second uncle's generation, the person who learned the best in the family is often the eldest.
In fact, the boss is not really stupid, they will weigh the pros and cons, willing to give in and suffer losses, which is just another kind of shrewd performance. Not only will outsiders mistakenly think that the second child has a higher IQ, but many parents also guess wrong.
Why are children born first smarter? The impact of these factors is greater
Why does birth order affect a child's IQ in the same family? The following factors cannot be ignored.
1) Children who have been pampered alone are really different
Everyone says that after the second eldest is born, the love of Dabao is divided, and the parents may also be partial to the younger children in the family, in fact, the eldest is really spoiled.
When the eldest is born, although the parents are novices, all their energy will be invested in this child. And it is precisely because of the book that the boss will get more comprehensive care and better intellectual development.
2) The boss has "role model baggage"
After the birth of the second and third children, the old nature in the family became a role model for younger siblings. Parents will unconsciously use the advantages of Dabao to motivate younger children, which makes Dabao have more exemplary baggage in his heart.
Especially in terms of academic performance, they who already have an intellectual advantage will work harder and do not want to be surpassed by their younger siblings. The double blessings of congenital and acquired make Dabao a child with a higher IQ in the family.
3) The sense of responsibility on Dabao
The older generation often said that the eldest sister is like the mother, and the eldest son is like the father. In the past, in some families, if only one person could continue to study, the eldest would often give up studying and go to work to earn money for younger siblings.
It's not that they don't have a mind to read, but they take the opportunity to let him out. Therefore, although they are not the most educated of their siblings, it does not mean that they have the lowest IQ.
The sense of responsibility in the boss will also stimulate the potential of his heart, compared to the second treasure, the boss is the role of taking care of others, there are more things to consider, and the IQ is naturally higher.
However, this advantage of higher IQ of the boss may also be disrupted in some families. In the end, not only did the boss's intelligence not develop more fully, but the second treasure did not see progress.
When parents educate multiple children, only the correct guidance will make Dabao have a high IQ and other children will be smarter.
The birth order may affect a child's IQ, but the guidance of the day after tomorrow is more important
For parents, it is better for all children to be smart. Not only to protect the advantages of the boss, but also not to let the younger brothers and sisters lag too far behind, we must pay attention to the following things.
Let each child live out their own lives. Brothers and sisters are not replicas of each other. Even if the boss is excellent, it does not mean that the second and third can re-walk his path.
In families with multiple children, parents should cultivate each child's strengths and personality to develop on a different path. Let their intelligence be used in their own areas of expertise, and they will have more gains.
Eccentricity will only hurt two children. Everyone says that you can't be biased towards the second eldest in the family, in fact, the reverse is the same.
The favored child is often accustomed to enjoyment, less action and thinking, etc., which is necessarily unhelpful to intellectual development.
And the child who was snubbed, the emotions are often in sadness and grievances, whether he is the eldest or the second, it is not good for the acquired intellectual development.
Candy Mother's Heart:
The order of children's birth has an impact on IQ, which is an innate factor, but also lies in the education and cultivation of parents, and the above small things cannot be ignored.
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