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After having children. Junjun was very tired, but he felt very relieved. Because she found that her husband became self-motivated, going out early every day, and often returning home at night after the children fell asleep.
The husband told Junjun that after having children, he felt that the burden on his body was heavy, and he had to work hard to earn money and provide good living conditions for the child and her. Junjun was touched by her husband's self-motivated and considerate, and took on the hard work of taking care of the children and cleaning up the house alone, never complaining to him, afraid of affecting his work.
Once, when I happened to walk my baby in the park, I happened to run into the wife of my husband's colleague. The two chatted, and Jun Jun said that now their department is busy, working overtime every day, and it is not easy to take the baby alone. Another mother was very surprised and said: "I didn't hear my husband say that he was busy at work recently and needed to work overtime, and his husband left work on time every day, cooking at home with children." "After Junjun listened, the whole person was not good.
When her husband said overtime the next night, Jun Jun took the child to her husband's office, and she was very chilled by the scene she saw. What overtime? A few big bosses were playing games in the office. Junjun's husband was also stunned when he saw her. Junjun suddenly understood that he had worked harder for the sake of the child, just to avoid the responsibility of taking the child.
After having children, children seem to only trap their mothers, and men have many reasons to avoid overtime
After having children, the child seems to only trap the mother, and the mother's life begins to revolve around the child, and there is no longer the freedom and ease of the past. And many men's lives are not affected at all, they should go to work, and they should eat, drink and have fun with their friends after work. Even in order to reduce family conflicts, overtime can be used as an excuse.
Mom was so busy at home that she couldn't get her feet on the ground and was exhausted. Men work overtime in the company, sniff melon seeds, play games, brush web pages, and stay up for time. Playing and playing to see the time, this point the wife and children should have been asleep, and then the computer was turned off to go home, no need to do housework when they got home, no need to coax the children, no need to look at the wife's face, no need to listen to her nagging, no need to deal with the chicken and garlic skin at home, it was really beautiful.
Many men also know that taking children to do housework is more tiring and annoying than going to work. So they evaded responsibility and let mom take care of all the affairs of the family. Many moms are disappointed in their partners, in the life in front of them, their lives and mentalities are terrible, and then they become nagging and negative energy, and they become complaining and complaining. It's unreliable and irresponsible men who turn them into this. But he found an excuse for some men, and he couldn't stand the face and nagging of his wife at home, so he could only hide in the company.
Suddenly I remembered a sentence after marriage, both men and women want to have a safe haven, and they all want to avoid who is the harbor.
Many men seem to be relaxed for a while, and sooner or later they will regret it
Middle-aged people are not relaxed, through overtime to escape family responsibilities, it seems to win their own private space, but his relationship and feelings with his wife and children, in the daily idleness gradually faded, and finally wait until retirement to participate in the can not participate, because he does not know anything about his home.
What kind of life will have to bear what responsibilities and pressures, and the missing parts will one day need to be compensated by themselves. Planting melons to get melons, planting beans to get beans, everything is cause and effect.
[Topic Discussion: Do you have such a man around you? 】
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