Some people say: "Falling in love is like flying a kite, only by doing it freely, it is more likely to harvest good results." ”
In today's society, many people like to treat feelings as a child's play, and the reasons for breaking up are more bizarre than one.
Compared with men, women tend to be sad for a long time after being broken up, and in case they have children, there will be more trouble in the follow-up.
So in a relationship, should you develop too fast with your boyfriend?
In fact, there is no fixed answer to this question, because people who are not suitable, whether they develop fast or slowly, the final outcome is difficult to complete.
Just want to grasp the initiative in love, reduce the chance of being sad, there are still ways, roughly from the following three points:
1, let the other party have a sense of crisis
Friend Xiaoqi is a person who does not like to dress up himself, after making a boyfriend, he only worked hard for a while, and then every time he saw her, he was in a state of facing the sky, sometimes his face was not washed, and the management image was not as important as playing the game for Xiaoqi.
In fact, Xiao Qi's figure is very good, but her sense of fashion is really worrying, and she always likes to wear some clothes that make people look weird. Of course, she herself is happy, and others are not good at saying anything.
Xiao Qi's boyfriend, is beautiful and smooth, and there are many suitors. Even with Xiao Qi, there are still more crazy suitors, and Xiao Qi, who has met several times, has not taken it seriously.
Later, Xiao Qi's feet were really dug into the wall, and I heard that the reason was that her boyfriend had taken a fancy to a beautiful woman, and every time the other party appeared, it was a bright and beautiful state, which formed a sharp contrast with Xiao Qi.
Xiao Qi's sadness for a long time, she thought that her boyfriend was very serious about herself, the two lived together, Xiao Qi's was also ready to marry each other, she didn't expect life to like to joke with her so much.
Never overestimate a man's liking for himself at any time.
Especially before getting married, showing all of themselves, men are easy to lose their freshness.
Smart women will make the boyfriend feel like a book, and every page turned will make him interested in what comes later.
Even if you are married, you can't let men feel that they have "a clear view", and learning to create a feeling of "half cover and half cover" can make the relationship between the two people last longer.
When a man realizes that his lover is a very good person, he will have a sense of crisis, and he will pay more attention to his lover, which will make them pay attention to proportions when getting along with the opposite sex, and the probability of being dug into the wall will be much smaller.
Imagine a scruffy lover, with a suitor who is always brightly dressed, it is not difficult for a man to be touched by the latter.
2, learn to "refuse", be a "tempered" person
Colleague Xiao Orange is a very good person, in the company, she has hardly lost her temper, who has any need will look for her, most likely will get the help of Xiao Orange. For example, help colleagues buy coffee, help colleagues order food, help colleagues print documents, and so on.
Even after dating a boyfriend, Little Orange treated him like a colleague. The boyfriend's request, little orange will agree to nine times out of ten.
This also makes the man become fearless, after the little orange is paid, the other party often takes money from the little orange for various reasons, the little orange has no doubts, in addition to the little orange loves each other very much, she feels that the boyfriend is also serious about herself.
Later, Xiao Orange's boyfriend did not appear for a long time, and everyone asked Xiao Orange to know that she had broken up. The reason is that the man liked him with Little Orange, and actually brought home the woman he knew outside, although Little Orange had a good temper, it did not mean that she could accept her boyfriend betraying herself.
Since then, Little Orange has become much more "indifferent", of course, only relative to the previous attitude. Maybe she also knows that sometimes, treating others wholeheartedly does not necessarily mean thanking them.
When it comes to falling in love, two people don't know each other very well. Most of the time, it is a tentative attitude to touch the bottom line of the other party.
At this time, if the girl is too conniving with her boyfriend, she will let the other party feel that the girlfriend is very good to "pinch", and even disrespect the girlfriend.
So it's important to learn to reject appropriately, and to be a "temperamental" person can make your boyfriend pay more attention to himself.
In life, there are some men, the reason for breaking up is that the girlfriend is too well-behaved, which makes them unable to have a strong desire to conquer, which shows that men cannot be "used to".
Many girls like to rely on their boyfriends when they are in love, say everything to each other, do not know how to maintain a "sense of mystery", in fact, this is not very good, in case the other party is not serious, and have penetrated the temperament of the girlfriend, girls are somewhat dangerous.
3. Express your ideas accurately
Recently, I believe that many friends have watched the drama "Two Conjectures of Marriage", and the acting skills of the male and female protagonists are very good, but the plot is really bad.
Shen Mingbao and Yang Zheng belong to the flash marriage, before marriage, Shen Mingbao is a female elite in the workplace, after marriage, she became a housewife, and the distance between the two is constantly widening.
During pregnancy, Shen Mingbao was very emotionally unstable, and anxiety often accompanied her. On the other hand, her husband Yang Zheng is proud of the spring breeze in the workplace, and he is still a little ambiguous with other women.
Giving birth to waiting for delivery, Shen Mingbao was alone in the operating room.
Disappointment continued to accumulate in his heart, and finally, Shen Mingbao decided to divorce Yang. At this time, Shen Mingbao found that he had actually reached such a point.
Flash marriage is not too common in recent years, perhaps more people who recognize reality, everyone knows that the probability of a beautiful love story is too small.
The process of two people from falling in love to getting married is a must, which can make two people understand each other more deeply.
As a girl, during the love period, you must accurately express your thoughts, so that you will not be too passive after marriage.
For example, the matter of having children, in the end, whether it will give up the career for the sake of children and families, this is very important, during the relationship should be considered, and the boyfriend to make it clear. After the other party knows the lover's thoughts, he will be more cautious about what he does.
Don't say anything from your boyfriend, you will respond in a vacuum, and you are likely to regret it later. During a relationship, it's important to set your own principles.
When a man really likes a person, he will definitely understand the other person, rather than forcing the lover to make a decision after marriage. Without enough emotional foundation, it is very unfortunate to rush into marriage.
epilogue:
Many women in love, will feel that they can not keep up with the speed of their boyfriends, resulting in a sense of panic.
In fact, it is not difficult to grasp the initiative, as long as the above three points are done well, the probability of injury will be greatly reduced.
As for the development of the relationship, there are certain pros and cons, and for women, it is very important to live soberly.
In fact, men love themselves or not, from the details of the two people between the details can be found, if they have a resistance to some of the boyfriend's words, most of them are their own reasons telling themselves that they should not continue to move forward.
Finding the source of the problem to solve it is also to avoid adding constraints to the relationship between couples and avoiding greater conflicts in the future.
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